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Seriously, this can't be said enough: CONSENT, CONSENT, CONSENT! I think there's a clear difference from those who have said things such as: that you should just go with it; the guy is probably a good fuck and is just having a little fun with you; his attractiveness isn't really an issue, etc - and actually attempting to take away your ability to consent to letting him inside you. You are the guardian of your own hole. You decide who you let inside of it. You decide who will never go near it. No man is "entitled" to be inside you any more than you are not entitled to every man's cock. Even in true Dominant/submissive and Master/slave scenarios, both partners (ideally) have had long discussions about what rules apply to their situation. Every couple is different; your rules with Guy #1 can be totally different to your rules with Guy #2 - it's just in how you connect with one another. But rules are MUTUALLY agreed to...a true Dominant man would not want to break any of your stated limits, and will ask you to specifically state what those limits are ahead of any play session.

These two points nail it on the head for me. I'm not even a top, but the times I've been asked by fantasising bottoms about whoring them out is rather obscene. I refuse to entertain them for precisely the first point above. If they haven't even deal with me alone, what chance do they have with taking others? To the O.P.: If you live in a city with a cruise club, bathhouse, or ABS...go there for the kind of multiple-partner action you seek. At least there, you can tap out when you want without pissing off anyone else present; ideally, there will be other holes to keep them entertained. And you can continue to show up over time and build your tolerance...only then will you be able to know when you're ready for 10 or more cocks in a night, with all the various fucking styles that come along with that. Keep in mind...every top fucks differntly. Not all of them will do it in a way that looks out for YOUR pleasure; very few will do this, in fact. You'd need to be prepared for literally anything and anyone. If you have any mental hangups about what your tops might look like, sound like, or fuck like...this is not the situation for you.

Honestly, once your on the other side of the wall, you have a surprisingly higher level of control over what you will and won't do - compared to having a guy directly in front of you without barriers. You can always just do nothing if the cock doesn't interest you. Any man sticking his penis through a hole expects some level of instant gratification - if that's not happening, he'll (presumably) move on. I find this to be a better outcome than a guy in front of you grabbing the back of your head and forcing you down on him (my BIGGEST pet-peeve about sucking a guy off is when he feel the need to "direct" my movements in that way).

I've been a member for a few years now, and definitely have noticed a change in the regularly posting members during that time. Not so long ago, RawTop put his proverbial foot down on the discussions around actually chasing "bugs" (STI's specifically, not HIV). I commented on his post about this that I thought it was a great idea; a fact I continue to stay behind. There's a huge difference between accepting the risk of catching a bug versus dealing with the certainty of contracting said bug(s). I've had syphillis before. It wasn't fun then, and I'm not about to put myself into a situation where I knowingly contract it again. Same goes for any other STI's. There always will be the fantasizers on here egging others on to chase - I'm not one of those. Honestly, I'm happy to provide the advice to novice barebackers about what to expect in this life. Personally, if I help even one user to reconsider making a dangerous decision they might regret, then that one response will be worth it. If a scared guy is having bad afterthoughts of a session that wasn't quite what he expected, I'm here to offer a sympathetic ear and respond without judgements. Not to say I haven't called out any posts that I feel cross a line. But I'm perfectly capable of passing over the thinly worded responses of those who encourage high-risk behaviour.

Gee, I wonder who this might have been? 😄 😄 😄

It's kind of surprising in a way. It's not as uncommon a fetish as you might expect, but I will say that I didn't get to actually do it for the first time until around age 30. I'd say that when I would go to S.O.P. in London pre-lockdowns, the Tuesday sessions would skew older; the Sunday sessions had a wider variety of ages.

I haven't used Adam4Adam in years. Not as popular in Europe, so I just let my account expire. Recon is a bit of a mess since COVID (and I'm sure even before). Many apps saw their membership massively increase during lockdowns, as people had nothing better to do and nowhere to go. But it also meant you had guys that were really wanting to talk about exploring their fetish and sexual sides, but not having a genuine interest in doing anything about it. It was more jerk bait than anything else. I joined Recon pre-lockdown, but just barely. I've met some guys in real life, but the experiences have been varied. I'd say I only had one GOOD one with a young guy (about 21 years old) who called me Daddy throughout the session. It actually wound up being a huge turn on in the moment, so I found out something about myself there. I want to start looking into more fetish events outside of Recon. Things that are geared toward specific fetishes (i.e. something related to spanking, etc.). Prob have better luck finding fetish mates that way than through Recon.

