LetsPOZBreed

I had this happen at one of the London saunas (of all places). - "You should have made me use a condom"....but you didn't reach for one, nor do I see one lying about in your little private room. - "You shouldn't have let me cum inside you"...you actually didn't announce and I couldn't see your face to know you were close. I also couldn't sense the change in your grunts over the music. I honestly think the guy was trying to stealth me...little did he know I already have it. 😄

Something else I'd mention: Determine whether or not you'd be fine with guys showing up as-and-when (i.e. you'll be taking loads all day) or if you prefer guys to be there in a group. Reason I say this: - If your expectation is to be taking loads all day, you should expect to be in your room all day - ready for guys to turn up whenever they want to drop a load. If you're only interested in taking loads up to a certain time, state that time so that no one shows up knocking at your door when you're no longer wanting action. If you're only interested in taking loads up to midnight (as an example), I'd expect to get knocks up to about 12:15, possibly 12:30...some cities you need to be conscious of traffic. - If you prefer guys to be there in a group, I'd give a time window when they should show up. So, if you wanted to start the action by 9 p.m., tell your attendees to show up no later than 10-ish. Should also be clear about what time you'd expect the action to conclude. I mean, if a guy turns up at 9 p.m. and still hasn't shot a load by 2 a.m., he's likely not going to cum...not unless you give him a time limit, anyway. Some guys might want to hold their loads to not cum too quickly, but it's better if they know when to start contemplating letting the little swimmers into the pool, if you catch my drift. - If you are hosting what turns out to be a group session, don't be surprised if some side action starts to occur. But be clear about the fact that you should be the only one taking loads. It's not uncommon for someone to "fluff" the tops while they wait their turn, but you don't want some unscrupulous bottom knowing you've done all the heavy lifting of finding tops...only to try and steal your thunder. In all cases, this is where you should have a trusted buddy to door check. You should (hopefully) be otherwise engaged and not able to keep tabs on the actual goings on. This buddy should be able to keep an eye on the happenings to make sure things don't escalate out of control, and also make sure you remain the centre of attention and action.

Personal experience on both sides of the coin: If I'm topping (rare, but happens), then the less loaded the better. I don't like to overlube my cock, as I lose the sensation. By extension, too much cum in a hole (more than about 3 or 4 loads worth) is equivalent to about double the amount of lube that I need. Just isn't fun for me. I've gotten to the point where I tell prospective bottoms that I'm only interested in being their first load of the day/night; it's not overlubed with cum, and I get the satisfaction of knowing all the other men are using MINE as lube. Double win there, in my opinion. If I'm bottoming, I've actually been told more than once by a prospective top that he will not fuck me if I'm already loaded. There's no one-size-fits-all answer. Some tops love it; others don't. And not telling a top you're pre-loaded ahead of time is a dick move (pun intended); I'd rather my top consent to knowing that my hole is pre-loaded, rather than risk him getting offended by finding out once he's inside me.

I figured I'd jazz up my wording. It's meant more ironically than anything else...

I'm sorry, I'm not letting this one fly either (Note to mooderators: I promise to try to keep this civil, but advancing apologies if I cross a line - will accept the hit if it's warranted) If you get turned on by guys violating your consent, I'm not going to judge. But it is not just probably a crime...it IS a crime. If you are into that kind of play where you want to give that consent up, then actually talk about that with your partner. But what you are into is not necessarily what everyone else is into. It does not negate the fact that there is a false equivalence in this thread between "rough sex" and rape. The difference IS a lack of consent. The rest of your paragraph around "would have been consent if it had been sought" is completely and totally invalid. You are presuming the victim would have just let it happen if they would have been asked in advance. That is offensive on so many levels that I can't even begin to list them out here. I also fail to see how these situations look very similar. This is also about far more than simple optics. I'll borrow a line uttered by Marcia Cross in Melrose Place: "It's not what it looks like!...It's WORSE!" I'm also not sure where or why we're pulling gloryholes into this. It's not even anywhere near the same situation and is totally irrelevant to the point at hand. But to take your tack on it, no...consent is not obvious here. I'm not consenting to you just ramming your cock down my throat and making me feel uncomfortable. Finally, whether or not there's any research on who is into getting fucked anon, this is another completely irrelevant point. It's totally off topic and (badly) attempts to make this false equivalence between male and female sexual proclivities.

