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There is absolutely no reason to panic!!! Modern HIV treatment and prevention practices make it extremely unlikely that a single (or even two or three) encounter(s) will even expose you, let alone infect you. The annual rate of new infections in the entire UK (which is, I think, where you are) is something like 1 man in 10,000 - that's very small. So, take several deep breaths and say, "wow, I'm adulting, and I'm breaking new ground and doing new fun things, and isn't it great?" and then take several more deep breaths and say "oh gosh, being an adult is f*cking dangerous, I guess I'd better learn about that and take my risks responsibly!" This isn't the first time you've risked death or nasty consequences - you do that every time you cross the street. You can handle this. And then go back and read @BootmanLA's excellent advice, and get tested, and get your shots, and get on PrEP, and go out and have a lot more fun!
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However, many people [see what I did there?] do not intuitively understand "Generally" to mean the same as "In most cases" (which is, I presume, your intent). This may lead to misunderstanding. Not something for which you deserve any blame, but perhaps a cause for unnecessary friction. -
In principle, that's a fine idea. In practice, the Backroom is as close to that as our fearless host @rawTOP is willing to go. Because. A lot of people out there and on here are NOT grownass adults. A lot of other people out there (and hopefully not on here, but as a matter of cold hard reality, nothing is stopping them from signing up) are actively out to get us. Obscenity laws and FOSTA/SESTA and new obscenity laws in various jurisdictions (thanks a bundle, Moms For Liberty) are a very real thing. Litigation is expensive. I'm sure I could come up with other reasons, but you get the point. @rawTOP has actually spelled all of this out in detail here (and in topics referenced therein): As for anyone being "demonized" or "abused" by the moderators - the idea that a system in which there are rules that are enforced, with a way of bookkeeping and assigning penalties that is not arbitrary (there are actually standard penalties for all of these categories) - is tantamount to abuse or demonization is childish at best. Try to think of a 6-point penalty as the BZ equivalent of a speeding ticket. Because that's what it is. That said, we really do try (admittedly harder on some days than on others) to apply them all fairly and to give people the benefit of the doubt if something is minor, or clearly an overstepping in the heat of the moment, or a newbie mistake, or any number of other mitigating factors. More than once, I have done exactly as @AlwaysOpen suggests above and reached out to an author to iron things out before simply handing out penalties.
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It's a newspaper report, not a study of any sort. The basic reason for this is that HIV infection rates were not tracked during that era. All the data available through at least1996 or 2000 pertain only to AIDS diagnosis. That said, there are quite a lot of good statistical data on that. You can find a pretty good summary through 2000 or so here https://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/preview/mmwrhtml/mm5021a2.htm and here https://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/preview/mmwrhtml/mm5521a2.htm Using data from Table 1 in the first reference, I get the pre-2000 mortality rate of diagnosed AIDS as 58%. That's not absurdly far from your anecdotal 30%, especially if you figure that some of those people still alive didn't actually receive an AIDS diagnosis before 2000.
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Ayuh. But some of us actually want deep tissue massage (the real thing), and have little interest in the happy ending. So there's that. 🤷♂️
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The chat is based on a different software platform from the rest of the server. @rawTOP is aware of the problem, and is working on it, but he is in the process of recovering from a stroke, so his personal resources are limited at the moment. He will get things working as soon as he can.
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Somehow the first time I read your post, I didn't grok that the message the guy sent was the first thing you heard from him. That's beyond rude. It's abusive. Specifically and pointedly intended to make you feel bad (and no wonder it was a joykiller!). So, I wouldn't hang it up just because the world is full of assholes. Although when similarly challenged, I tend to react badly myself. We must try to remember that they're part of this grand Creation... just like cockroaches and spirochetes. What I might do, depending on my mood, would be either (1) respond with a very pointed comeback turning the insult around (I'm thinking along the lines of "the same way you're going to - by getting fucked by the wrong guy at the wrong time") or (2) report him as abusive (not that Grindr will likely do anything about it, but then again they might, and it might make you feel more peaceful about it in any case).
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what am I doing wrong? (be nice in your replies haha)
viking8x6 replied to a topic in General Discussion
If you look in person anything halfway close to the way your avatar pic looks, I'd be all over you in a sauna situation. Sexy AF. But I think the question is an interesting one. I have the "everybody looking, no one seems interested" experience in saunas, too - and I've wondered the same thing. In-person meets from online connections seem only rarely to result in a "no thanks" dynamic for me. So, musing on the question, I'm thinking perhaps there's a difference in mindset for people in that situation. I do find once I cross a certain point with someone (often getting into a cabin together) things go much better. So maybe if we intentionally seek interaction with guys, rather than trying to sense interest from them? -
Why haven't I become Poz?
viking8x6 replied to CumBttmSub's topic in HIV/AIDS & Sexual Health Issues
CCR5 Δ32 has an (heterozygote) allele frequency of 9% in Europe (and those of European descent), and a homozygote frequency of 1% Translation: You've got about a 10% chance that you're somewhat resistant to infection, and about a 1% chance that you're virtually immune to infection. Here's a link to the Wikipedia page explaining in more detail: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/CCR5#CCR5-Δ32 Or, you could just be lucky. If you were only having sex once a month (on average), and if we assume that after about 1999 the number of contagious men you played with dropped to something quite small, you'd have about a 3% chance to have ducked the bullet. But the proof of the pudding, as they say, is in the eating, and the fact is, you're still neg. -
Who's that hot guy in the (vid, ad, etc) discussion
viking8x6 replied to viking8x6's topic in Bareback Porn Discussion
Thanks! That helped me find it, right enough. "Colby Melvin Takes It From Jakt Tarzan" https://bbbh.com/scene/rawfuckclub.com/76557?view=grid -
My impression from the variety of places I've lived and visited is that this type of activity is pretty well mainstream just about everywhere. The difference is the degree of shaming and punitive action engaged in by the puritan element of the local culture. But that has to get awfully intense to really put the brakes on public sex. People just get more judicious about doing it a little more discreetly, by altering their location, time of day, or alertness for watchers. That said, the US west coast is pretty damn relaxed about it. Even so, I still managed to get thrown out of Sears in the SF suburbs in my younger days.
