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Thanks for the post which is helpful as I’ve been confused by some terms and abbreviations used in some profiles. Two that I’ve come across in certain twitter profiles are ‘DL’ and ‘poly’. DL, sometimes expanded to ‘Down low’, appears to be - as I discovered from the Urban Dictionary - what used to be referred to as straight-acting. It seems likely to be more commonly used in the US and in subcultures following US slang closely. I came across the term frequently in profiles also described as poly but infrequently anywhere else. Poly in these self-referencing profiles, I’m pretty sure, refers to Polynesian and young Polynesian guys like to use US slang it seems. Where I live one would not call someone else, or at least not someone in your peer group, ‘poly’ as that would seem disrespectful. In this instance the urban dictionary seemed a bit off base as it seemed to suggest poly would mean polyamory.

Who knew twitter could be so hot? I’ve been on twitter since February 2019 - @traveller_gay - posting some of my sex shots but trying to raise the tone by adding some gay travel and gay art posts (no one retweets the art stuff whereas cum leaking from my ass seems popular). However, in the last 6 months or so I’ve noticed that as well as the porn it’s become quite the hookup app. I’ve now used it for a couple of hookups and over the weekend used twitter to set up a video shoot threesome which was great.

I’m visiting another city and got a few hours away from my companion so checked out Grindr. Various chats but the no-nonsense tone of one message grabbed my attention: “hey mate, you alone? What’s up? You interested in having a load dumped in you?” I was interested and before long he had me come to a unit in a light industrial area, explaining that his parent s owned the building and he was staying there overnight to attend a party. The industrial vibe to the place was hot and he’d thrown a mattress on the floor. We both stripped and I could admire his muscular body, with strong hairy chest, big biceps and a large shoulder tattoo. We were soon down to business with me on all fours. As he fucked me doggy he kept wedging my legs further apart which was painful but hot also. Eventually flipped me on my back which clearly had an effect as he soon pumped a big load into my ass.

Went to naked orgy night at local sauna. Despite the place being packed there seemed to be far more guys crowding around any guys getting it on than guys actually getting down to fucking. I topped and bottomed a few times though not enough to make the night a complete success. Probably the highlight was a session in a dark alcove off a dark room. The dark room itself had many guys in it and I felt a hairy bear close by me. Reaching down I felt his cock which was both thick and hard. But best of all it curved upwards, I love being fucked by a banana cock (As an aside, I have especially fond memories of hooking up years ago with a student with a really big banana cock in a city while on business - I was expecting to fuck him, as I was predominantly top in those days and in the days before apps I didn’t know his detailed preferences: so when, without warning, he shoved his cock hard up my ass I yelled in surprise). The bear gave me a good pounding and several guys pawed at us in the dark while we were at it. Not sure whether he bred me in the dark but he seemed pretty satisfied.

Congratulations on starting PrEP- sounds like you’re making good use of it already.

All guys at the bathhouse are looking for sex but some guys put off vibes that suggest they’re somehow off limits. Avoid doing that and, as a younger guy, you’ll have other guys approach you anyway. Don’t avoid eye contact. Don’t rush fast around the bathhouse studiously avoiding looking through doors or touching or acknowledging the presence of anyone. Don’t rush away if someone brushes or looks at you - you don’t have to go with them but polite contact will keep you in contemplation for other nearby guys. If you’re making the contact you’ll develop you own style and techniques- bold, tentative, vocal, whatever - but generally eye contact, a touch, a gesture is all it takes. Rejection is to be expected, don’t get upset, it’s not a rejection of you personally just rejection of a sexual encounter at that time. Hopefully the rejection will be polite, a small shake of the head with a smile or comment like ‘I’ve just come’, although some guys are needlessly rude or uncommunicative until you’re already in their room - learn from those rejections to be extra nice with the guys you’ll no doubt eventually reject.

