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Pretty sure You have both in Your neighborhood. ❤️

That's a good idea, i was thinking of just donating mine to the salvation army.

To me it feels about how it looks, very textured butt not rough. That sort of thing is so individual? i won't typically buy expensive stuff like Bad Dragon because i know my toys end up on the island of misfit toys... it's not the toys, i just do not get off on self penetration. But in my opinion, this is just as good as a BD toy.

one of these, got it to try the texture 🙂 [think before following links] https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BK8X4V2L?psc=1&ref=ppx_yo2ov_dt_b_product_details

Thank you @Shotsfired. i'm guilty of some of this stuff, long profiles especially. i often go back and edit, parse it down, but then it grows again. i reason that i'm trying to attract someone who is interested in the things i put out there, but that's not going to happen if they don't read it because it's a ponderous tome lol. If we try and use a profile to mimic IRL, how often do people on the street try and engage based on a long speech? Typically, we are attracted a thing they say, or the way they look, or a quick impression, not because we just finished reading their autobiography. Lots of great stuff, thanks again for your salient post.

So i bought an IPL device. After reading lots of reviews, i got a "Ulike" [think before following links] https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09BN5GMRL?psc=1&ref=ppx_yo2ov_dt_b_product_details. i've been using it a couple of weeks now, about 3x a week and am already noticing a difference in regrowth. my FB likes smooth, so that was all it took for me. Since He's pretty much the closest thing i have to a regular relationship with a Man, He's my motivation relationally. He seems to really like me this way a lot more. Since removing the hair prior to getting this a few weeks ago, His fucking has become more intense, primal, He's been seriously pounding the fuck out of me the last couple of weeks and leaves me limp and gaping when He is sated. i love that conquered, possessed feeling, so any relationship to being smooth... i'm in lol.

i love You for this. i do love the look and feel of being hairless in my pubic areas. To me it both looks and feels 'bottom' (and sub). But i wanna please the Man i am with, so it's i can do either. It's not like my being bottom only... i can't choose against that, it just doesn't work for me and denies too many essential things in me. But pubic hair? Sorta border. That said, when the Man i am with wants me smooth, it has a far more powerful and affirming effect that Him wanting me to be hairy has. Go figure? In my ideal fantasy world, i would have a Man Who wants/desires me in such a way that i give Him my heart and soul. To me, things like You describe, Him purposely having control in things like my grooming, or opening and molding my hole, owning and controlling my sexual parts... are all part of fucking/mind fuck that makes a relationship/dynamic deeper and more holistic... so, love seeing this IRL.

Been awhile since i've read this thread, hadn't seen half of it prior to it going dormant. To me a bully is at the opposite end of the spectrum from a Man. As i see it, a bully uses things like force and meanness to compensate for their lack of substance, strength and maturity. To me the claims of not valuing the 'object' of their purported derision contradict their pursuit of the the very ones they claim to not value. That they need/want to so devalue another, or be with those who devalue their self, to me, underlines their own lack of self worth. How strong and worthy is the person who needs/wants a 'worthless object' in order to perceive their own value? To me, the Man Who can Dominate and evoke the desire to submit from a person who is not easy but complex, not weak but strong, not stupid but intelligent, is a Man with a capital M. Knowing how to harvest the perfect fruit at the top of the tree is a lot more accomplished and demonstrative of substance and accomplishment than scavenging for the fruit fallen to the ground and in a state of decay. To me what distinguishes an Alpha Human from say an alpha dog, is the added qualities of things like intelligence, caring, compassion. i guess using brute force can work if all you aspire to be is an animal, but it doesn't strike me as a significant accomplishment for a person.

