tallslenderguy

ErosWired and BootmanLA covered most of what i would have said. i'll add a specific to diet... i've found quinoa to be almost magical when it comes to fiber and mess reduction.

i guess we're not talking side of beef here? i haven't had to deal with this. It strikes me as funny though. Sort of like drive thru: "would you like fries with that." To me, a 'side' is something you have along with the main course, not something one makes a meal out of.

Your response strikes me as a deflection from the fact that an NIH ongoing medical education paper identifies PDE5's as vasodilators. You argue eloquently but don't provide substantiation for your assertion that "It's NOT correct to call them vasodilators, because that term has a specific medical, pharmacological meaning." The National Institute of Health disagrees with you. So far, you have cited nothing, just assertions, speculations and extrapolations based on what you have apparently read. Your arguments almost always impress me, and i'd happily suck your cock 🙂, but as someone who administers these drugs on a regular basis, i'm going to side with the NIH on this one. i appreciate and agree with a lot of what you say (even say as much in one of my responses). i "actually" read a lot of research and also have a great deal of experience administering drugs like vasodilators, as well as dealing with their effects in my patients. All eight of those vasodilators listed are complex and have varied effects on individuals. Give a beta blocker or calcium channel blocker to one person (we usually give those for heart rate or dysrhythmia, and their BP drops like a rock as a side effect. Give the same drug to another and there will be no appreciable change in BP. We monitor both BP though, because we don't know for sure till we try. i know of no drug that has one effect only. Human physiology is an infinite universe. We know and can affect a lot, but it's not much in the context of infinity. When one reads my original post, one is reading my experience and frank trepidation because of all the variables. Yeah, i absolutely treat PDE5's as a vasodilator, and cite research how it affects other areas of the body than the penis and lungs in "normally healthy people." Not most, and they're generally safe for their intended use. No argument there. Are they a different class within vasodilators? Certainly, no argument. Does the risk for heart events/hypontension resulting from the combination vasodilation effect with other drugs (like poppers) become an important factor. Yes, which is what i have asserted from the start. Put another way, just taking poppers alone rarely results in a life threatening effect. Just taking PDE5's alone rarely result in a life results in a life threatening effect. The life threatening effect of putting them together is because of their vasodilation effect, not from a limp dick. We don't know that PDE5's suddenly start effecting the rest of the body because of adding, say nitrates, to the picture. We realize it because those effects become noticeable in a deleterious way. We do know PDE5's work by prolonging the effects of cGMP, which relaxes smooth muscle tissue. All of our vascular anatomy includes smooth muscle, smooth muscle, it's the part of the vasculature anatomy that causes vasodilation and constriction. i know of no research that demonstrates vasodilation/constriction apart from the smooth muscle encapsulating our veins and arteries. I.e., if the smooth muscle was removed, there wouldn't be a remaining 'tube' mechanism that affects BP significantly. cGMP is all over the body and PDE5's work by prolonging cGMP that causes vasodilation. A lot of these things are still being studied. i'm speculating here, but i can see a possible connection between combining PDE5's and nitrates because PDE5's prolong vasodilation, which typically ends pretty quickly with the effects from nitrates alone. idk. But yeah, i see it and focus on the vasodilation effects of both of those drugs because of what that can mean in terms of hypotension and mean arterial pressure that can result in organ death.

To me, you are doing a more than adequate job of communicating your point. i dispute is your correcting me for calling PDE5's a vasodilator. In that case, you are simply wrong. Your correction is incorrect. It all feels pretty silly and pedantic to me. Regardless of what you (or i) may "believe," the medical/pharmacological community does consider PDE5 inhibitors to be vasodilators (see evidence below). i'm not making this up, offering belief or opinion, nor am i interpreting. i am purposefully quoting and providing links to reliable sources. Here's one more source: The National Library of Medicine list of "Vasodilators." (their heading, not mine). They list 8 different kinds of "Vasodilators." Scroll down to number 8. If you still want to argue this, perhaps send your argument to The National Library of Medicine, they'd likely do a better job explaining their rationale for listing PDE5 as a vasodilator than i can. "1. Direct-acting vasodilators (hydralazine, minoxidil, nitrates, nitroprusside) 2. Calcium channel blockers (verapamil, diltiazem, nifedipine, amlodipine) 3. An antagonist of the renin-angiotensin-aldosterone system (angiotensin receptor blockers, angiotensin-converting-enzyme inhibitors) 4. Beta-2 receptor agonist (salbutamol, terbutaline) 5. Postsynaptic alpha-1 receptor antagonist (prazosin, phenoxybenzamine, phentolamine) 6. Centrally acting alpha-2 receptor agonist (clonidine, α-methyldopa) 7. Endothelin receptor antagonist (bosentan, ambrisentan) 8. Phosphodiesterase inhibitors (sildenafil, tadalafil)" [think before following links] https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK554423/