I have changed in various ways. In terms of opportunities my first few years of sex tended to be in public restrooms which I confess only to have used twice in the last 15 years (once a street hookup in Hong Kong, the other a Grindr hookup at a South American airport). Now I prefer bathhouses and apps and there are more sexual choices available in the more relaxed setting of a darkroom, hotel or home. In terms of sex I’m far more adventurous now particularly in terms of group sex. Obviously the biggest change has been barebacking, although that’s probably down to the opportunities created by PrEP rather than solely a personal change.

i used to get STI testing at a sexual health clinic at the hospital and you went back to the clinic to get the results in an interview with the nurse. Then things got streamlined and you only came back in if you got a call i.e. a positive STI result. They always asked about contacts but as all my sex was at saunas I never knew who they were. I was not embarrassed with their questions as they were very professional and non-judgmental and knew I had multiple casual contacts from an interview at the test stage. They encouraged you to tell your hookups to get tested and offered to contact sex partners for you if it would be easier for you - a kind of service for the nervous, they would be discreet and not say who you were. With PrEP 3 monthly testing I no longer go to the clinic but just get tested at community laboratories around the city through prescription from my doctor. When I have a positive result he calls or, if he misses me, sends a text, calling me in for treatment and reminding me to contact any partners. With apps I don’t really know who people really are but I do at least have a means to contact them. I caught syphillis last year and found out through a test at a Pride event between my regular 3 month tests which was good as there were just two hookups to tell, the first of which I’d almost certainly got it from and the second I feared I’d passed it to (I felt a bit guilty as I’d talked him into barebacking). The second guy was very nice and thanked me for telling and went for treatment. Ironically the first guy, who was very young, had blocked me on Grindr- I can only speculate why, but suspect he was so immature that he’d already been tested and was either too embarrassed to face his contacts or imagined I’d infected him, silly behaviour in either case as communication is key when getting a positive STI result. Anyway despite the blocking I already had his phone number as we’d airdropped some videos of one of our encounters. I texted him the news but never heard back - probably should have asked the clinic to contact trace him given his uncommunicative behaviour.

Headed off to the cruise club Saturday evening. In the dark room I topped twice and also bottomed twice and was getting sucked both through the dark room glory holes and by guys kneeling on the floor. It was getting pretty tiring with all the standing fucks including lowering my body to adjust to different height of guys and glory holes. So eventually when one short Asian guy angled his ass for me I suggested we go to a room. Once there I stripped off and he lay on his back and I started pumping him. Ten minutes of that, after all the dark room action, and I was losing my hard on but he’d harden me up by withdrawing my cock from his ass and freshening it up in his mouth. He said he was loving my thick cock. He let me take a couple of pictures. Eventually I had to take a break and headed off for a coffee and rest. Later that evening I found him in the lounge checking his phone and I asked him if he’d like to finish what we started. Back in a room I was back pounding him on his back then bending him over on the bed doggy style. It looked like another long fuck and he begged me to cum in him. Then he mentioned he had already taken two loads - something immediately sparked in my brain, such a turn on, and I started pounding with a new vigour and soon gave him load number three.

I used to wear condoms always until about 7 years ago, then mostly but not always for a couple of years, and then hardly ever for the last 4 or 5 years while on PrEP. I actually didn’t have to ask guys to wear condoms earlier as most guys wrapped up automatically. In the transitional period when other guys started barebacking more frequently I did ask people to wear a condom a few times. Actually my decision to bareback and go on PrEP was precipitated by a hot Grindr hookup refusing to meet up a second time unless we went bare, a little challenging at the time but luckily propelling me into the delights of raw sex. In recent years I have occasionally to ask guys not to wear condoms, usually successfully.

I naively intended to make some use of condoms when I went onto PrEP and imagined I’d continue only occasionally barebacking as I had done in the year before starting PrEP. In fact, despite that vague intention, I stopped using condoms virtually from day 1. It was somewhat instinctual rather than conscious and matched the behaviour of the guys I had sex with. However, when I consciously thought about it I decided to continue fully bareback understanding the STI risks but valuing the many BB benefits in terms of convenience, sensation, intimacy and fantasy. Although a dose of syphillis was unwelcome I haven’t regretted my decision.

I did things by the book. Went off PrEP on 27 March and went back on daily regime on 27 May. Took an HIV home test before restarting and didn’t start fucking around until 7 days after restarting. Had a dose of chlamydia in September.

I think a distinction can be made between cumming while being fucked because you’re turned on anyway (say, with a guy you’re attracted to and you’ve been fooling around for a while and anything, say even a nipple tweak not just the fuck, may set you off) and a purely physical thing when being ass fucked which makes you cum. I think the topic relates just to this second aspect. For me it’s not that common, though a a thicker cock helps. A really long cock can give you a shock when it reaches certain spots and the sudden pain can sometimes makes you cum, but more likely to gasp or cry out. My absolute favourite are cocks that curve upwards and rub the prostate. A similar sensation that sometimes makes me cum is to move to a position flat on my front where I can’t move and there’s quite a focus on the top controlling things and impaling me.

