YourNoLimitsBottom

I emphatically agree. We are all in it for something, I personally am there for the physical contact and the shared sexual energy. All of which he provides and hopefully I do for him as well. I find that when I get more and more into it, so does he, like an awesome feed-back loop of hot sexual energy. I've had to alter my favorite positions to accommodate a cock that may have been a little smaller than average, but I do it gladly because when we work together we are going to make that encounter a hot one to remember. We are all providing a fantasy situation for our partner at that moment. Enjoy and live for the moment!

I'm a bottom, but wanted to throw in this after running into it AGAIN this past weekend: If a guy says and lists he is all top (not vers-top, just a standard top), and he converses in online chat with you that he is all top, could he please during the meet-and-fuck do not ask the bottom to fuck him? Hell, I like mutual oral and 69 in particular, and will mention that during the "getting to know you" phase, but if the guy I am talking to does not want to suck me, I accept it and don't bring it up during the actual meet-and-fuck. I am continually amazed at how many bottoms list themselves as a top to lure in someone, and bank on that person being horny enough in the heat of the moment to say the hell with it and fuck them. I'm there looking for a fun time, and starting out with that level of deceit shuts me down fast and I am out the door. I respect the profile and the conversation, and many guys do as well, but sometimes people's horniness can make them say or post things they may not normally do in an effort to get laid. These sour experiences can make people hesitant and not as trusting when dealing with others afterward, and can have a cascading negative effect on future meetups.

For me sex is mostly about touch and sound. I have been fucked in a day-lit kitchen bent over the sink and I have been fucked in a dark bedroom laying on my stomach as he lay on top of me. But what gets me hot and horny is the feeling of his hands gripping me. The feel of his skin against mine, his cum running down my skin... The sound of our breathing as we get closer to cumming, the hot sound of wet fucking and skin slapping skin... I've never done a blindfold. I would if he wanted it, but I've never felt the urge to put one on myself. When I am fucking I lose all inhibitions when there is no fabric touching my body, I guess you could say when my body is free of the physical clothing, I am free of all restraint. Just thinking about a blindfold puts a small damper on that horny enthusiasm. It may sound strange because I can go wild on a cock in a pitch black room, so you'd think a blindfold would have the same affect, but for me it is a reminder of clothing. If he wants it though, I'd do it. But to get back on topic, for me sex is a free, spontaneous act that can happen anywhere and preferably with no restraints. Restraints for me would be mental, in being told or my feeling that "the room needs to be dark", or "I/you need a blindfold". Now, If you want to tie me up or handcuff me, well, that is a whole other restraint topic of hot kinky fun! Lights on or off, ... I don't need a blindfold or dark room to enjoy myself.

I'm a fairly neat and tidy guy in the real world. At one time, the thought of being a sweaty cum-covered mess would make my skin crawl. It didn't take long for some meet-ups with some hot tops to make me see how foolish I was. Now I crave feeling his cum running out of me and down my skin. And since I love shower sex, the messier things get the better!

In regard to bottoms not showing up, I suggest you vet each one either yourself or have another top do so, without the candidate asking anything about statuses. In other words, they need to prove they will show up and have sex with one person and not refuse the load before being considered for a group. There are a lot of guys out there that fantasize about bottoming, but when it comes time for the meet they disappear. If a guy is will to show up and not refuse one load, the odds are better they will show up for the main event. I can hear the argument.. "How do I know you don't want to just have sex with me and there is no actual gangbang?" Again, the premise is to be a no loads refused bottom... so they should be as excited to take a single load as they are a room-fulls worth.

I'm definitely not hypersexual. I'm sure I'm like most guys, we go about our lives and work and take care of our home, pay bills and have hobbies. Sex is a healthy part of my life and great stress reliever, just like I am sure it is for most couples (threesomes, more some) out there. I've been called hyper in the bedroom, I tend to get that way when the clothes come off, but have a good balance in life. Well, maybe the balance could tip a bit, a little more cock certainly wouldn't hurt! Maybe an orgy week or weekend like I read about in some of the stories on this site! 😁

I like sex to be messy and a sensory experience. I love it when he finally is ready to cum and pulls out, shoots a first shot or two on my hole, then pushes his cock in and continues fucking and cumming. I like the warm feel of cum leaking down my skin, and the sound of wet fucking. Engage all of my senses, and you'll have a slutty wildcat in your bed ready for anything.