I'm with you on this one, actually. I do love a good slow and sensual session, but that's the kind of one-on-one session I prefer to plan in advance. A group session or gangbang is not the time or the place for it. Even then, though, I'd only really agree to it if I know the top is good for actually cumming.

I had this happen at one of the London saunas (of all places). - "You should have made me use a condom"....but you didn't reach for one, nor do I see one lying about in your little private room. - "You shouldn't have let me cum inside you"...you actually didn't announce and I couldn't see your face to know you were close. I also couldn't sense the change in your grunts over the music. I honestly think the guy was trying to stealth me...little did he know I already have it. 😄

Something else I'd mention: Determine whether or not you'd be fine with guys showing up as-and-when (i.e. you'll be taking loads all day) or if you prefer guys to be there in a group. Reason I say this: - If your expectation is to be taking loads all day, you should expect to be in your room all day - ready for guys to turn up whenever they want to drop a load. If you're only interested in taking loads up to a certain time, state that time so that no one shows up knocking at your door when you're no longer wanting action. If you're only interested in taking loads up to midnight (as an example), I'd expect to get knocks up to about 12:15, possibly 12:30...some cities you need to be conscious of traffic. - If you prefer guys to be there in a group, I'd give a time window when they should show up. So, if you wanted to start the action by 9 p.m., tell your attendees to show up no later than 10-ish. Should also be clear about what time you'd expect the action to conclude. I mean, if a guy turns up at 9 p.m. and still hasn't shot a load by 2 a.m., he's likely not going to cum...not unless you give him a time limit, anyway. Some guys might want to hold their loads to not cum too quickly, but it's better if they know when to start contemplating letting the little swimmers into the pool, if you catch my drift. - If you are hosting what turns out to be a group session, don't be surprised if some side action starts to occur. But be clear about the fact that you should be the only one taking loads. It's not uncommon for someone to "fluff" the tops while they wait their turn, but you don't want some unscrupulous bottom knowing you've done all the heavy lifting of finding tops...only to try and steal your thunder. In all cases, this is where you should have a trusted buddy to door check. You should (hopefully) be otherwise engaged and not able to keep tabs on the actual goings on. This buddy should be able to keep an eye on the happenings to make sure things don't escalate out of control, and also make sure you remain the centre of attention and action.

Personal experience on both sides of the coin: If I'm topping (rare, but happens), then the less loaded the better. I don't like to overlube my cock, as I lose the sensation. By extension, too much cum in a hole (more than about 3 or 4 loads worth) is equivalent to about double the amount of lube that I need. Just isn't fun for me. I've gotten to the point where I tell prospective bottoms that I'm only interested in being their first load of the day/night; it's not overlubed with cum, and I get the satisfaction of knowing all the other men are using MINE as lube. Double win there, in my opinion. If I'm bottoming, I've actually been told more than once by a prospective top that he will not fuck me if I'm already loaded. There's no one-size-fits-all answer. Some tops love it; others don't. And not telling a top you're pre-loaded ahead of time is a dick move (pun intended); I'd rather my top consent to knowing that my hole is pre-loaded, rather than risk him getting offended by finding out once he's inside me.

I figured I'd jazz up my wording. It's meant more ironically than anything else...

