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It did take a few years after the first TIM vids for the rest of the gay porn industry to catch up. As mentioned above, TIM was ground-breaking (the fact that they unashamedly went bareback when other big studios stopped in the mid-1980's). TIM saw an opportunity, though...When I used to rent my VHS (yes, I'm really that old) starting back in the mid-90's, there was always a small section of "pre-condom" videos from the 70's/early 80's that would still get checked out with regularity. By that point, condomless seemed "forbidden" in gay porn, so it gave the viewers something that was drilled into our heads as being "bad" (either watching or participating). The mainstream gay porn studios didn't exactly jump on board initially...certainly not to the level they eventually did. It was still considered too "controversial" to release new bareback material. It was only after TIM had a couple of early block-busters (ball-busters??)...namely the big Dawson flicks of around 2003/2004-ish. Dawson's 20 Load Weekend (and it's 50 load sequel) changed gay porn...even gay hook-up culture and attitudes toward barebacking. It also shifted the economics of the gay porn industry: you had pent-up demand for a style of porn that largely hadn't been made for over a decade, and certainly wasn't made in this unashamed way. So, yeah...TIM was definitely at the forefront. It wasn't overproduced back then, and it was all about the sex. No pseudo "plotlines", no cheesy porn background music, etc. But once they had a few blockbusters under their proverbial jockstrap, the imitators weren't far behind. Other bareback studios followed suit (SX video, HDK, among others) and the mainstream studios (Falcon, etc.) eventually capitulated as well. Once the industry was dragged along, TIM then has to find it's new "niche"; though, they were already "out there" as it was, and I don't suspect anything more controversial would even be legal to make. But now TIM is now finding itself in competition with amateurs and free-agents (i.e. OF/JFF). The long 60-90 minute videos aren't really made as often because most porn-watchers attention spans aren't interested in focusing on a video for that long. Plus, I find that the obviously wired participants (see another thread about this) in many TIM vids to be a bit of a put-off. TIM had it's day in the sun...there are a few scenes that I'll go back and watch online, but I've kind of moved on...as have many others. I definitely get the impact it had on porn, hookup culture, and sex in general - but don't really see how it adapts itself from here to get back to the top of relevancy.

It's just like the announcements on the London Underground during rush hour: Please move right down inside the carriage to allow others to board.

Also, had this exchange on BBRT the other week: (guy with vers as his profile position): Hot pics and profile. Sounds like a lot of fun. (me): Thanks, I'd gladly let you have your way with me 🙂 (guy with vers as his profile position): I just wish you were more versatile, though. (me): all the true bottoms say that And then I got blocked... 😄

In a proper darkroom (i.e. no sight at all), then my rules would be: - It's fine to cop a feel, but this is not the place to expect every guy to be perfectly chiseled. Part of the appeal is that you can't see who's actually fucking you (or who you're fucking), and you're dependent on your other senses. It's liberating to just let yourself go, and take what's on offer. - On the perpetual foreplay thing, you're right...if you're foreplaying to get yourself hard, or get me loose, fine. But if your erection isn't coming along, then it's time to move on. - Don't "interject". If the guy you're feeling up is in the throws of thrusting inside a bottom already, don't put your hand in between to get him to move off to you. If it's "semi-dark", then I'd say the same points above, but add: - This is not the place to live out your modelling fantasy. Leave the space for those of us intending to make full use of it.

As far as continuing to bottom after I've cum...only if you give me a little time to recouperate. In the immediate aftermath, I'm definitely tight again; it'll hurt to try and put a dick back inside me. Unless you can stay hard inside as I'm cumming...at which point, I tighten up to your cock. But you'll need to go back to gentle strokes initially. When I top, I've become a one-and-done guy as I've gotten older. Now that I'm in my 40's, I can't cum multiple times anymore...but the one orgasm is now much more intense.

For me, my preference has shifted more toward bottoming as I've gotten older. But I will top a guy if I get the urge to do so. For me, my frequency of wanting to top has less to do with getting an erection...it's more about feeling desired. I want to feel wanted as a top...by that meaning that I enjoy bottoms who treat me as more than a means to an end. Kiss me, suck me, play with my body, etc...make my cock ache to be inside you. If you're just on the bed ass-up in a jock,..that's ok (if you've got a hot ass), but it doesn't really stir me anymore. I like the build-up just as much as the act itself...lacking that, I have no desire to waste my load on a guy who doesn't appreciate the guy it coming from.