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Why haven't I become Poz?
viking8x6 replied to CumBttmSub's topic in HIV/AIDS & Sexual Health Issues
Technically, the science out there is showing that the genetic mutation (CCR5Δ32) that makes humans resistant to HIV may also confer resistance to the Black Death - but the evidence for the latter is conflicting, while the evidence for the former is solid. -
I've moved this post into the chat problems topic. If you read above, you'll see that @rawTOP is working on it, but it's taking a while to get it fixed. In the meantime, if you try closing your browser completely and reloading the site, that might possibly help.
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That story was removed in 2021 when the new policy re. harm to the community was put into place:
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Bred on the 4th of July
viking8x6 replied to bentover4u1972's topic in Bug Chasing & Gift Giving FICTION
This is the FICTION forum. And even if it weren't, there's no way the protagonist would know that less than a week later... -
Bred on the 4th of July
viking8x6 replied to bentover4u1972's topic in Bug Chasing & Gift Giving FICTION
awesome. very well done! -
You might have a look on squirt.org - they specialize in this sort of thing.
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@gimpsub69, if you are going to contradict me, it would be helpful to everyone if you referenced some actual information. I don't claim to be an expert in this area, but I am an expert in science. Opinions without data remain just that. I, for one, am actually interested in learning something about the issue (as well as debunking misinformation) - otherwise I would not have started the topic. This is a subject where nuance is kind of important. Making black and white blanket statements is counterproductive. And yes, I do realize that I did so in a fairly unqualified way in my post above. Mea culpa. As I was speaking in generalities, what I said is in fact true for most cases. You just said so. I did a little digging (absent any links from you) and it does not appear to me that your assertion about puberty blockers is correct. It is true that people in these countries are taking a different approach to qualifying children for these therapies, but that is based (as far as I can tell) on a risk/benefit analysis rather than on any data that the blockers aren't reversible. Here's a specific document from Sweden outlining what they are doing: https://segm.org/segm-summary-sweden-prioritizes-therapy-curbs-hormones-for-gender-dysphoric-youth Of note is that they are recommending that psychotherapy be the first line treatment, and that "dysphoria, rather than identity" be the basis for drug or hormone intervention. Also of note is that the approach they are now taking will be consistent with the "Dutch Protocol", which in fact is what I described above. I conclude that they were applying these treatments more liberally prior to the current changes.
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I tend not to talk up my skills. The endowment (which is substantial, but not absurd) gets enough attention, and (as I always say) I can't take credit for it, it's just my luck. I usually say, "I try to use it well." To my mind, the subtext is, "I actually put effort into doing this well, and therefore I have significant skill," which is in fact the case. I'd rather have people be pleasantly surprised by my skills than disappointed by them. Often, it seems that they are; I certainly get plenty of repeat custom. The downside is that I might not get as many interested parties up front, I suppose. As for my take on other people's bragging (or stating simple facts about their abilities), I'll put a moderate amount of credence in it if they don't seem otherwise narcissistic or arrogant, but honestly, I'm hoping I'll find out soon enough. The exception is people who brag about their oral skills (which for whatever reason seems to be the most common form of bragging in the MSM department). Since receiving oral is very far from my favorite sex activity (it's usually doing more for the guy giving it than it is for me), a guy passionately arguing that his oral skills will change my mind (after decades of experience) is only annoying and indicative that he hasn't read my profile.
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I loved that place, though I only get to Denver occasionally. I'm not sure why they went under; during the time I was a member they were very well run and had a good clientele, so it's possible that they simply didn't have the financial wherewithal to weather Covid. Given that the options in Denver are super limited right now, it would seem to be a good business opportunity for some enterprising people to provide a community service and make a decent profit at the same time.
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We didn't. He and @drscorpio are both in LA and now access the site using VPN software. Which is a general technical solution to the blocking problem.
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Moderator's note: There are several discussion threads about these issues in the Tips and Tricks forum and in the Politics forum. Here are links: Other countries: US states:
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I used to enjoy "More of a Man" (featuring the late Joey Stefano) back in the day (mid 80s, I think). Obviously it's not BB. No comment intended on the director, but the writing was decent and the acting reasonably plausible.
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PUBLIC Forum and personal information (ICYMI)
viking8x6 replied to viking8x6's topic in Tips, Tricks, Rules & Help
I'm posting again in this topic to remind people, as it seems often to be overlooked: Anything you post on BZ outside of the Backroom (and a few other protected subforums) is PUBLIC INFORMATION! It will be indexed by web search engines (like Google) in a matter of days*, and anyone on the internet can find it and view it. Most of us are fine with that, but please be aware that this is so. * If you're curious about how long that actually is, I can say for certain that a post in the General Discussion area was indexed this week in less than two days. -
Neg not on Prep but considering playing with U+
viking8x6 replied to a topic in HIV Risk & Risk Reduction
U=U (as many others have said). HIV is really pretty hard to catch in the Western world today if you're not actively trying to do so. But. There are a lot of other nasties out there, and they are much easier to catch. In your shoes, I'd worry a lot more about bringing those home to your wife. Imagine her reaction to finding crabs "down there" if you didn't happen to notice them in time...