I'm sorry, I'm not letting this one fly either (Note to mooderators: I promise to try to keep this civil, but advancing apologies if I cross a line - will accept the hit if it's warranted) If you get turned on by guys violating your consent, I'm not going to judge. But it is not just probably a crime...it IS a crime. If you are into that kind of play where you want to give that consent up, then actually talk about that with your partner. But what you are into is not necessarily what everyone else is into. It does not negate the fact that there is a false equivalence in this thread between "rough sex" and rape. The difference IS a lack of consent. The rest of your paragraph around "would have been consent if it had been sought" is completely and totally invalid. You are presuming the victim would have just let it happen if they would have been asked in advance. That is offensive on so many levels that I can't even begin to list them out here. I also fail to see how these situations look very similar. This is also about far more than simple optics. I'll borrow a line uttered by Marcia Cross in Melrose Place: "It's not what it looks like!...It's WORSE!" I'm also not sure where or why we're pulling gloryholes into this. It's not even anywhere near the same situation and is totally irrelevant to the point at hand. But to take your tack on it, no...consent is not obvious here. I'm not consenting to you just ramming your cock down my throat and making me feel uncomfortable. Finally, whether or not there's any research on who is into getting fucked anon, this is another completely irrelevant point. It's totally off topic and (badly) attempts to make this false equivalence between male and female sexual proclivities.

Five. Might be low by some people's standards, but it was a good night nonetheless. Watersports is the kind of thing where I have to really be in the mood for it, but when I am...boy is the urge real.

I think this is where London itself helps me. Past a certain point, it doesn't make sense from a transport perspective to even entertain arranging something for that evening. I have two or three saunas and cruise bars within walking distance; if I wanted a late night of sex, I'd just go there instead...

The shade...but I LOVE It!!!!

I'm 43 now; lost my virginity at 18. Were there opportunities before then? Yes, but in hindsight, I think I held off until the right time. I don't feel I was in the right place mentally at 15 or 16 where it would have been an enjoyable experience.

I read this post yesterday. I was hoping I wasn't interpreting this correctly in my own head, but clearly I did. I originally decided that I wasn't going to comment, but this annoys me. Sexual assault (against ANYONE) is not a kink. It's not a fetish. It's not the kind of thing that needs to be condoned by anyone, and certainly not anyone on a forum such as this one. Sure, there may be role-play type scenarios in the kink world (think CNC, r*pe play, etc.) but this is nowhere near comparable to the original post. Even in these actual kink and fetish scenarios, there is the concept of consent. That consent can be withdrawn; there are appropriate safe words and signals in place; and there are (VERY LONG) discussions around limits and what is and is not acceptable. It's also not a gender or sexuality thing either. I was sexually assaulted in my early 20's by another gay man. I absolutely refuse to accept anyone referring to that kind of scenario as a "kink". I still have the anger and emotional scars of that night close to 20 years later. I very rarely downvote anything, but this one will be an exception...

I see we've resurrected an old post. But a good one. Don't think I was a member back when this was originally posted! I'm in agreement with some of the comments above, from tops and bottoms alike. I'd say mine are: - Tops attempting to fuck me in an obviously uncomfortable position. Ass-up on all fours is comfortable for me...not referring to that. This is more remembering instances at sex clubs and saunas where a guy has me on a sofa wanting me to straddle him whilst anchoring myself against the wall while he tries to pump me from below (that's one example). That's too fucking convoluted. Bring me to a corner and and bend me over; it'll be better for the both of us. - I agree with the tops not using lube by default, but will give some credit to @hntnhole to a degree. If a top is able to generate enough spit when rimming me, then I've been able to take his dick comfortably. I always have lube nearby; either a bottle strapped to my bicep at the sauna, or a bottle right next to me on the bed. - Guys that only know one speed. Could be any speed, but it makes the whole thing feel monotanous. The first couple pumps might make me moan, but that's only the initial sensation on your cock; if you can sense me getting quieter...you're boring me. - For the love of all that is righteous and holy....this is not a TIM video. DO NOT pull out and shoot on my hole and shove it back in. I want you BALLS FUCKING DEEP when you unload. - Unless I've specifically consented to it ahead of time, do not refer to my parts as: "pussy", "bussy", or "cunt". I don't yet know you like that. You've got to earn it, and even then I'd only really allow "cunt". - I'm more about quality than quantity. If you only last 2 minutes inside me, I'm not going to be mad if you felt good; don't feel the need to apologise if I've clearly enjoyed it. But don't be surprised if I ask if you could go a second round 😄 - I also do not want to cum while you're fucking me. I actually won't touch my cock at all while I'm getting fucked...the sensitivity of my prosate means I'd cum too quick; then tighten up to the point where fucking me would be uncomfortable. If you reach for my cock, I'll politely explain this. If you reach for it again, I'm going to stop completely. - I'm not a bossy bottom, but I will suggest a more comfortable rhythm or position to you when I'm not quite feeling ok. It's not about usurpring your dominance. Understand that this is really about making YOU get off, which will get me off by extension.