"The Department of Transportation announced in February that it was reviewing Buttigieg’s use of FAA aircraft at the request of U.S. Sen. Marco Rubio, a Florida Republican. It is also looking into the use of FAA planes by Elaine Chao, who was Transportation secretary during Donald Trump’s administration and is married to Senate Minority Leader Mitch McConnell. When the review was announced, Buttigieg had flown on FAA planes 18 times out of 138 flights for official trips since becoming secretary early in 2021, according to The Washington Post.He takes commercial flights most of the time, and when he uses FAA aircraft, it’s usually because it’s cheaper than commercial flights, a Department of Transportation spokeswoman said. The review will “put some of the false, outlandish, and cynical claims about the secretary’s mode of travel to rest,” spokeswoman Kerry Arndt told the Post. Transportation officials also said the total cost of Buttigieg’s flights on FAA planes up to that time was about $42,000. Chao took 15 FAA flights early in the Trump administration, and the cost of just one of them, which was international, was nearly $69,000, the Post reports. When Buttigieg, the first out gay Cabinet member confirmed by the Senate, received the award in Canada, he was representing the U.S. at the International Civil Aviation Organization General Assembly last year in Montreal. While he was there, Quebec LGBTQ+ organization Fondation Émergence presented him with the Laurent McCutcheon Award, which goes to someone who has contributed significantly to the advancement of LGBTQ+ rights. Laurent McCutcheon was the founding president of Fondation Émergence and the creator of the National Day Against Homophobia, now known as the International Day Against Homophobia, Biphobia and Transphobia." [think before following links] https://www.advocate.com/politics/marjorie-taylor-greene-dollar-buttigieg

"House Republicans moved to reduce Transportation Secretary Pete Buttigieg’s salary to $1, as lawmakers debate spending bills ahead of the government funding deadline next week. The salary cut for Buttigieg was put forth by Rep. Marjorie Taylor Greene (R-Ga.) and adopted by voice vote as an amendment to the 2024 Transportation and Housing and Urban Development spending bill. “Pete Buttigieg doesn’t do his job. It’s all about fake photo ops and taxpayer-funded private jet trip to accept LGBTQ awards for him,” Greene posted on X, the platform formerly known as Twitter. “I’m happy my amendment passed, but he doesn’t deserve a single penny.” The underlying bill needs to be approved by the full House and is unlikely to be approved by the Senate." [think before following links] https://thehill.com/policy/transportation/4298685-house-gop-attempts-to-cut-buttigieg-salary-to-1-via-spending-bill/

To hopefully remove confusion from some of the exchanges above. As indicated from evidence based sources cited above, poppers are vasodilators, so are ED meds. ED meds were accidentally discovered as a side effect. Meds like VIagra (PDE5 inhibitors) were originally being researched as anti angina meds (heart pain resulting from lack of blood flow to the heart). Research discovered that PDE5 inhibitors are vasodilators have a more specific effect on penis and lungs. The use of the word "specific" in medications can be misleading, it does not mean exclusive. In the medical field, we often end up using drugs developed for one purpose on a different medical issue because the 'side effect' of the drug can end up benefiting another disease process. The systems in our body are intricate and interconnected, thus my original post of this not being a "simple question with a black or white answer." This thread is about what's "safe," and whee this can be more of a black and white answer: Amyl and butyl nitrates (poppers) are vasodilators originally used medically as an anti angina med. ED meds, while having a more specific effect on the erectile function of the penis, are also a vasodilators. Using ED meds alone doesn't generally pose risk. Using them along with Poppers (or other nitrates some people with heart issues may be taking) results in a combination of vasodilators that can be dangerous. That's less common, but it's not unusual for the general gay population to be using ED drugs and poppers. "The effects of using amyl nitrite with other drugs – including over-the-counter or prescribed medications – can be unpredictable and dangerous. Amyl nitrite + Viagra or other erectile dysfunction medications: a high risk that the person will lose consciousness due to a sudden and extreme drop in blood pressure.12 This may require immediate medical attention . Amyl nitrite + amphetamines: increased strain on the heart, placing whole body under extra stress.12" [think before following links] https://adf.org.au/drug-facts/amyl-nitrite/

