LetsPOZBreed

A net positive for me. I was 18, and I was kind of ready for it to happen. I knew the guy before the experience, so it wasn't a total stranger (which I think helped out). He knew it was my first time, so was largely gentle throughout. His cock was a bit on the bigger side, but I appreciated that he didn't jackhammer it into me. The fucking part was okay - not a bad experience, but not one I beat off to on a lonely night. With that experience in the bag, I feel like I really let my proverbial hair down a little bit. Wasn't getting fucked raw back then either - I was a young guy in the mid-90's where any "safe sex" discussions did everything but imply that a single bareback encounter would result in getting pozzed. I went from being a largely shy guy to coming out of my shell a bit more. Not that long afterwards, I had my first experience with an "older guy" (who was in his mid-30's) and THAT was the experience that really awakened my sexual being...but that's a story for another post.

I've taken only one guy's. I was a few years older than him and had some experience under my belt. But I also remembered my first time and that I had to be gentle. He was definitely nervous, of course, as was I. He made me promise to "go easy" on him when we got to fucking, and I gladly obliged...didn't get to the point of finishing inside him, though. I did get to play with him a few more times afterwards...once after I'd moved away, I hooked up with him when I went back for a visit. He'd clearly gotten more experienced and was quite the good bottom boy by then. Think if I'd stuck around my hometown for longer in life, we'd have gotten together more - I don't regret it, and I think we both got enjoyment out of the experience.

Top/bttm/vers is not about the size of a man's cock at all. No real correlation at all, in my opinion. I've had not so hung tops and majorly hung bottoms over the years. Position preference is about something totally different.

It's been a few days now, but I'll post... This was my first time getting fucked in about twelve months. I was a bit nervous as I knew I'd be tight, and the guy was kinda thick (but not super long). I'd prepped myself for a couple days after we made plans - used a dildo on myself using relaxing lubricant. On the night, I was able to take him. Definitely tight, but not uncomfortable. I had poppers nearby, but didn't actually take any whifs. He lasted longer than I thought, and was a good session overall. The load def felt good, but I didn't feel it throb...either way, I think we both got what each other wanted. Looking forward to the next one, but my hole needs a little recovery time or otherwise I'd bleed.

I'm sure some are truly doing it (again, not condoning either....just keeping the conversation going). I've been poz 10 years now....the messages I've received from other guys wanting me to "poz them" has actually dropped off considerably over the years, but hasn't gone away completely. And before I get asked, yes, my profile name implies I might be into that sort of thing, but I'm really not....I love the verbal play but am upfront and honest that I am already poz and not chasing or gifting; personal choice on my part, and not judging anyone else. With the advent of PrEP and more guys being aware of U=U, anyone truly chasing must be finding it challenging to actually get converted. I know very few other poz guys who are intentionally detectable with a high enough VL to make pozzing likely. If anything, I'll get neg guys wanting the role playing part KNOWING that I'm undetectable and not able to pass it along to them - a proverbial have their cake and eat it, too. So, yeah...there are still chasers out there. But I find that lately there are more role players than actual chasers.

There was definitely a level of pain, but the guy was gentle about it. So, it was more just the sensation of being penetrated for the first time. I got accustomed to it as it went on (and he never really fucked me that hard in the end). There were times later on that were definitely PAINFUL, but that was in very different circumstances...

Unpopular opinion: Swallowing cum is not about the taste (most of the time). Now, bear with me...hear me out. I promise you might see where I'm coming from. Honestly, if the taste of cum was from a completely different part of life - such as the taste of a vegetable, or some sort of juice you'd find at the grocery store - I'd stay away from it. Why? I actually don't think that cum, by and large, tastes particularly delicious. It's not really that sugary, leaves a bit of an aftertaste, and has a bit of an odd consistency. That being said.... I abso-fucking-lutely LOVE having cum in my mouth? Why? Because tasting the sexual expulsions from another guy is something more than just the taste of his juices. It's actually the act of receiving cum that is sexy to me - and I savor that juice with that in mind. It's about the act; it's about the man; it's about that connection....it's not about the actual taste at all. That being said, there are guys out there who, for whatever reason, have the funkiest tasting spunk. Yes, Samantha Jones was right about that. A great blowjob experience can be ruined by jizz that tastes absolutely rancid, and I have spit out unacceptably bad cum before. This, however, has been a relatively rare occurrence - less than 10% of the time, I'd say. Guys are very appreciative when you take his load in your mouth. Knowing that a part of them is inside you, somewhere, just gives a special feeling. Better still are guys you may find (though rare) who not only enjoy giving you his load, but also enjoy tasting his own load with you with a good deep cummy snog. Those particular guys are the absolute best!