Five. Might be low by some people's standards, but it was a good night nonetheless. Watersports is the kind of thing where I have to really be in the mood for it, but when I am...boy is the urge real.

I think this is where London itself helps me. Past a certain point, it doesn't make sense from a transport perspective to even entertain arranging something for that evening. I have two or three saunas and cruise bars within walking distance; if I wanted a late night of sex, I'd just go there instead...

The shade...but I LOVE It!!!!

I'm 43 now; lost my virginity at 18. Were there opportunities before then? Yes, but in hindsight, I think I held off until the right time. I don't feel I was in the right place mentally at 15 or 16 where it would have been an enjoyable experience.

I read this post yesterday. I was hoping I wasn't interpreting this correctly in my own head, but clearly I did. I originally decided that I wasn't going to comment, but this annoys me. Sexual assault (against ANYONE) is not a kink. It's not a fetish. It's not the kind of thing that needs to be condoned by anyone, and certainly not anyone on a forum such as this one. Sure, there may be role-play type scenarios in the kink world (think CNC, r*pe play, etc.) but this is nowhere near comparable to the original post. Even in these actual kink and fetish scenarios, there is the concept of consent. That consent can be withdrawn; there are appropriate safe words and signals in place; and there are (VERY LONG) discussions around limits and what is and is not acceptable. It's also not a gender or sexuality thing either. I was sexually assaulted in my early 20's by another gay man. I absolutely refuse to accept anyone referring to that kind of scenario as a "kink". I still have the anger and emotional scars of that night close to 20 years later. I very rarely downvote anything, but this one will be an exception...

I see we've resurrected an old post. But a good one. Don't think I was a member back when this was originally posted! I'm in agreement with some of the comments above, from tops and bottoms alike. I'd say mine are: - Tops attempting to fuck me in an obviously uncomfortable position. Ass-up on all fours is comfortable for me...not referring to that. This is more remembering instances at sex clubs and saunas where a guy has me on a sofa wanting me to straddle him whilst anchoring myself against the wall while he tries to pump me from below (that's one example). That's too fucking convoluted. Bring me to a corner and and bend me over; it'll be better for the both of us. - I agree with the tops not using lube by default, but will give some credit to @hntnhole to a degree. If a top is able to generate enough spit when rimming me, then I've been able to take his dick comfortably. I always have lube nearby; either a bottle strapped to my bicep at the sauna, or a bottle right next to me on the bed. - Guys that only know one speed. Could be any speed, but it makes the whole thing feel monotanous. The first couple pumps might make me moan, but that's only the initial sensation on your cock; if you can sense me getting quieter...you're boring me. - For the love of all that is righteous and holy....this is not a TIM video. DO NOT pull out and shoot on my hole and shove it back in. I want you BALLS FUCKING DEEP when you unload. - Unless I've specifically consented to it ahead of time, do not refer to my parts as: "pussy", "bussy", or "cunt". I don't yet know you like that. You've got to earn it, and even then I'd only really allow "cunt". - I'm more about quality than quantity. If you only last 2 minutes inside me, I'm not going to be mad if you felt good; don't feel the need to apologise if I've clearly enjoyed it. But don't be surprised if I ask if you could go a second round 😄 - I also do not want to cum while you're fucking me. I actually won't touch my cock at all while I'm getting fucked...the sensitivity of my prosate means I'd cum too quick; then tighten up to the point where fucking me would be uncomfortable. If you reach for my cock, I'll politely explain this. If you reach for it again, I'm going to stop completely. - I'm not a bossy bottom, but I will suggest a more comfortable rhythm or position to you when I'm not quite feeling ok. It's not about usurpring your dominance. Understand that this is really about making YOU get off, which will get me off by extension.