"The blood vessels in your body aren’t just tubes that stay the same size all the time. Blood vessels also contain muscle, and that muscle controls just how wide or narrow your blood vessels are at any given time. When blood vessels get wider, that’s vasodilation. The opposite process, when blood vessels constrict and get narrower, is called vasoconstriction." [think before following links] https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/23352-vasodilation

It's true that drugs like sildenafil cause vasodilation differently than amyl or butyl nitrite, but both are still vasodilators. "Sildenafil acts as a selective inhibitor of cycle GMP-specific phosphodiesterase type 5, resulting in smooth muscle relaxation, vasodilation, and enhanced penile erection. The vasodilating action of sildenafil affects both the arteries and the veins.5 Reported side effects in the normal healthy population are usually associated with vasodilation. These include headaches (16%), flushing (10%), rhinitis (4%), dizziness (2%), hypotension (<2%), and postural hypotension (<2%). Other side effects include dyspepsia (7%), blue-green color-tinged vision and blurred vision (3%), and an unexplained myalgia.3,4 Although their incidence is small, serious cardiovascular events including significant hypotension can occur in certain population at risk. Most at risk are individuals who are concurrently taking organic nitrates.4" [think before following links] https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3437061/

A lot of this resonates with my experience. i do think there are gay guys who want relationship (maybe all those gay romantic movies are written by women?. i get the impression they either have no clue about how to go about making that happen or they want someone to make it happen for them (which seems both those may be related to one another?). The truth is, i don't want something traditional or heteronormative. my idea of 'romance' (for lack of a better term) would not be restrictive for me or my partner (e.g., it might mean, but would not have to mean things like monogamy). It might not even involve living in the same house? i don't know that it's because "a lot of gay men are superficial and shallow...?" i don't know if those things apply to gay men any more than people in general? i may just need more gay friends.

i go to PS a couple of times a year. i've read that >40% of the population there is gay, though i don't know where that figure comes from? i don't recall that question being on the census? i typically stay at All Worlds or CCBC, but have wondered as well if it's worth the cost? And restrictions. If you want to hook in your room with someone who is not a guest, All Worlds requires payment and last i tried at CCBC, you have to go to the front desk and sign them in. Doesn't work for walk in breeding. i;ve been approached by guys while walking on the sidewalk, so i have had similar thoughts about a Motel 6 arrangement. A lot cheaper, more freedom to do hook up sex. No 'play room' and they'd likely frown at nudity by the pool.