About 10 minutes ago. i feel like a rag doll. my ongoing Sweet FB. He is so fucking built, like every muscle in His body stands out, His arms are almost the size of my legs and the definition on them is so detailed? All that to say, He's an incredible force of nature and i don't know where He gets His marathon stamina. After sucking Him for about 15 minutes, He relentlessly pounded my hole for about 30 minutes. "Pounding" is an inadequate word. i feel so opened and sloppy, i feel like i just took five Cocks with five massive loads. i literally (involuntarily) whimpered half the time and couldn't keep from blurting how much i love Him (jesus, i wonder what He must think?). He obviously likes His power and effect on me, especially while He is fucking me... He verbally expresses affection and pleasure more and more while fucking me, and i wonder if He is maybe a little embarrassed after? idk, but the more He fucks me, the more often He calls and wants more it seems. He's not a talker... but actions speak louder than words in His case. Damn, i have a concrete slab to pour today, not sure i should go to Home Depot in this condition lol, gotta get myself together. i'm a fortunate and grateful guy.

About 15 minutes ago. i needed it so bad, it had been a week. my awesome FB. He kept calling and i'd be at work, so we kept missing each other. i've gotten to this place where the only orgasm i really want is the One a Man has inside of me. i've had that kind of psychological desire for awhile now, but usually cannot stand the tension between random breedings and end up making myself come. It always disappoints me, such a let down because i really want that connection with a Man getting pleasure with me and releasing that into me as an orgasm and seed. Too weird? lol, i find it very fulfilling. i was practically begging for Him when He got here. He had just gotten off work and lately He loves to get sucked before He fucks and breeds me. i get it, i totally get into the zone sucking Him, He so obviously enjoys it, it drives me wild and i get intense, our lust feeds off each other. So i sucked and licked Him for some time till He said He wanted to fuck me. And Damn. He Fucked me hard the whole time. my hole is blasted open. i would tighten around His Cock, and it was like He was trying to wear me out so i couldn't squeeze His Cock with my hole, and finally i just had the proverbial wrecked hole. god i feel good.

Not too common in my experience. But i think the whole sexual spectrum is infinitely complex... and if we are alive, we are fluid. Personally, i don't even wanna rim a guy because any form of penetration feels 'top' to me, and with my emotional wiring, being bottom and sub are wired together. But that is individual, because many can and will argue that a 'true sub' will submit to anything, including topping. i think that puts us back to individuality and the need for communication in order to find a match/matches to who and how we are.

DNA test?

Funny you mention that! i think i saw you (or someone?) in a pic with one on and thought: "Hey, that looks like the one i have." We're practically twins. 😉

i always wear the same bright yellow jock to the gym, hoping some day a Man will understand and piss on or in me.

Here's a pic of how i want to be seen and one of how i am.

What Luxbrit said. There are so many factors involved in getting fucked and seeded, but i think a primary consideration is numbers. The busier the venue, the more Tops looking for a bottom there will be... but then, the more bottoms there will be as well. if you are going to a sauna, there's the visual factor to consider. If you fit the general idea of "hot," you stand a better chance of getting fucked than if you are generally average. And really, that's a weak criteria. i'm tall and slender and try to stay fit. i'm on one site and keep running into Tops Who want a bottom with "a big belly." Beauty is not a universal standard, eh? i've gotten most of my loads in an ABS type setting or a cruise place with booths and glory holes. In that setting, you remove the visual factor and sex gets narrowed down to cocks and holes. Also, i find time of day at one of these places is a big factor. Lunch break or end of day when Men are getting off work and looking for a quick release.

i used to get together with a married couple, two Top Men. One loved to get His cock sucked, the Other loved to fuck. They loved to use one bottom together, and there was no competition. We each got what we wanted/needed. i'm not interested in sex with a man who doesn't want me as much as i want him, It's probably my only criteria for sex. i do not equate bottom with inferior or Top with superior. To me those are expressions of opposite energy that naturally attract, like positively and negatively charged ions attract. i do not see it as a matter of value, i think both can be of equal value. For me, sex is about symbiotic connection of mutual need/desire. i hate the catty attitude and energy of a bottom guy trying to compete or take cock from another bottom. It feels petty and cheap to me. If a top guy wants to make two bottoms compete for him, that comes off as inadequate and decidedly unsexy to me. In either case, i'll walk away, i am not engaged by that. In a group venue like a sex club, i get that some Tops want to rut before they release/orgasm and breed. Sure, i want Their orgasm and seed inside of me, but i also understand that i may just be one of many getting fucked before He wants to cum and call it a night. i know that going in and am grateful for the fuck and am happy if i get to be part of His pleasure.