I've had this happen at the saunas too. I think if you have an audience watching, and someone tries to get grabby...I use my stern voice to get them to back off; the other guys enjoying the show will quickly intervene as well, as it's ruining their mojo as well. But I grew up around a bunch of women that didn't know how to hold their tongue. My upbringing almost forebade politeness, and I've translated that to my sauna etiquette. If we don't have a particular audience, then my partner and I will find a secluded area to continue. If I'm really connected with someone, we will find a way to get our rhythm back.

Good question. It's wanting, but wanting the right opportunity. Though for the last 2 months before this, it was not wanting at all. That's the cycle I'm referring to.

For the most part, it's hands off. I prefer to use just my mouth...the only hand gesture I might make is to cup his balls and gently stroke them. One rare exception was a guy that regularly let me suck him. But he only wanted me to start gently using my hand once he got to a certain point; the point of no return where he's about to cum anyway. Said that it gave him more intense orgasms, which I definitely noticed. When I receive head, it actually annoys me when guys use their hands in conjunction with their alleged "sucking". It's basically a wet wank, and it's not a good one. I find that guys that use their hands tend to work their hands more than their mouths. It's not a blowjob at all.

I think I'm coming out of the celebate cycle and am wanting to get back into action. I find these are the most difficult times in this cycle, though....I want to make it count with a good experience, but those are never guaranteed. Guess I'm being a bit picky at the moment, meaning I'm still in my somewhat-dry spell. You'd think I'd be annoyed or frustrated about it, but I'm actually not. The guys who have been hitting me up lately sink their chances within a few messages (drug use, uninteresting propositions, etc.) Here's hoping I can find a guy with an interesting proposition where we have great sex that may lead to a regular release. That's my personal aim.

I wouldn't say it's a universal favourite...though it's turned out to be a more common fetish than I initially thought. I've definitely had instances where I've put it out there to potential partners, only to have them decline that offer. I like to have a guy piss in my mouth. Depending on the taste, i'll decide whether or not to drink it. I'm not expecting it to taste fantastic; it is piss after all. But if a guy's stream is totally rancid, I'm going to spit it out and just have him piss on my chest instead.

My first from the tap experience was a bit of a surprise...in the sense that it was unplanned. I had gone to SOP here in London one evening...wasn't my first time there, so I knew what to expect. The times previously, I've had guys piss on me, but never in my mouth; I guess I didn't ask for it enough. Anyways, this time I met eyes with another guy and we got to chatting for a bit. Definitely a level of attraction, so we both finished our drinks and headed to a corner. Made out with one another for a bit...he was clearly rock hard and looked like the kind of thing I wanted to suck on. So, I dropped to my knees and started to work on it. I'm not a vacuum cocksucker, prefer to appreciate a guy's cock and take it nice and easy. Anyways, after a couple minutes, I tasted what I thought was him cumming in my mouth...accompanied by a soft sigh from him. It tasted relatively sweet; not at all what I would thought piss would taste like.... ...only the stream kept going. So I started gulping. It tasted amazing, and after it was all overwith, I raised back up to kiss him again. Asked him pointe blank..."did I just drink your piss? It tasted sweet enough at first I thought you were cumming!". I'll admit, that turned out to be a very bonding experience between the two of us. Too bad he was only visiting on business,, or I'd have offered to do that to him regularly. I've drank it from other guys, but the taste isn't always the same. Have had other guys drink mine, and again, there's just something very bonding about letting go of your stream and have it disappear down the throat of a willing receptacle. I'm thinking I need to go back to SOP again soon, and hopefully find someone that would let me do that to him there. Possibly find someone who'll let me do it on the side as well. I do really miss piss play, but that's on me for not making the effort as of late.

I don't get this wanking into an open mouth. Even in porn meant to be about "cum swallowers", half the load gets on the cheek or nose or wherever. I can't really know if my top is a shooter or dribber to know where it's going to go if I gave it even the slightest open space. Maybe I'm a bit strange for thinking this, but I find that cum loses a bit of its taste when it hits the open air. There's a certain warmth about it when it goes directly from his balls to the back of my tongue.