Sex clubs are good bets if you're looking to put yourself out there (figuratively and literally). It's a good way to meet guys for play; much more so than the apps - as the guys there are after one thing and only one thing. I'd say, though, if you're doing it for the purpose of getting bred, you'll need to plan a bit. On busy nights, guys will want to save their cum for most of the night, so you'll get fucked alot...but the amount of cum you take will be comparatively less. Also depends on where you go...haven't been down to Brighton for that stuff in some time, so unsure of the scene nowadays. If you come up to London, the best times to get properly bred are lunchtimes and catching guys after work on their way home.

This is an entire class of fetish play called CMNM (clothed-male / naked-male). I LOVE doing this scene...as the naked partner, you feel completely exposed.

I've had my share of encounters where there was no kissing. Those were (mostly, but not always) less than memorable. And a worse excuse than a non-kisser is a bad one. Come on...it's really not that hard, guys! These days, I need a level of intimacy (see my post about how the meaning of sex has changed for me lately). The last time I met up with a guy who wanted to just be my hole, I just couldn't perform. Lots of self-doubt about that experience afterwards, and thought it was really all my fault. But the bottom line is that there was no real connection built up...he wasn't after *my* cock, he was after *a* cock, and I realised that wasn't my scene any longer; took a while for me to realise that, but it's been an eye opener for me.

The drums have always brought me luck (in my best Elizabeth Taylor in the White Diamonds perfume advert). I'm a taller guy, so the drums allow me to bend down and stretch my legs to adjust more comfortably, too. On the benches, my hole is either too high up, or I have to bend further down to the point of it being uncomfortable.

I think this code is written for a very specific type of set-up which not everyone is into - so not really a good one for the rest of us to follow. There has to be a mutual level of respect and consent involved in any play. No top is entitled to my goods...I give it over willingly with trust - and I reserve the right to take that back if that trust is broken. Any top that doesn't understand that before we start is not starting with me at all...no further questions asked. I say that every connection is different, so what works for one guy may need to be tweaked slightly for another. Further still, some connections may require a full rethink.

I've never pushed out. Not only do I not like to do it, I've always had this fear that trying it would lead to other things coming out as well - I think we all get the idea without saying more. I once had a rather awkward some years back where the guy bred me (and it was pretty fuckin' awesome), but then demanded I push it out for him. I physically just couldn't, nor did I want to. Made for a very odd finish to what was otherwise a great session up until then. I also think that if I did push it out, that I'm kind of ruining his orgasm in a way...by absorbing it, I'm letting the session come to a natural conclusion.

I'm with @NWUSHorny here. I've had wildly different experiences over the years. It's not my thing to do anymore, but... When I lived in Dallas, I would occasionally venture to Midtowne Spa. At some stage, they switched their maze area from being very dimly lit to completely dark. Was once playing with a nice cock in there, expecting to get fucked by it...then got cockblocked by some other guy. Figured from then on, I'd have to be very upfront about it and take it while it's hot. Here in London, I found the naked nights at Vault to be a plethora of opportunities. Rarely would I need to be too forward, but also found that if I just bent over on the fuckbench in the main play area (if you know, you know), then I wouldn't get any action...I'd need to walk around some and scope the scene; things would just invariably happen from there.

Add me to this club, too (although I have seen longer profiles than mine). I've actually been told that some of my profiles don't get to the point (no not that poinT) and it's hard for some to determine what I'm specifically after. I actually don't think that's the case at all, as my profiles are sometimes written to invite messages that inquire further (my Recon profile, for example). I find (rightly or wrongly) that if a guy rushes to convince me to meet, that he'll be equally quick in the sack - or simply just not that good at it. That being said, there is a sense of "overchatting", where you try and determine compatibility by going into far more detail and specifics about interests - only to go into a session with too many expectations, and you end up unfulfilled (even if you get filled). There's a balance. I once had a guy ask me if I'd be interested in a role play session, where he outlined explicitly what he wanted to do. Sounded interesting, so I agreed - he came over and it was AMAZING...better than I expected it to be. But that's a rarity; role play on a first meet has been wildly inconsistent for me. Either it's worked wonders, or falls completely flat. So, I'd rather exchange a few messages and suggest to meet for a coffee or drink somewhere to determine face-to-face compatibility - then go from there. I've certainly dodged a few bullets by practicing this, let me tell ya.