As i see it, the crux of the problem is "these people" (i identify them as people with a fundamentalist mindset/approach to living) do not consider their views to be belief, but rather, "truth from God." Belief allows for space that one might be wrong. Fundamentalists know the truth. You cannot engage a fundamentalist in debate, because honest debate allows that one may be wrong. Fundamentalists cannot be wrong, to allow for that would be to call "God" wrong, and of course, "God" cannot be wrong. They do not make the connection that what they have is belief, they are truly convinced that what they have is revelation from "God." If you were to engage Mike Johnson in conversation about being gay, his eyes would likely glaze over as he went into self righteous mode of "love the sinner, hate the sin." It's really hard to fathom as an outsider looking in. Fundamentalism is mainstream cult that's been around so long it's just sort of accepted by outsiders who don't really understand what it is. Ayaan Hirsi Ali's autobiography "Infidel" is a profound read. She was raised in a fundamentalist Islamic culture. i was struck while reading her story of all the religious similarities between her religious culture and mine growing up. It's brainwashing, conditioning, social engineering, highly refined and deeply entrenched. If one is taught this stuff from childhood, removing the humanity by attributing notions to an invisible being that cannot be substantiated or held accountable, the result is fanatics that fly jets into sky scrappers or imprison gays, or subject them to "reparative therapy" to "cure" them (i've been through 'loving christian reparative therapy"). Another great read is Tara Wilkersons's "Educated." Another eye opener and an American version of "Infidel." As a little kid, i was hauled to church Sunday, Sunday night and Wednesday. i went to Christian camp every year for a week, Vacation Bible School in the summer. We'd sing songs about how evil we are. It was also very militaristic: "Onward Christian Soldiers" was sung almost every week. Oh, and there was "Jet Cadets." We'd sing: "zoom, zoom, zoom we are jet cadets for Jesus, we are pilots for our Lord..." i kid you not lmao.

Not a simple question and there is no black or white answer. Both marijuana and alcohol affect cognitive and motor function. The more you take, the more you mix, the greater the (presumably wanted) effects and (unwanted and deleterious) 'side' effects. Further complicated by the differences of potency and effects of different types of cannabis and different means of getting it into the body (e.g., smoking, eating), frequency, amounts... so many variables. Same with alcohol. Are we talking beer or tequila shots? Or everything in between. Again, type and quantity all factor in. Poppers (amyl or butyl nitrite) are vaso dilators (so are ED drugs like viagra). I.e., the sought after effect is the warm/sexy/fuzzy rush resulting from pretty much instant vasodilation. They were the original 'nitro' intervention for people having heart attacks. Biggest side effect is a drop in blood pressure (related to vaso dilation). Our organ systems (e.g., brain, heart, kidneys, gut, liver, etc..) require a particular ongoing mean arterial pressure (MAP >65) in order to function and stay alive. When someone comes into the hospital with sepsis, our first concern is not the pathogenic infection but the resulting drop in BP from the infection. That ongoing drop will cause organ system failure and death, and that can happen pretty fast if not addressed. Poppers are not sepsis though. Their effects are pretty instant, but only last ~2-5 minutes. But then, just like cannabis and alcohol, 'dosing' factors in. Big difference between taking a hit a 3 or 4 times while fucking and wearing a gas mask with a continuous feed or taking a hit every minute while the effects of the prior hits have not worn off. So, one can see the challenge to answering the question? i did a study search on mixing THC with Nitrites, didn't find any evidence based/study info. But THC and Nitrites affect different physiological components. Sort of like asking, is it safe to mix drinking/marijuana/poppers with using a chain saw, or turning on a faucet. You might get away with both without harm, or you might not.

Gives a very literal meaning to "hindsight."

Conversely, i'm 6'5" and have size nine feet. i once asked my yoga instructor if i could wear snow shoes to class so i wouldn't fall over when standing on one foot. While my endowment is not enormous, it's above average. When someone talks about feet being an indicator of endowment, i quip: "yep, i have a size 9."

Lmao. "!" indeed. Perhaps an indirect response of a woman stuck in Stockholm Syndrome?

Well, yes and no. Yes, particularly if it's instant. i have nothing against kisses, or hugs (xo), but for me it's a major red flag when the guy uses it as part of his introduction or i don't have any history (even short history) with him. Another one that makes me cringe is when they call me "honey" or "dear." LMAO, i immediately picture some guy on a computer in Russia who is unfamiliar with western culture and taking their scamming cues from Turner Classics movie channel. In my experience, scammers are notorious for asserting they are "looking for love" or, "ltr" or "their soul mate" or some similar. The red flag with these guys is they obviously have not read my profile because they really have no interest in what's in the profile. If a guy ends up telling me his life story medications, i'd feel it's a lead up to asking for money, iow, "scammer." There's so many scammers online, i've actually developed some pretty standard responses to their standard approach.

i think it's a fundamentalist mindset. It's not based on understanding, or even belief. It's an emotional disposition that convinces the person they know 'God' and their biases and notions are therefore authorized and untouchable. It's sleight of hand they practice with one another in their gathering places. Have you been to one of those mega churches? It's downright creepy. They call it 'worship,' but they drum this hypnotic, manipulative music filled with their ideas to start. A 'leader' upfront tells you when to sit or stand. After you are tranced, they send containers around to collect money, then some guy stands up front and purports to speak for God for an hour or so. Any human responsibility is repressed and shoved into a tight corner, often utterly destroyed, and replaced by their construct which they call "God."