Went to Sunday afternoon nude session at local cruise club. Once I had stripped and dropped my bag of clothes behind the counter i headed into the cruise area and it was less than a minute before I was being fucked. Once he had bred me the guy standing next to him was straight in there and gave me my second load. Ten minutes later a guy with a very big cock was fucking me and complimented my sloppy ass and asked how many loads. He said he wasn’t ready to cum yet but would be back later to give me a third load. However, a little while later a guy with a small cock dropped a lad in me. Finally the earlier guy with the big cock tracked me down and gave me my fourth and final load of the afternoon. I was ready to leave and found a cute Asian guy, Thai I think, on all fours in a room and I fucked him doggy still and came in his ass to end a great session.

Mine is @traveller_gay although I haven’t been able to travel much this year - might have to change the bold claim on my twitter that I’m ‘barebacking across the world’.

Took another 3 loads on the weekend at a group sex event, dropped my load in a guy, and then took another load yesterday with a Grindr fuckbuddy. So that takes me to 23 loads taken and 9 loads delivered for the year to date.

I changed to predominantly barebacking about 5 years ago When I went on PrEP. While I’ve always frequented bathhouses that’s tended to be one on one. However, I’ve found that more and more I seem to be participating in group sex scenes. Sometimes in bathhouses but also in cruise clubs, sex parties and organised orgies. I’m hoping at some stage to get to one of these horse fairs and sex camps I’ve read about but I can’t travel to them for a while. Anyway I was wondering what other guys adopted as their hygiene settings for theses group scenes. I’m not a bug chaser and accept STIs are to be expected but worry sometimes both for myself and for the guys I go with later in one on ones who are themselves more careful. For my part my core hygiene practices are PrEP, showering beforehand, douching in advance, showering afterwards and 3 monthly STI checks. I don’t use condoms. I’m versatile so am topping and bottoming in group sex. As a bottom there’s not much I do in the orgy as I accept multiple loads. As a top I try to wash my cock after fucking guys before fucking another guy although I concede that I don’t always do so in the heat of action. I also try to wash my hands from time to time. I’ve never done much rimming but find I myself doing it when I’m really horny and into a guy, I prefer to know he’s clean which is more usual in bathhouses than some other scenes. I try not to do much sucking in group sex as my doctor often mentions which STIs have arrived orally or anally (and I’m not stopping the anal). I try to use Listerine when I get home as I read it can kill some STI germs in the mouth (perhaps that’s a myth). I should shower when I get home but tend not to, unless I’m in a hotel, as it would disturb my partner. I’m interested in other guy’s practices as orgies seem to be pretty unconstrained but I guess each participant plays a part in what they do or don’t do.

I enjoyed the party but only a small portion of the 20 guys that registered turned up (which is regrettable but, it seems, par for the course). Quite a bit of sucking and fucking finished for me on my back at the bottom of a spit roast. The young Asian top came first causing a chain reaction with the middle guy drooping a load into me.

Having my ear lobe nibbled. It’s not that I really want guys to do that or that I seek it out, it’s just that (with the right guy) when it unexpectedly happens it can be so gentle and intimate as to be a real turn on.

Good day for me, took two loads in two encounters. I had registered to join a bareback party in the late afternoon but before lunch decided to try Grindr. Got hit up by a young Asian guy, my type, almost immediately and was at his apartment within 30 minutes. A bit of a downer was that he messages to say ‘safe fuck only’ but I decided to try my luck. Most of my hookups get down to fucking pretty quickly but this guy was sweet (and really fit and good looking - with a big cock) and spent a lot of time on foreplay with caressing, licking, sucking, nipple squeezing, frottage and kissing. It was so hot I lost control and came before the main event. He made no fuss but jerked off on me and continued to cuddle and before long I was hard again. Laying on top of me he gently rubbed his semi-hard cock against my hole and was hard himself before long. With my legs in the air it was clear he was going to top me and he asked if I needed lube. He lubed up his cock and it was obvious he wasn’t going to use a condom. A great fuck ensued but, perhaps due to his safe sex ideas, pulled out at the last second, and came on my asshole. It occured to me that it was just as well I had hooked up before the party as I wouldn’t have wanted to come prematurely in a group scene. I got to the bareback sex party and things got under way. A hot young Vietnamese guy with a long hard but thin cock was getting particular attention. The main highlight for me was being the bottom in a spit roast where the Vietnamese guy came in the middle guy who then came in me.