Many thanks for your compliment. Yeah, it's really not easy to tell if you'll have that spark with someone in play - at least not until things start happening and you start getting into the moment. I'll admit there have been occasions at the fuckjoints where I've gotten with a guy and things just clicked - the kind of thing where you want to just find a private corner somewhere and forget everyone and everything else in the place and just express your mutual energies to one another. But there's also a sense of freedom to be had when doing that in the privacy of one's own abode.

Thank you for sharing your post - certainly appreciate it. This last part here is something I may continue in another post as well. The long-and-short of it is that I realised that the meaningless sex part of it for me (even going back to my late teens) was not being had for the right reasons - or even the healthiest (more mentally, but some physically). Even when it comes to relationships, I've learned to stop trying to describe why I want a relationship, or similarly what I want out of one, based on what I see in other's relationships - at least the superficial aspects of it. Any relationship I plan on having - platonic, sexual, romantic, etc. - I'd prefer we define that based on what works for "us", not some social or arbitrary construct.

Personally, I think you are experiencing a bit of both. There's a sense amongst some of us that we want something different, and have somewhat found a new brotherhood of cohorts (though I'm still on the lookout for my regular playmates). So, yes, you've entered a new phase, but so have some of us along side you.

I'll agree to this point. A big part of my current attitudes are because I've really sampled the buffet over the last quarter-century. I've done the boyfriend thing, hookup thing, fuckbuddy thing, group thing, anon thing, and so forth. My vision of what I want is formulated upon what I know my more memorable encounters of the past all have in common - that connection; that organic beauty of building lust. So, I won't expect younger guys than me to maybe understand. In fact, I'd openly encourage younger guys to experiment as much as possible, as this is what got me to where I am at my age. To your last point, though, this is a good one to raise. I came of gay-age in the mid-90's, and there was a noticeable gap of gay men that were in their 40's on upwards. Not a completely empty void, of course, but it did mean that it was touch to find those role models for me as well. Not impossible, though, as I enjoyed the fruits of "older men" (which at 18 was any guy in this 30's) and realised just how much I enjoyed those experiences - great sex, yes, but also an appreciation for their experience and someone to look up to. Really wish there were more of them.

Thanks for the reply....I wouldn't go so far as to say that sex doesn't excite me anymore...far from it; I just get excited by connection more.

So, I need to talk about this in a safe space. I wonder if others of you have started to feel this way recently, and are willing to share your thoughts. (Even if you don't feel this way, I'd love to hear from your as well!) So, since all the COVID and MPX nonsense of the last few years, I'd become very skittish around the idea of just hooking up indiscriminately like I used to. Felt like no one was really worth the risk of either of those diseases - yes, I know that sounds somewhat disingenuous from someone who is HIV+ and an avowed member of the "raw is law" crowd. Initially, I thought after all of the lockdowns were behind us in a few weeks or months, I'd be back in the saddles (or slings) and back to my old cum-loving self... But things didn't really spring back to normal, and we weren't really able to (safely) meet up for this type of stuff for longer than expected. I'll admit that I wound up getting a far bigger porn addiction than anything I'd had previously...it was really my main sexual outlet, outside of the posts and reads on here. Turns out to not be the healthiest addiction out there, and has been a hard one to kick. Over time, though, a funny thing happened... After a while, I found myself spending way too much time on the various tube sites (before some were shut down, or had their content massively purged). As time went on, I found my interests devolving more and more into the more intense aspects of sex and kink videos....got really into watching spanking/CP vids, "home intruder" role plays, etc. My own personal thoughts shifting toward those as well....but unfortunately not being in any position to act on any of this. Eventually, though, things started to shift to a sense of normality...and I managed to indulge in some man-to-man action on occasion. It was, well... ...mediocre, to say the least. Without going into too many specifics, I had a mix of top encounters and bottom ones. Nothing particularly bad; just "meh..." Not to say that the guys were of poor quality; I just felt like I wasn't able to really connect and get into the moment as easily as I used to. I did the first thing many of us would do in those situations and immediately thought that it was something wrong with me. I wasn't good enough, my body wasn't good enough, my technique was no longer good enough - all of those negative emotions that come far too easily. After a few lacklustre experiences, I threw in the towel. I decided against meeting up for any play for a few months until I was able to get into a better mental space. That turned out to be a Pandora's box of emotions, though. All of that negativity came washing back, and created this constant feedback loop that didn't serve to make me feel any better about myself. Eventually, though, that started to turn. While, yes, I do still have those remnants of negativity swashing around my brain, a funny thing happened. I realised that all the time away from mindless action made me think about what it really is that I wanted from my sexual encounters....a deep connection. I'm not saying that I have to fall in love with the man on top of me (or beneath me), but have that kind of intimate, non-verbal desire that is present from that initial moment and building all the way through to the intense climax. Nowadays, when a guy messages me to tell me how many loads he has and if I want to contribute more - I just don't engage. Same goes for guys messaging me to bottom for them, but demand I be blindfolded and pre-loaded - just not my thing any longer. If it's not eye-to-eye, mouth-to-mouth, body-to-body action, it just doesn't stir any desire within me. As a result, the volume of responses I get on the various sites and apps has dropped considerably. While that may sound disheartening, it doesn't really bother me much in reality. Basically, I'd rather wait for a good experience, rather than just the next one. So, yeah...I feel that the seeming trend of cumdumping, gangbanging, and H-n-H sessions just isn't my scene and that I've become a bit of a minority among the bareback brotherhood. There are times where I wonder if I'm alone in this, though I know that's likely not the case. Looking forward to hearing others thoughts and stories here. Bit of a long post from me, but I know through my years on this community that this has been a safe space for me to talk about these sorts of things.