Definitely leave any preconceived notions at the door. For instance, I am a neat freak out in the world and once upon a time the thought of cum leaking down my skin wasn't appealing. But when I let myself go and let whatever happens happen, I found I loved it and now I am a complete cummy mess slut. Basically don't over think it, relax and go with it. You'll learn some stuff you don't particularly care for, and stuff you love. Try to experience it all, you never know what new thing will turn into a craving.

I was having the same problem until I started using my interests to meet people. I love board games, and once a month I go to a local game shop to play in their game night where I've made friends. I love to run, and there is a park about half an hour away (living in a rural area, half an hour is considered right around the corner). It has a nice paved track for walkers and runners. I have become a familiar face and made friends there. In the end, my advice is to make your interests work for you. If you are doing something you already enjoy while interacting with new people with that same interest, it makes conversations a lot easier.

Friday night, met up with my fuck-buddy. We both had a long week, and the our Friday-night sex has been a great stress-relief. We switched it up and fucked first in the living room. After stripping (I love being nude) I sucked him hard as he laid on the living room rug, then I slid up his body and sat on his pole. Damn it felt good sliding in! I rode him, enjoying the visual of my white legs straddling his black hips and the feel of bottoming out when I fully sat on him. It didn't take long until he shot his first load in me, and his twitching cock felt great. When I slid off I turned around and we sixty-nined, me cleaning his cock and him sucking on my leaking cock. I may be a bottom, but I do enjoy mutual oral! I was so horny I didn't wait to cum, after cleaning his cock I laid on him chest to chest, making out and licking the cum that had leaked from my hole onto his face when we sixty-nined. We went to the bedroom and took a break, but stayed nude. Like I've said before, when I am nude I lose all inhibitions. My buddy has definitely learned this and taken advantage of it over the past several weeks of Friday-night fucks. When he got hard again we fucked doggy, his first cum made great lube. I do love the sound of wet fucking and skin slapping skin! We both slept all sweaty and cummy in his bed, which we both enjoy. In the morning we fucked in the shower again before he had to go to work. I showered off the sweat, but kept as much cum in me as possible when I left. I like to think that the clerk at the convenience store just up the street from my buddy's apartment I stop at after each meet-up knew what I had just been doing, and maybe one of these times will give me his number. 😛

When talking on this site, I find I use the word "ass" when having a general discussion. When I am getting into a descriptive discussion about what I like/want, my slutty side come out and I start referring to it more often as "hole". In the throes of passion, he can call it whatever he likes, and I'll be using that same word when verbally encouraging him to fill it!

In real life I know a guy looking for a permanent live-in slave. He wants me to come over for a weekend test run. In my real world life I have all of the normal things built up: house, land, good paying job, etc. and I told him ultimately I wouldn't be able to take him up on the permanent position. But every time we talk, he brings it up... and says all the right things: handcuffs, domination, friends who he likes to share with... I have a thing where once I am nude, I lose all inhibitions and anything goes. And I have a fetish for being dominated. I always say that once I am at your house and the door closes behind me, you are in control. My fantasy is to give in and try the weekend to see what it could be like. Let him know I am coming over on a Friday evening. When I get to his place, I strip in the car and walk up to his door nude. When he opens the door, he sees my nudity as a signal of complete submission to him. I walk in and he locks the door behind me... The first night and next day is him breaking me in. Fucking me, abusing me, making me service him. Saturday night his friends come over. I ask no questions and service all of them enthusiastically. Sunday morning and throughout the day is spent servicing him and his various friends that stop by. In my quest to please him, nothing is off limits. I am kept nude, which he knows is my slut-mode trigger. Sunday night he and his friends are gang-banging me and he asks if I am ready to be his permanent slave. I can't answer because of the cock down my throat, fucking me as hard as the one up my ass as I am bound in a sling. My body is slick with cum and pre and lube and sweat... all are triggers he knows about me. I told him wet messy sex is a turn-on, and he and his friends certainly delivered. Then they pick me up and take me out back to the pool, knowing I have a water fetish... and I know I am home.

