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Welllllllllll ...... chances are pretty good that I have a few more miles on me than you do 😄

It appears there's a rather strong undercurrent running through this topic and the responses, which is the reticence to accept one's innate nature before entering into a committed relationship. It doesn't matter whether it's a same-sex or opposite-sex relationship, or a mix of both. What matters is whether the individual that's "hearing the call" to something else had reached the ability to deal honestly with himself/herself first, and then with their partner. It's important to understand that there simply is no "fault" to be dished out. We are who we are, we need what we need, despite the cultural pressures to deny ourselves what we come to realize is a real need. That realization comes to some early, some later, and some never at all. The important thing is, when we do come to realize what our needs are, we share that information - that realization, with our loved-one. Some of the above guys are really suffering, and it's a terrible sorrow. We can't help how we're born, but we can learn to share that which can be shared with a loved one, and enjoy that shared part fully. That kind of arrangement however, must be founded in honesty, and trying to keep something as crucial as our sexuality under wraps is destructive to all concerned. So what to do? Share these concerns with your loved one(s). Allow them into your thoughts, your mind, as you sift through all the eventualities that may ensue. By allowing a partner into the vortex, one therefore demonstrates how trustworthy they are to you, their importance in your life, and that openness almost always is returned exponentially. Some of the above seems to imply that a guy is trying to carry this burden all alone, and that's regrettable. Some imply that they've had discussions with their partner, and that's a great credit to both the respondent and his partner. It doesn't guarantee a positive result, but it does guarantee an honest one. Thanks, you guys, for sharing your burdens with other guys that have gone through the same issues. Some of us know what you're going through, some of us don't, but we're all pulling for your success. The only really tragic result would be trying to bottle up the truth, in favor of some measure of cultural acceptance. No one deserves to live their lives like that.

Philip !!! Nice to see you're posting again ... Starting at the bottom, yes I have. It was mostly what I considered my duty, when my parents got old and sick. They lived 100 miles away, I had left the city where I grew up as soon as I possibly could, and only went back out of a sense of duty. Once I met my life-partner, even those occasions became scarce, and there was nothing (short of begging) they could do to injure me anymore. In other words, I thrived because I refused to accept negativity, thus removing anyone's ability to interfere with me running my life. Put another way, I managed to figure out that I knew better than anyone else what I needed out of my life. What seems different though, is you've found your "other half", but still allow your life to be interfered with, either directly by others, or via thoughts, impressions of your life foisted upon you by others. You don't need to spend time and energy on what others may or may not think. You've been through all of that, come out the other side, and know yourself. Depending on what you're calling "good", maybe, maybe not. Only you can determine that answer, as long as it's your answer, disassociated from anyone else's thoughts/comments. Ever since I left the burg where I grew up, I've lived in places where there was plenty of "action". So the lack of "always-available" action was something I purposely avoided, to this very day. "Was this really a good use of my time"? Of course it was, since you're fully aware of who you are and what you need out of life. Self-realization is a great accomplishment - pat yourself on the back. You're not married to a woman, with a passel of kids - you're with a man you love, he loves you, and he's accepted/endorsed your need for the thrill that occasional "outside" sex offers. The chance to "connect" deeply with your lusts, without any threat to your "homelife" what-so-ever. No, if none of those criteria were met (joy, duty, accomplishment, etc.), I simply stopped. When any particular act, pass-time, membership, whatever either ceases to please me in at least some way, or becomes a continuing burden, I stop doing it. I can't be a good friend to others if I won't be a friend to myself too. On the other hand, I wonder whether we can expect 'joy' to fill our every moment, either. "Life is just a bowl of cherries" is only a song sung by a really messed up lady years ago; we have to accept what comes. What matters is how we deal with it. Sounds to me like you've become a mature, well-grounded guy ... and thanks for your post.

I have a mirror on the opposite wall, so bottom can watch his Hole being used. And, there's a small stool conveniently placed, with a large (at least 1.5 " thick) threaded shaft to raise/lower the seat to the ideal position for the finest dining experiences. True, it would be ideal to mount the mirror on the ceiling, but I was afraid of the mirror slipping out of my hands when I installed it (I suppose no one else was around at the moment), so it's on a wall instead. With 4 or 5 guys standing around waiting their turn, the fuckee probably can't see much of himself, but - it's the best I have to offer. I can't recall any guy complaining .....