History is replete with Mike Johnsons, "... handing tickets out for 'God.' Except their "ticket" is not a free pass to an event, but a criminalizing citation. They, at one time, touted themselves as "the moral majority." They are neither, but they know how to join themselves to a larger group end up adding their agenda to the mix.

"How" and "where" are two different questions, eh? Fetlife is a mix of straight and gay peeps, might try Recon, it's a gay BDSM site. Also, if you're looking for older/younger dynamic, SilverDaddies may help.

"In the wake of an unprecedented three-week void without a House speaker, Republicans on Wednesday elected Louisiana Rep. Mike Johnson. While he is recognized within some Washington circles for his deeply conservative stances, Johnson, who was most recently the House GOP conference's vice chair, remains relatively obscure beyond the Capitol. But prior to joining Congress in 2017, he spent years building his career and profile by denouncing gay people and fighting against gay rights, which he staunchly opposes, citing his Christian faith and views on liberty." "...Johnson described homosexuals as "sinful" and "destructive" and argued support for homosexuality could lead to support for pedophilia. He also authored op-eds that argued for criminalizing gay sex." [think before following links] https://abc7chicago.com/mike-johnson-house-speaker-gay-rights/13972396/

This is such a big and complex question. i think the answer is both individual and fluid. i think Top, versatile, bottom (and everywhere in between) is more a psychological disposition than a physical position, that the psychological largely finds expression in the physical? i sense (and see) a wrestling match among some on this topic, trying to establish a right or wrong stance on position. Some would argue it's a choice, others swear they were born that way... neither can substantiate their claim scientifically. The feel of the argument triggers feelings i encountered when i was religious and those convinced they knew the truth of it insisted that one could choose to not be attracted to the same sex. i've landed at a place where i just take the persons word for it. Socially, as long as it doesn't violate another, i figure you are in the best position to self define and live and function within that definition. In that context, i usually pursue those identifying as Top because i know i'm going to mesh best with them. But life isn't that simple, eh? Many who read my posts know that i've had a FB for three (approaching four) years Who hit's me up a couple of times a week to breed me. About a year ago, He wanted to suck me... something as a "total bottom" i have not wanted or practiced with another. But my ongoing connection with this Guy is more involved than an anonymous hook up, so i 'allowed' it. Even was clear with Him that i don't do that. He's not very open or vocal, so i have no idea what's going through His head when i tell Him that, but He still wants to do it? But, i'm letting Him, so He does it. The way i've adjusted is He has never made me come that way... actually, in all the hundreds of times we've had sex, He has never made me come, and i don't touch myself during sex, so the only orgasm has been His. Which fits for me. i love sharing His orgasm between us, it's like His orgasm becomes mine when He comes inside of me... which He has always done. Last six months or so, He has gotten into me giving Him BJ's, though that is really like foreplay as well since He's never come that way with me. i'm sort of a selective cock sucker. If the Guy i'm sucking is expressive and clearly into it, His lust energizes me and keeps me very hungry. If He shows little to nothing, my desire shuts down. He is usually quiet, but when i suck Him it's like something in Him gets opened and He is verbally expressive of how good it feels, and that puts and keeps me in a zone where i am loving what i am doing. Last three months or so, that has started to include me rimming Him. You see where this is going/has gone? my bottom identity has never involved or wanted ass, oral or otherwise. i consider any kind of penetration, oral or otherwise, to be a "Top" attribute. Yet i've been all over this Guys ass like it was my last meal on earth lol. The reason i think i've been able to do it is because of His clear, vocal enjoyment and participation in that way. But then, it seems recently, he is getting quieter and that feels passive to me. Last time we were together, i actually was getting pissed off, feeling used in a way that i am not. Given past conversations/explanaitions that i know He hasn't understood , i cannot imagine being able to explain this to Him/him. i would not be surprised if he wants me to fuck him. Functionally, physically, all my equipment works. Psychologically, i know i 'm not wired to fuck and that's not sustainable as part of a dynamic. So, the question of "how versatile" i am is complex and not black and white in its clarity.