It varies for me. While I like to get fucked, sucking a guy off is great too. If I am with a guy and we are in for a long night, I like to suck him hard and depending on if it is what his wants, I will suck him off so he shoots that first load in my mouth. Typically the force depends on when he came last. If it has been a while, I usually feel it and love to have is leaking out of my mouth because I prefer to do all things sex completely nude and get the full effect of cum running down my skin. After getting him off the first time I like to work him hard again and then have him fuck me, because he typically lasts longer. Feeling those shots of cum gets my motor running, it helps sell the slutty feeling I have. But I also enjoy the slutty feel of cum running down my skin, either down my chest from my mouth or down my legs from my ass. If I can get both sensations, those explosive shots of cum in my mouth and cum running down my skin, it's been a hot night.

@Phallarchist pretty much hit the nail on the head, sorry to say. There are way more tops than bottoms in my experience, so many more that they (tops) can afford to pick and choose their fantasy hookups. I have found that getting out in the real world helps, going to bars and whatnot and actually meeting people so they can see a better picture of who you are and not just use a few sentences in an ad or online site to paint their mental picture of you.

Sorry to hear about the issues you are having, it's tough when it affects such a fun activity. I was lucky, I had a fuck-buddy top who was patient. He taught me to deep throat by having me lay on my back on the bed with my head over the side, and he would fuck my throat from that angle. It didn't start with full-on swallowing his cock, it took a lot of practice. I had a gag reflex, not quite as bad as yours sounds, but I guess the standard reflex. We practiced A LOT. I got to the point where I was used to feeling his cock head touching the back of my throat, and I could control the reflex, then he could fuck a bit harder and push a bit farther. It took a while, not a long while but there was definitely a time investment. But man it was worth it, and we had a lot of fun getting there! My best advice based on my experience is to start with a buddy who loves to get sucked, and go slow. Maybe try the bed position I mentioned. If he loved to have a wet mouth wrapped around his cock, he should enjoy your journey from starter to full-on sucker.

I have to say it's a combination: the feel of skin against skin, the psychological idea of submitting my body to him so he can "mark his territory" with his cum, the sound of wet fucking when he is cumming and still pounding me, the slutty feeling of his cum leaking out of me... For me, basically the sensory and psychological build off of each other in a loop. The sounds and feeling heighten the psychological lust, which heightens the feelings, which heightens the lust, etc... In the end, I tend to lapse into a slutty frenzy. I like to say I am submissive, but I sure as hell can't lay there when I am driven into a lust, once he pulls out I practically pounce on his cummy dick trying to get him hard again. I like sex hot, wet, and messy, and bareback is definitely a big part of it.

I've never been on either side of a gloryhole. I'm a bottom myself but love mutual oral (69 is divine!). The gloryholes I've seen advertised fairly local online seemed to always stress "no talking, just come get sucked". Until reading this I guess I never realized there were discussions to be had. Learn something new every day I guess!

I agree with the exercises mentioned, but wanted to throw in that doing them with a weight will really build you up. I do squats and lunges with weights every other day and have phenomenal legs and staying power when it comes to riding. The added benefit is that my ass is well rounded and my legs are very muscular, and this seems to be popular with the tops I've attracted. Good luck to you, and let us know what process you find that works for you!

I personally like to see it when people post whatever variation of the "45" age they come up with, because I know to avoid them. In the end, it's their fantasy hookup they are advertising for so whatever makes them happy. I am less than slightly curious as to how it works out for them. My best guess is they end up hooking up with their hand that night.

Last Friday. As soon as I made it through the door and it closed behind me I stripped because I love being nude when playing, it really brings out the slutty side of me. My ongoing fuck-buddy had his cock out for me to get to work on. We've been meeting up for sex on Friday nights because we both need to unwind from respectfully crappy weeks, so I was good with sucking him until he shot his load down my throat. Based on previous weeks I knew we were in for an all-night sex marathon, and after some small-talk and recovery time I sucked him hard again and we got down to fucking. And here we are with another Friday... we'll have to see how tonight progresses!