i think this is an example of one of the top dividing factors in society in general. i think egocentricity breeds and births all manor of ethnocentricity. i see it as a question of immaturity. We hear/read stories of a person going to another country and discovering a whole new collection/culture of people who are different. Sad to me how there are still cultures that try to force their views on others, even going so far as to authorize their behavior by insisting 'God' is behind it! i'm a part of a couple of BDSM discussion forums and it is a common topic of discussion how key communication is to any connection or ongoing relationship. Our labels are just a starting point in a conversation, but how often to we ask what it means to the other person? To me, such presumption stems from egocentricity born of immaturity, and the gay community is just as fraught with it as any other culture. i think a lot (if not most?) of presumption flies under the radar, that we are often not conscious that we do it.

Not boring, but not unusual either. This is a desire that's been written about by lots of guys on BZ. my general feel is that, no matter where we land on the sexual spectrum (i.e., Top, bottom, versatile or anywhere between those), we are all fueled by testosterone. We are raised in heteronormative culture that mostly teaches male and female, attributing behaviors to both. But life isn't like that, there aren't just two standard types, there is infinite variety and innumerable categories. Top, bottom or in between, guys seem driven to breed. Those of us who are seemingly wired with our testosterone to our holes instead of our penis, seem to have the same intense need to be bred as Tops do to breed. i remember one day as a kid hearing a commotion outside. When i looked, there were about 10 Male dogs going after one bitch. The bitch was in heat and the Male dogs were all in a frenzy waiting Their turn to breed her. She took Them all, presenting to the next after One would mount and breed her. It took awhile. Also the first time i ever witnessed two dogs being bound together by a knot. Even as a kid, my feelings watching were i was envious of the bitch and imagined myself in her position. No one taught me that desire, and it was way before the days of the internet porn. i can trace my bottom desires/needs as far back as age 7. As far as i can remember, i have always been this way. Took me a long time to get past the conditioning that as a male i should use my penis to penetrate, fuck and breed females, but life and reality finally got through to me and i accept and am happy to be me. i did go through a time when i was still married to a woman and not only trying to be top, but trying to be straight. i had a lot of this kind of abduction fantasies at that time. For me, i think it was a way of trying to come to terms with being both gay and very bottom. Now, i don't really have that fantasy anymore. i do have an ongoing fantasy of a FB, an intimate ongoing connection where He knows He can have me whenever He wants, but it's a fantasy of connecting mutual desire/need. For me it involves being penetrated while i'm asleep. For me, i think, that represents full submission that He knows that even when i am not conscious, i still want Him. For me, it's an expression of extreme mutual desire/lust... and possessing. i wake up to the feel of Him pressing His cock into me to fuck and cum, or to piss, as He whispers in my ear: "take My Cock, I know you need it." Different and missing for me is the need/desire to be forced, or have the appearance of force. i no longer have any psychological barriers to being penetrated, fucked and bred by a Man. i need/want that and freely give it, my only criteria now is that He wants/needs that too.

Enjoying others observations and thoughts on this. For me, it's more of a recent observation, and not universally so. I.e., i don't find cum always smells like piss. Like others have observed, it can vary. Just something i have been aware of the last couple of years? Odd too, 'ammonia' is not an appetizing scent to me, not something i'd be inclined to ingest, but a Mans Cum? i even hesitate to finger myself after being inseminated for concerns of losing one drop of His precious Self from inside of me. i've had enough piss inside of me, and it's different, consistency as well as scent, though i can imagine a mix. The idea of a little piss being added, inadvertently or purposely, is really hot to me. To me, a Mans piss is a second form of seed. Also, cum does not have the same scent to me as a cocksucker. If i don't happen to get all of His cum down my throat, and it ends up on my face, i've never detected the same piss scent when sucking (and i have received both a Mans cum and piss in my mouth). Either way, i love what comes out of a Mans Cock in all its forms, flavors and scents. Life gives us so many gifts and ways to connect and bond, scent included.