I've had this happen at the saunas too. I think if you have an audience watching, and someone tries to get grabby...I use my stern voice to get them to back off; the other guys enjoying the show will quickly intervene as well, as it's ruining their mojo as well. But I grew up around a bunch of women that didn't know how to hold their tongue. My upbringing almost forebade politeness, and I've translated that to my sauna etiquette. If we don't have a particular audience, then my partner and I will find a secluded area to continue. If I'm really connected with someone, we will find a way to get our rhythm back.

Good question. It's wanting, but wanting the right opportunity. Though for the last 2 months before this, it was not wanting at all. That's the cycle I'm referring to.

For the most part, it's hands off. I prefer to use just my mouth...the only hand gesture I might make is to cup his balls and gently stroke them. One rare exception was a guy that regularly let me suck him. But he only wanted me to start gently using my hand once he got to a certain point; the point of no return where he's about to cum anyway. Said that it gave him more intense orgasms, which I definitely noticed. When I receive head, it actually annoys me when guys use their hands in conjunction with their alleged "sucking". It's basically a wet wank, and it's not a good one. I find that guys that use their hands tend to work their hands more than their mouths. It's not a blowjob at all.

I think I'm coming out of the celebate cycle and am wanting to get back into action. I find these are the most difficult times in this cycle, though....I want to make it count with a good experience, but those are never guaranteed. Guess I'm being a bit picky at the moment, meaning I'm still in my somewhat-dry spell. You'd think I'd be annoyed or frustrated about it, but I'm actually not. The guys who have been hitting me up lately sink their chances within a few messages (drug use, uninteresting propositions, etc.) Here's hoping I can find a guy with an interesting proposition where we have great sex that may lead to a regular release. That's my personal aim.

I wouldn't say it's a universal favourite...though it's turned out to be a more common fetish than I initially thought. I've definitely had instances where I've put it out there to potential partners, only to have them decline that offer. I like to have a guy piss in my mouth. Depending on the taste, i'll decide whether or not to drink it. I'm not expecting it to taste fantastic; it is piss after all. But if a guy's stream is totally rancid, I'm going to spit it out and just have him piss on my chest instead.

My first from the tap experience was a bit of a surprise...in the sense that it was unplanned. I had gone to SOP here in London one evening...wasn't my first time there, so I knew what to expect. The times previously, I've had guys piss on me, but never in my mouth; I guess I didn't ask for it enough. Anyways, this time I met eyes with another guy and we got to chatting for a bit. Definitely a level of attraction, so we both finished our drinks and headed to a corner. Made out with one another for a bit...he was clearly rock hard and looked like the kind of thing I wanted to suck on. So, I dropped to my knees and started to work on it. I'm not a vacuum cocksucker, prefer to appreciate a guy's cock and take it nice and easy. Anyways, after a couple minutes, I tasted what I thought was him cumming in my mouth...accompanied by a soft sigh from him. It tasted relatively sweet; not at all what I would thought piss would taste like.... ...only the stream kept going. So I started gulping. It tasted amazing, and after it was all overwith, I raised back up to kiss him again. Asked him pointe blank..."did I just drink your piss? It tasted sweet enough at first I thought you were cumming!". I'll admit, that turned out to be a very bonding experience between the two of us. Too bad he was only visiting on business,, or I'd have offered to do that to him regularly. I've drank it from other guys, but the taste isn't always the same. Have had other guys drink mine, and again, there's just something very bonding about letting go of your stream and have it disappear down the throat of a willing receptacle. I'm thinking I need to go back to SOP again soon, and hopefully find someone that would let me do that to him there. Possibly find someone who'll let me do it on the side as well. I do really miss piss play, but that's on me for not making the effort as of late.