It depends on what I want out of the sex. If all I'm after is to top and drop my load, I'm fine with this...but these instances are rather rare. If I'm feeling more on the vers mood where I want a bit of both, then I'll prob steer clear.

I can't "fake moan" like you sometimes see in porn. I just prefer to let my body naturally react to the man on top of me. Sometimes, that means I make more noise than usual...but that's a good thing for my top. Dick size plays a factor, but it's also in how he uses it inside me. And moaning when I'm getting bred is totally different. There's just a natural change in my intonation when I know I'm getting knocked up.

I have mine as "Needs Discussion". I used to have it as "Never" under the guise that I equated it to condom usage - or lack thereof. But, honestly, I'd rather talk through it with a guy; even if it is just to state that I would like to go raw. I also have the U=U thing in my profile either and invite anyone who doesn't know what that means to ask.

I agree with more than just this last sentence, but you're spot on here. Personally, my preferences have ebbed and flowed over the years, but I think over time we all settle into our preferred positions after a certain age. I do get pleasure from topping, but as someone said earlier in the thread, I need an actual connection these days...not really interested in cumdump bottoms who couldn't care less about anything other than my load (not even my cock). So, anytime another bottom hits me up on the apps - a fact that still occurs with rather alarming regularity - I'll entertain it briefly, but it never fails that they say something that puts me off. As a vers bottom in my 40's, I know I can't compete with the young twinks; I don't really try to, to be honest. But I do try and offer potential tops something that they can't find with the plethora of other bottoms out there - the fact that I'm drug-free and won't be high off my tits, the fact that I want to have eye contact throughout the entire session so you can see how much I'm enjoying you, etc. etc. Doesn't always mean I'll have a great experience with every top that omes over, but I figure I'll put something a little different on the menu for guys to try out.

Some of us have gotten better with age...I think I did, anyway. I've always enjoyed older men, but my definition of "older" has increased over the years. I'd say my upper limit is pretty much non-existant nowdays - if a guy carries himself well and knows how to fuck, then by all means, let's get to it!

I get it. We were all that nervous guy once. I can usually (mostly) tell if a guy is just being nervous or is actively just playing games - can see it in their face.

@NWUSHorny you're right. I don't really notice the tipping point if I'm in action, though. My focus is on the guy giving me a good go. I do notice it more when there's a lull, or if very little action is happening. I'd say if the tipping point is reached (whatever percentage it is), it becomes pretty obvious to those of us sluts.

Any participant not comfortable with you being the "door guy" doesn't need to be there at all - simply put. This is your boyfriend after all, and you are totally within your rights to look out for his safety and comfort; especially in this situation. You also want to keep an eye on the vibe in the room, and be able to put a stop to anything that gets out of hand (i.e. bad behaviour, bounce any "creepy" participants, make sure no one gets into their klepto mood). Most importantly, you know your boyfriend in more than just a biblical sense. I'm sure you'll be able to tell when he's feeling uncomfortable - either a guy is fucking him too rough, too awkward, or just not feeling it. You'll need to be there to intervene on his behalf.

In a public setting, tops (or anyone topping) know what they are in for. There's always the potential that the butt your fucking may have been previously wrecked; and that's toally fine. That being said, I've encountered guys that are there to masturbate at the bottoms who get bred ("lurkers" from another post). But these tend to be less in number, proportionally speaking, in the public spaces. On the apps, though...it's a different story. Seems any guy that asks me about my load count won't be the next one - either the count is too low, in which they want me to "find more", or it's high enough where all I get is "hot" in response.

Add these to the guys who won't fuck: The "Lurker": I've had this at the saunas and cruise spots. The guys who are hard as a rock watching me get railed, tantalising me with their meat. Some even offer verbal encouragement (sometimes to the point of distraction), but then when I'm free and available for them to fuck me, they can't really perform - so wait for some other guy to rail me. The "TIM Fetishist": Guys who are into the idea of fucking a bottom with numerous loads in them already, (because they constantly wank to TIM gangbang scenes). So they ask me "how many loads do you have", and regardless of whatever number I throw out will respond with simply: "hot" and nothing more.