I've debated off and on about putting my number on the Cumpdump network. I think the idea is a good one, but my work schedule means I'd have to plan on a top coming over (something that the rules of the network frown upon); I can't really be ready every moment. Also, I'm now at a point where i want to meet potential regular playmates. The last few hookups I've had did nothing for me....lack of connection, for one reason or the other, and it's left me disappointed. I'd say in London it would be relatively easy, but I've even put out the idea of starting a local small group that would get together regularly for playing; that post got a parade of bottoms only (which meant very lop-sided numbers) and also a parade of guys in far flung locations putting "wish I were closer" (which is very unhelpful). I gave up on that idea, unfortunately. If I did put my number out there, I'd be mindful that I'd probably get messages from other bottoms or other guys stating "if I were closer..."

I haven't been. It's not actually affiliated with the Fickstutenmarkt parties that are in Germany/Netherlands, as it's not on their website; and the mailing list for Fickstutenmarkt explicitly states that locations not on their website are "copy cat" events. I thought about it a few years ago, but I have body image issues that means that I didn't want to travel and be turned away. Also, with the prevalence of Prep, it means that the red hood mares (what I'd be) are becoming too abundant. It's supply/demand economics in a sexual setting...back when red hoods weren't as commonplace, it would be something that set me apart from the otehr mares and attract the type of tops that I'd be interested in. Now I, a bottom in my 40s, am in direct competition from any twinks and Muscle Marys that have now started their Prep regimen. So, I think I'm probably past wanting to do it now, and I'm okay with that. Besides, I like the one-on-one connection these days, and that's not quite something I would get there.

I'm more sexually liberated since becoming poz. Tended to go more into my kink and fetish side, and I actually don't regret that part of it. Healthwise? It made me change things about my day-to-day life and get rid of unhealthy habits. So, that's a positive. It does have it's detractions, though Keeping up with the daily meds. I don't really have trouble doing this, but it's part of the deal. Plus there's all the bloodwork you have to do every 3 to 6 months (depending on where you live) if you're undetectable - more frequent if you're detectable. Also, I notice that even hooking up online can be a bit of a challenge to some degree. Depends on the site, I guess, but being a bareback bottom means that I get offers to get "chemmed up", "slammed", or invited to sesisons with drug use...I gave all that up after converting, so no thanks. Also, the guys on some sites that freely state their status as "don't care" or "don't know"...I'm not really interested in jeopardising my health just for them to get a quick nut. And before I get the comment...YES, I get that STI's are a risk of barebacking; I fully accept this risk. I ascribe to the practice of risk reduction, though. There's a big difference between taking that risk versus walking into a situation where it's all but a certainty. If a guy KNOWINGLY has a treatable STI, I'm not interested in taking his cock or load.

Not quite where I thought this was going, but still annoying nonetheless (and I've had this happen to me as well). Where I *thought* you were going was guys who are fucking you and saying they are "almost there" and then still fuck you for 10 min and say "almost there".

I'd say that many of the factors are similar to the ones where you'd be able to feel it shooting in your ass. Would be volume and intensity. Even if you didn't feel it actually shooting, though, you'd def feel the taste of it. Here also, you're in a bit of a unique position; in theory you could have your eyes open and might even be able to see your partners cock pulsating as it unloads...If I know I'm in a situation where I'm going to swallow, this is my go-to.

Being a math ans statistics nut, these numbers intrigue me. Interesting to note (though not surprising) that one is much more infectious in the first 8-12 weeks of infection...slightly better than a 1 in 3 chance. Does explain why most people likely get pozzed from a partner that doesn't actually know it yet (or only recently found out). Outside of the acute infection period, though, I'm surprised the anal receptive number is so low. Would think it's greater than just 1.43%, but I'm sure these people have the emprical data to back that number up.

Is there a middle ground here? I prefer FB's, but also love the exhilaration I get from a new guy (assuming it goes well). There are some more intense sexual scenarios that I'm into, details better reserved for the fetish sections, and I just don't have a comfort level with a stranger on a first-time meet to even propose any of that stuff. A regular FB is someone where we could eventually build up to both mine (and his) more darker and stranger fetishes.