Glad you had a great time !!!

This won't give any guy anything more than a laugh, but - - - - I go outside and piss one of the croton's roots. That's how they'll throw off a "sport" - meaning a variation in the colors of the original plant. It takes many months - a year maybe - but when a new variant of the coloration appears, you get to name it (presumably nothing overtly sexual, but who knows ... ), get it registered, and that variation will be known as "your" creation for ever more. (of course, if a "water-boy" is around, the croton goes thirsty for piss, and too damn bad .... )

Happy Holidays, everyone ... Let's hope 2025 will be better than 2024, but still remember that ..... "if wishes were horses, beggars would ride ...". So, be a little bit kinder to others, give a little dough to some worthy cause, look for ways to do some small favor for other folks, and you'll feel better, no matter what the political situation becomes. Cheers !!!

There's an easy remedy .... put the larger ball through the ring first, then the smaller ball, and finally the cock. Then, ease the loose skin through the ring (bit by bit) until it's comfortable.

Neither have I. For instance, the collection of drunks and worse Mr. Trump is attempting to get through the confirmation process. Or a better example would be the unelected-to-any-political-office-ever, Mr. Musk seemingly taking over the Presidency before that term even begins. While it's true that the President's acuity is noticeably fading, so too is the President-elect's lack of ability, showing more and more clearly, day by day. One wonders what the Cabinet will reflect, if and when that relatively easy task is finally completed. Hopefully something more than a collection of drunks, grifters, addicts, whoremongers and billionaires. I wonder just how long the "boy blunder" will be gaveling the circus into (what passes for) order? The R's in the House are like a herd of cats; they're running in all directions at once, but at least Hakeem Jeffries is there to prevent the most damaging errors from coming to pass. If it weren't for the Dems in the House, we'd be in a Government shutdown right now.

I've seen a small "counter" doo-dad in the hardware store I go to. It's about the size of an old-fashioned pocket watch, with a little button that adds one numeral per click. I'll buy one and send it to you. Merry Christmas, and a verrrrrry happy New Year to you !!! 🐷

Thanks for the kind words .... if I could still blush, I would .... but it's years too late for that ....

and not the only one ...

Obviously. And if the above "bottom" doesn't have the sense to tell the Top he doesn't want fulfillment, then he really is "totally ignorant". Also obviously. There's only so much that one guy and expect of another guy - particularly in the fuckjoints. Whenever there are particular fetishes, requests, limits, etc in play, they simply must be shared before the action begins. Anything less is unfair to at least one participant, and most likely both.

I'm with topblkmale .... If a bottom is in some fuckjoint where guys rawfuck each other, and doesn't want any cum in his Hole, then he should make that known before the fuck begins - not during, and obviously not after. In some fuckjoints, all the action is raw ... every guy fucks/gets fucked raw.

A2M is one of my favorites .... but - I always do a "sniff-test" first, since one of my very very least favorites is discover that which should have been previously excused. That said, loads off previous Cocks is always wel-cum ....

It's truly a sad day in the fuckjoint when the "kinks" begin to overtake the raison d'etre the joint is there for in the first place ... Fucking is the irreplaceable component in any fuckjoint ..... the kinks are subservient to the raw Cocks breeding the Holes.

Well, that's true, unfortunately. There are a number of reasons, one of which is there's a r/e development right next door (where guys used to go to fuck). It's still a fun bar, so by all means go, and steep in the history of the joint. But for bar-room sex, you'll need to go N on 4th Ave (which turns into Wilton Drive) to 6th Ave. You can't turn right, but you can turn left, immediately left again, and then enter a smallish parking lot for the Eagle. You must pay, or your car will be gone when you come up for air. It'd probably be most productive though, to uber it. If you have any Leather gear, bring something so you can get into the Leather area ... it's reminiscent of the old days when the Leatherbars all had fantastic back(fuck)rooms. Don't forget to hit Slammer, (sometimes called "321", which is the address on Sunrise Blvd). It's open from Thurs through Sun nights, from 7pm, and stays open until the last load is pumped up someone's gut.