I’m planning to be there

I’ve been to saunas in Hong Kong, Japan, Philippines, Singapore, Taipei and Thailand. I can’t recall a sauna in Macau where I successfully used Grindr. I loved the bathhouses in Tokyo and Osaka but it was several years back and all condoms. In Hong Kong I’ve used places in HK and Kowloon, variable quality, but haven’t used recently as I’ve now got a fuckbuddy there who insisted on screwing me exclusively on my last three visits, usually three times a night. I recall barebacking in saunas in Singapore, Taipei and Bangkok. I’ve visited Bangkok Babylon many times and barebacking is more common there now but probably still encountered condoms about 20% of the time.

Went to a bathhouse in a neighbouring city. Fairly quiet. First hookup was with an Asian guy standing in an alcove. He had a hard upward pointing cock, ok length but pencil thin, got my ass onto his cock for a few thrusts but he soon pulled out and I guessed he really was a bottom which I confirmed with a grasp of his ass, following which we headed for a room. I lubed up and was disappointed when he insisted on a condom. Reluctantly I donned a rubber and started entering him but he was one of these “please go slow” guys and the slowness, his tight asshole and the condom combined to kill my boner. I explained to him that the condom was making me soft and he didn’t object when I took it off and started entering him raw. However the damage was done and with his tightness, my softness and his disapproving attitude I soon gave up. Later in the evening I headed for the hot tub and joined a tall older guy. We chatted and he started plying with my cock with his foot. Then with his hands, he was quite taken with its thickness and hardness. Eventually we showered then headed for a room. This time he apologised about not being hard enough to fuck me. I said I’d see what I could do to help and started sucking his thick cut cock. I got it sufficiently hard that he was able to enter me and start thrusting. No suggestion of a condom, just raw meat. I soon took his load.

I went off PrEP for 8 weeks over lockdown but am back on daily prep for over 2 months now. My sex drive has remained constant throughout although it may not be a great experiment as I had no access to bareback sex during lockdown, only with myself. Actually the other liberating effect of PrEP is my willingness to fuck with POZ guys. Previously I had notionally to treat everyone as a risk and use condoms or decline to fuck. I never asked people or knew what their HIV status was but suspect I’d have avoided sex if I knew someone was positive. Now I still don’t ask guys their status but sometimes I see it on a profile especially on BBRTS and I willingly fuck with them raw. In terms of sex drive this increases the opportunities for sex and reduces the stress. But it is also liberating in an emotion political sense somehow, one never wanted to shun people consciously but the risk of infection caused an almost instinctual drawing back, it seems that PrEP more than condoms helps restore solidarity and casual intimacy between gay men, or at least in my case. Prior to PrEP I never knowingly allowed an HIV+ guy to fuck me (they may well have done so, statistically it’s likely) subsequently it’s an unremarked common occurrence.

I was wondering about the practicalities and issues of taking photos/videos at sex parties (bareback of course). I’m especially interested in experience of those that have hosted sex parties. I’ve had limited experience of such parties and have not organised one myself. I’ve been to about 6 or 7 away from commercial sex premises. Generally there have no photos and guys are encouraged to leave their phones inaccessible during the action. However, one organiser of frequent orgies that I’ve attended takes the role of official photographer and wanders around taking photos (no one else may). This practice is signalled in advance before you attend. Afterwards he edits the pictures to obscure faces and identifying marks like tattoos and makes them available in a Dropbox to guys who attended. I found myself featured in a couple of pictures, one I remember at the time was taken at the request of the guy I was fucking, in the other it was a group shot I had no idea was being taken. I found it a real turn on. I can see some risks of allowing anyone to take photos at a sex party - you could end up with all voyeurs and no action! More seriously since one can assume any photos taken could, and probably would, end up on the internet then many guys would be unwilling to come to the party if they could be identified in that way. The trusted official photographer would be a good solution. I also wondered if it would encourage or deter participation. I thought guys will find it hot and want to attend such a party. However, might it be more likely to turn guys away?