Several months ago a FB videoed while fucking me, when i watched it i was surprised by all the sounds coming out of me. i typically hold back when it comes to saying stuff i'm thinking, like declaring my undying love lol. i've had to bite my mattress before to keep from blurting "i love You to a complete stranger," so not really verbal here but i moan and gasp a lot more than i am usually conscious of.

i did think of that, just thought it was wishful thinking on my part. i've actually invited Him to do so before, but He didn't seem interested so i let it drop... it's possible of course, but my impression is it's just the scent of cum and i've noticed it from other guys as well, seems pretty consistent to me. i think it's kind of hot and a little curious. Your info about the ammonia may be what i am smelling, i didn't realize that.

i'm always a little surprised when i finger my hole after it's been loaded and smell the cum and it smells like piss? i guess i shouldn't be surprised, given it come through the same tube as piss does, but i find even when it has been inside of my hole for hours, or even over night, it still has a distinct piss odor to it? Not exactly like pure piss, but like it's scented with it? It seems different when i am sucking cock. i purposely will rub my face in all over His Cock, Balls, thighs, crotch, while i am sucking His, getting His precum on my face as well so i have His scent and pheromones marking me. Fuck, just breathing and smelling that for hours after i have sucked Him off, is heaven. But that does not smell like piss to me, it's different, a scent all it's own. Also, i can smell sex on myself or another person, and it doesn't smell like piss (unless it is lol). So, i wonder about this? Anyone else this way, or is it just me that smells piss in cum?

As i see it, "hot and horny" is a normal part of a guys wiring. i think if we compare ourselves to 'the norm' (i.e., heteronormative cultural conditioning), we would almost all be cumdumps, cumdumpers or somewhere in between on the spectrum. Restraining, sublimating, repressing, suppressing those desires/needs, doesn't make them magically disappear, eh? i think a lot of our feelings and terms are reactions to or against a culture and conditioning that has said we should be a certain way, when we are not. Then we find a place like BZ and some start opening up and honestly sharing who and how they really are, and we discover we are not all that unique or alone. i think one of the big challenges is seeing and overcoming the conditioning we all have against who and how we are. i don't see being a 'cumdump' (or cumdumper) as a "purpose" we choose, but rather just who and how we are. i do not see sex it as "practicing" (though we prolly can get better with practice lol?) but exercising our needs and desires vs trying to keep them under wraps. (any?) Guy goes into a restroom to take a piss. Gay guys have pushed against cultural restraints and taken over some restrooms and are exercising their desires and needs to connect sexually in those restrooms. So, this same Guy can walk into this restroom and not only take a piss, but can suck a cock, get sucked, fuck, get fucked. They can get their piss drank instead of using a porcelain urinal, or they can hold a Mans cock in their mouth and receive His piss. Instead of just relieving their self in isolation, they can connect to another human being and exercise their natural desires/needs instead of keeping them secret and/or tied up. The possibilities are endless as i see it. i think a lot of our restraint and lack of experience is a conditioned response.

Sweet Latino FB, just left. Called me an hour before He got off work and said He wanted to fuck me... i said "absolutely." Pretty addicted to Him, He's definitely taken possession of that 'place' inside of me. He's discovered that i am also His cocksucker. i love Him, so am instantly in the zone with Him and am enjoying everything about sucking, licking, kissing His thighs, perineum, balls, cock, that sweet spot between a Mans balls and His thighs. He loves for me to get His all wet, so the i don't swallow from how He makes my mouth water... He likes to use my spit and His to fuck me. He's stopped using lube, so it sort of hurts when He first pushes in. After sucking Him, He is feeling more aggressive and fucks me longer and harder. my hole is wrecked vs gaped right now. i feel weak and incredible.