i can only speculate about the rationale behind your question? Are we talking just hook up sex? Are we talking relationship? Or____________? Take two gaggles of gay guys to the local gay retirement home. One gaggle is labeled: "Free," the other is labeled "For Rent." my guess is, the "Free" guys are gonna get used up first. Check out (ostensibly assumed) gay sites like "SilverDaddies" [think before following links] https://www.silverdaddies.com and you'll find >120k guys, young and old, looking for each other. Many of those profiles will specify: "not a sugar daddy," or respectively, "not looking for a sugar daddy." And then there are those not so subtle profiles where guys are clearly looking for a sugar daddy. To me, it really depends on what it is you want? Are you looking for money? Something along the line of "rent boy" would be an avenue to take. If you are looking for just sex? i'm gonna guess free will get you more than charging. If you are looking for some form of romantic relationship? my sense is anyone looking for that would find paying for it contradictory to the intent.

my closet was built from ethnocentric religion and culture that had been influenced by religious notions. AID's didn't figure into it for me. i had a gay brother was 13 years older than me. He died of AID's during the 80's. i massaged his Kaposi sarcoma scared and emaciated body as he died, but that didn't daunt my need or desire for sex or seed. i tried condoms a few times, but to me, that was like going without the connection i needed/wanted with a Man. Back then, i was more ashamed of who i am than i was scared. i was trying to be straight because i was conditioned to believe being gay was "sick, broken, sin, etc.." Sure, i was afraid, but i was so needy for connection with a Man that my fear didn't have a chance at keeping me from hooking. For me, anonymous hook up sex was the only affirmation the gay part of me had while i was chained in my prison of conditioned belief. Eventually, being gay saved me from 'god' (i.e., my conditioned notions of "God."). Reality forced me to question conditioning. To me, the STD part of it was stigmatized by the same religious culture. Recently, we learned you could die from Covid you caught while having sex... but that didn't stop people from fucking lol, and probably most didn't wear masks. Disease, sickness and the threat of death are part of living. We risk death going to the grocery store, but we don't even think about that because there is no social stigma attached to that function. Sex, on the other hand, is a natural need/desire that controllers have exploited forever.

All our feelings are in our head. So, in the case of ones nips and cock being "hard wired," the wiring runs through the brain and our feelings/sensations are experienced there. i'm speculating here, but studies of neuroplasticity show that we can increase brain connections through exercising them. I.e., the more we play with our nips, the more our brain grows connections in response (again, i'm speculating). And i think there's also the psychological factors, not just the sense of touch. Our thoughts and emotions play into that 'wiring.' i had an online Top once Who sent me a breast pump because He wanted me to have "titties" for Him. He told me later that had He lived nearby, He would have found a way to slip me hormones so my breasts would produce milk for Him (look it up, it's possible lol). my point is, that our physical fuck can be connected to mind fuck and be complex and involved. Here's some 'science' for those interested: "Can men orgasm from nipple play? In the same way that some women can orgasm from nipple play alone, some men are capable of the same phenomenon. "For some men, there is a direct link between the nerves in their nipples and sensations in their penis," says Hirschman. "Men can get an erection from nipple play and might even orgasm from nipple stimulation alone." To make this type of orgasm happen, Hirschman says you'll likely have to find the sensation patterns that your partner feels most aroused by and then be willing to stick with those for a while. "A nipplegasm may take longer than it would if he was getting direct stimulation to his penis and his nipples at the same time," she explains. "Some men will like a variety of stimulation, while others will need one type of stimulation for a while. In order to get his perfect combo, ask him to show you how he touches his own nipples or how he might like you to touch them."" [think before following links] [think before following links] [think before following links] https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/male-nipple-play