Odd how a thread can be around for years, and I completely missed it until just now ... I voted for fresh Hole, but nothing against regulars, since that seems the best way to "connect" with the most guys. Regulars are always good to keep on hand, like - say - a few frozen dinners in the freezer, just in case, for whatever reason, etc. I'm not thumbs down on regulars - farthest thing from it - but the "excitement-quotient" just isn't there anymore with a regular. A regular can be great for all kinds of reasons, most of those reasons being non-sexual. Convenience, reliability, comfort-level with the guy, all kinds of reasons, but the 'heat-level" just isn't there. One of the best things about hitting Slammer is, there are always different guys there, along with the guys you've already mated with - looking for all kinds of action. The mystery, the thrill of discovering, sharing, connecting with my brothers-in-the-life, is better than any whiskey I used to drink too much of. Even just standing in line, waiting to get into Slammer can be a thrill .... guys checking each other out, the glances, the bulges, the curvature of asses, the vague little smiles, the brushing up against another guy's ass, some guy feeling up a hard Cock in another guy's jeans, it's all part of the magical vortex, all while waiting to sign in, get the paperwork done, get into the fantasies waiting behind the doors, and that just doesn't happen with regulars. I think the best thing about a regular or two is when one of them runs into some particularly hot pig, and wants to share him.

As the old duet (Chevalier/Gingold) goes .... "Ah yes, I remember it well ..." (from MGM's "Gigi")

My favorite part of slingbreeding is that the scene is unmistakable, bluntly sexual, and not one shred of pretending to be anything else. I have a sling set-up in one room of my house, and built a slingstand of 4x4s' in the back yard (and yes, certain neighbors can see it). Obviously, I don't keep a Leather sling outside all the time*, but the stand (w/chains) is always there. There's another in the slingroom, chains attached to eyebolts in the ceiling beams. Slings are infinitely adjustable, they are a blunt statement to any first-timer, and for a more - well - "conservative" household, they can be quickly put away, leaving only the eyebolts in the ceiling visible. The impression a sling makes when some bottom turns up is clear, unmistakable, blunt and to the point. It simply hollers "queer sex is good, it's what we need, and what you're gonna get" *for half the year, the Florida sunshine can ruin almost anything if left out for too long.

Thanks for pointing that out, Poz50something. I'm old enough to remember when hiv first appeared, and I suppose the abject horror those of us active at the time went through has not completely cleared my mind. At this point, I doubt it ever will. I suppose almost all of us of a certain <polite cough> age will ever be truly rid of those hellish memories. The flip side though, is how deeply thankful we are for the advances in healthcare, starting relatively short time after the horrors appeared, and continuing to advance the state of the medical arts to this day.

I don't think I've ever fucked an ftm, but it's really dark in the fuckjoints I hit ... An ftm wouldn't have a prostate, and my Cock always tried to make friends with the bottom's prostate, but it's not like I have a built in "prostate-meter" .... it's only when I hear the reactions that I know for sure I've hit the fuck-button. So, who knows - or cares?

That was about the most positive thing you could have possibly said .... I've heard a lot through the years, but that one wins the "off-the-charts" award.

To the PrEP, at first, I was slightly a bit more "regular" than before, but that settled down fairly quickly. But, I eat a pretty healthy, varied diet anyway ... there's only one (excuse for) food that I simply will not eat.

That's an interesting topic, Thedogsbolloxx12, and thanks for posting it. Mentorship is relatively commonplace within the lives of those honoring the Leather Ethic. I notice that you chose a photo to post of yourself in some gear; perhaps your closer to your answer than you might think. Those men who live the Leather Ethic know well that mentoring the less experienced is a most rewarding task. I'm confident that there are organizations in London that would be a rich resource for you, when you decide to seek out that which interests you. Do investigate Bluf* - as well as others. I can guarantee you, there are Leathermen out there that find mentoring (a relative novice?) a supremely fulfilling task. I just googled organizations in London, and presto - a number of organizations popped up. Remember, however: the match between Mentor and mentor-ee must be carefully discussed (negotiated), so each man knows exactly what is anticipated and what is not. Good Luck !!! *Breeches Leather Uniform Fan club.