Personally, I'd gauge the purpose of the gathering to gather whether or not the colour presents any opportunities/challenges (depending on what you're after). If you're just headed to the bathhouses or sauna for any ol' fuck-night, the colour isn't an issue. Most guys there wouldn't understand the colour-to-hanky code translation - so no real misunderstandings. Even guys who do "get it" will know that this is likely not the place to be advertising fetishes in this sort of way; you might get a question about whether or not you'd be into what your colour represents - but there are no real expectations to actually do those things. However...if you are at a fetish event, the colour is your time to shine. Anything yellow on piss night is a dead giveaway; similar to red and fisting. Even guys who don't really understand the hanky code will know those two. Most of mine are blue, so it really shows off my interest in fucking (or more specifically, getting fucked). Any of the other colours tend to be reserved for more intimate and private encounters.

Well said, Di. It's fine for someone to have a fetish for it...even if they've had the horrible actual experience (speaking personally here as well). But yeah...I wouldn't suggest anyone go into this with a first time meet. Not even a second or third time. This type of kink relationship needs to be developed over many sessions spread over a long period of time.

This fetish is fairly common, actually. Certainly among many guys who are into larger age gaps (though not inclusive of everyone in this group). Personally, I love it. It's a very versatile (pun intended) fetish in that you can experiment with more than just the sexual aspect. Can also go along with things such as discipline and CP...then leading into the sexual play afterwards.

Doesn't matter which position I'm doing - top or bottom - it's always balls deep for me. I like having the whole length of a guy inside me so I can feel his throbbing.

If I get a guy to the point of cumming while I suck him, swallowing is the only solution. I don't even like this whole nonsense of a guy taking his dick out and shooting into my mouth like it's a basketball hoop. I've said it in another post, but I feel that cum loses a bit of its taste and consistency if it gets exopsed to the open air...even briefly. Generally speaking, if a guy is going to cum from my blowjob, they just let me finish them off and cum inside my mouth. It's very rare that I've had my feeder take the initiative and do something different (such as the above), or even pull out and paint my face with it. I've always felt a bit strange about receiving a facial...it's fun while the warm cum is hitting your face and you're imagining what it might look like. But once the squirting subsides, the temperature of the fluid starts to equalise to the ambient room temperature...In most homes and enclosures, that's about a 10 C drop (about 20 F for the Americans) between a guy's internal body temperature and the temperature most of us keep our homes. At that point, the jizz is no longer warm, and starts to get a bit watery and run down your face.

I'll be perfectly honest, I'll suck every last one of those in the photo. I don't see a single one that I don't like.

As someone who is into W/S, I'm in a few minds about this I was born and raised in an uber-conservative small town in the American south. You don't really know how another guy might feel about you staring at his cock, so you just don't even bother with it. Also, many times when I'm in the gents, I'm there to actually do my own pissing. If I've been holding it in, I'm not really thinking about looking anywhere and just relieve myself and get on with it. For me (and this may just be a personal preference), doing piss play is a mood thing...either I want to do it, or it's just off the table. When I am in the mood for it, I'll just head down to the fetish club on piss night and go all out. When I'm not really in that mindset, a pissing cock is the last thing I want to be ogling at.

That't the thing about BDSM...you don't have to tick every box, and that's perfectly okay. We all have our limits and desires; other "true" BDSM mates understand this, and are much more interested in helping you acheive your kink goals without pressuring you into something you don't want to do. Personally, what I'm into depends on the guy I'm with. Yes, I do like various aspects of the B, the D, the S, and the M; but there has to be a special connection with my partner...a much tighter connection than a guy that I've randomly met on a website, app, or sex club. I don't trust some rando to give me the kind of deep and intense session that these scenes lead to. I also don't engage with guys who ask me to do these things to them without a full understanding of what he is getting himself into.

To the O.P.: How long have you been at this? It's taken some of us quite some time to build up the tolerance to take the number of dicks that many dream of. As correctly and well stated by @MuscledHorse, you need to train for it. It's not going to happen overnight, or even a few weeks or months. And let's be fair, 5 or 6 cocks in a night is not a bad night at all...certainly nothing you should be disappointed by!