Not sure if this is particularly rough. I have water and breath control kinks. Through wayyy too many years of running I can hold my breath for several minutes. I'm in a pool or lake and a few feet under the surface, supported by the guy holding my hips and fucking my ass and also supported by the other guy holding my head as he fucks my throat. I'm suspended between them with my back toward the bottom of the pool or lake, my head bent so he is sliding into my throat. I am gripping his hips and working his cock with my mouth and tightening my throat to get him to cum. Both guys are totally into what they are doing and are looking to get off, they don't care about the fuck toy they are sharing. Being able to hold my breathe for a while only goes so far, you'd be surprised at how you lose a little here and there when you are being manhandled and roughly fucked. I'm trying to get the guy in my throat off so he'll relax his grip and let me up for a quick breath of air. The guy fucking my ass is breaking his rythmn, I can tell he is about to shoot a load deep into me. I moan underwater, letting the vibrations flow up my throat to help stimulate my sadistic throat-fucker to cum. My chest is getting tight and starting to burn as I clamp the muscles in my ass around his cock as he thrusts in, and I feel him dig his fingers into my hips as he cums hard. The guy holding my head roars as he brutally shoves his cock into my throat and holds still, I grab his hips and pull him as deep as possible and start choking on his spitting load. Swallowing his cum and feeling my chest burning, my cock explodes, sending cummy pearls floating into the water. Both guys let go and I start to sink, then weakly get my legs under me and push to the surface. Now that I am able to focus, I see that we attracted attention and there are a few more guys collected around us. "Looks like you need some more practice", one said as he comes closer, stroking his cock. One of the guys comes up behind me, gripping my hips and sliding his cock head along my wet crack. I moan, totally under their control and loving it. "Better take a big breath of air before going down, because you are not coming up until"... I don't hear the rest, I don't care, I'm driven by lust as I take a deep breath and go down on his fat cock, and have to stifle a moan to prevent losing anymore air as the guy behind me pushes into my ass, pulling my legs up so I am suspended underwater between them, looking to take their loads and hoping for the loads of the other that have gathered around us...

I like pain, but I want the pain to come organically. I don't want to have a conversation at the beginning to say what he and I do and don't like. I like when the top explores his urges and is spontaneous. Plus, I just plain like the surprise. When I am lucky enough to meet a top with his own special BDSM-oriented urges, I do my best to keep him going once he gets started by throwing myself into whatever road he starts down and being compliant and receptive to whatever he wants to do.

I didn't start sex with men until the last decade or so, and I wish I had started earlier. But even still, as time progressed and I got more experience under my belt, I definitely got sluttier/piggier. I was fairly reserved when I started, give a blowjob, maybe get fucked with a condom. This progressed to relationships and bareback... then more daring sex acts (the first time outside was a thrill) and kinky/BDSM acts. Now I am to the point where once my clothes come off I lose all inhibitions and anyone can tell me to do anything, or if left to my own "judgment" (or lack thereof) I will take the initiative and jump on any cock in the room.

Sad to say I don't get fucked as much as I would like, and am still pretty tight. Based on what I've seen on this site that can be a turnoff. The few tops in my area that I have been with haven't complained, but there have been instances where a lot of lube and patience came into play before actually being able to play. I honestly enjoy the pain of being stretched (yup, giving away my kinks) because it helps sell the "being dommed" fantasies I like to have. I guess until I get into a long term situation where I am getting fucked a lot (as in daily or close to daily and by many different cocks), I'm going to keep up the kegels to stay as tight as possible.

That's five to ten minutes more of perfecting my craft. 😉 Seriously, I've seen variation in time and never took offense or been turned off. Hell, it becomes a personal goal to get him hard, either for the first time or again after he has cum. What I REALLY like are the longer sessions where I can suck him hard, have him cum in my mouth or ass, then work him hard again so he can cum in me again. It's sex and it's hot, but it is also me practicing for the next sex act. I love hearing from a top when they are surprised I was able to get them hard again so quickly (and I also love when they show their appreciation). All guys are different, some of us get hard when we take a breath (as in get hard pretty much instantly), some of us take a little longer, some of us need some inspiration. I enjoy helping with that inspirational journey 😊 so it's all good with me.