Tends to be more dependent on the top, rather than anything I'm doing...though I'm sure i do contribute in some way. My motto is "you can last 2 minutes or 2 hours....just keep me interested". Though as of recent, my hole is quite tight due to a lack of action (mostly voluntarily). So I'm sure the next lucky man won't be able to last that long inside me. 😄

Both of these nail it. I want my sounds to come naturally; if I'm getting railed good, I just moan like crazy - not because I want to, but it's my body's natural reaction to a good pounding. It's basically reflexive; I'm not really "trying" to do it, it just happens. So, if I'm going from that to more structured verbal play, I need to be guided...I need someone to respond to in kind. Otherwise, it just comes across as just doing what I want and taking control of my top, which is certainly not in my nature. On the flip side of that, I want my top to make me desire him...if a guy just goes straight into dirty talk without any build-up, then it is off-putting to me. I want to earn that level of connection, and going straight into it just seems like jumping the gun.

I let the top dictate whether or not verbal is okay...I won't start it off for sure; find that it does put some guys off. Verbal is one of those things that's very tenuous...say one wrong thing, and it just kills the whole mood; I'd say it's better to not get into that until the session reaches a certain level of intensity first. I also don't like to do (or say) anything to put my top under any pressure to "perform". In my younger days, if I was begging for my tops load before it was obvious he was close, I'd notice that suddenly it's the one thing they think about...any top can tell you that thinking too much about cumming is one of the easiest ways to not cum. Been a while since I've been to the sauna, but when I would go regularly, if I'd see my top thinking too much about it, I actually encourage him to relax and say how good the fuck is - take his mind off of it, and just let him enjoy the ride.

I get your dilemma. I'm poz (UD), but love poz verbal still. I've had instances with other poz guys where the verbal just happens...we just really connected, and the verbal just managed to gear itself toward that. I've also had instances where I've talked to guys online ahead of a hookup about doing poz verbal during our play....it happened, of course, but the actual results varied (some good, one INCREDIBLE, but a couple "meh" ones, too). I also made the mistake of playing with a poz guy where we didn't broach the topic of verbal play...in the middle of him fucking me (decently, but wouldn't say fantastically), I made a comment about poz cum and it just killed his mood entirely. It was a shame, but to be fair I should have not done anything like that without gauging his level of interest in it. If you want to do poz verbal during play, then best advice is to be upfront about it. The poz guys not into it will pass you by, but saves you the disppointment of saying it mid-fuck and ruining the experience. The guys into it (and there are more than you might think) will certainly come knocking, though. Just know that poz verbal is not necessarily pozzing play...also be upfront about the fact that you're into the verbal, but not the actual act of converting yourself (unless you're an actual chaser - no judgement here, but just be clear about your expectations).