HOST OR HOTEL

[faggotsub]

Does anyone have an opinion on whether more guys would show up to fuck BB  hosting or getting a hotel room in a sleazy hotel?

Seem to get  a lot of younger guys that want to fuck but don't show up when i host.

Live in a private location  in a rural area ,,,Maybe they just like to fuck with an old man's head.

See the hotel ads on grindr from time to time...wondered how they make out

Any thoughts?

[theplayerking]

Anonymous groups are always hit-or-miss. I find an 80 percent no-show rate is pretty average. Not sure the venue affects it, but obviously the more convenient the better. 

[VersGuyAnon]

Location is key. The easier for guys to get to the better. 

[Guest]

15 hours ago, faggotsub said:

Live in a private location  in a rural area ,

I prefer to host at my place or go to someone's place, hotels can also be fun and much safer. I used to go to an older gay couple house in a rural area near Brisbane, almost an hour drive from where I'v lived. They only played outdoor 😊

[ellentonboy]

I would go with an easy access motel.   Think of it this way, would you want a group of strangers coming into your home, possibly taking things that don't belong to them and then causing you to clean up their mess.  If you can find a hotel/motel off a major highway I would think that works best.  

Take it from someone who has been on both sides of this issue, having a designated place, that I don't have to clean up (i.e. towels and laundry) is much better than having the luxury of just answering the door and letting a total stranger in.  Sure it sounds great initially, but in the end I think you will have a better time if you take it away from your residence.  Good luck and have fun....

[tallslenderguy]

It depends. if i'm wanting multiple cocks one after the other, neither.  Like others have noted, the flake factor is huge with either scenario.  i go to an ABS if i am wanting multiple cocks. i find lunch or quitting time are best for Men wanting a quick nutt on the way home from work or at lunch time.  

If i am wanting quality over quantity, home with a fuck buddy. Once you know Someone, and they you, there's trust and kinks can be explored, or not, but at least you don't have to deal with flakes. 

[backtails]

I like hotels.

When I show up to fuck a dude, I'm interested in his body and he's interested in mine. A hotel is sort of a neutral venue where men only bring their body — at a house, you see the rest of his life too. Usually it's not a problem, but I prefer to open the door and step right into a sexual realm.

Definitely, if you're looking for numbers, a hotel is a lot easier. Easier to get to, easier to find, easier to park... There's the drawback that some guys don't like going through a public space, but there are hookup-friendly places where you can go in off the street and it's not too open.

[hntnhole]

There's another way to deal with "group" Breeding events, but it does take a while to develop, particularly in sparsely populated areas;

Say you know 4 or 5 other guys that love raw sex (T or b), and you've known them long enough for them to become somewhat of a "regular".  Get those 3,4,5 guys together, and form a "fuck group".  Don't let them get too big; instead encourage "spin-off's", i.e. other groups forming.  Make getting together to fuck a regular thing - monthly, every other month, daily (wouldn't surprise me, ya bunch of pigs), whatever.  The schedule isn't important, the regularity of the group Breeding is the point.  Each guy can/is encouraged to bring fresh meat to the next event, whether Top or bottom or switch.  

Don't hesitate to mention the group to other horndogs you know, and spread the word.  Try to get the word out within the gay community that there are these groups forming in the area.  It doesn't work as well in large cities, where there's easy sex in numerous bars, backrooms, fuckjoints, and it's more likely to "take off" in smaller towns / rural areas.  

The point is, if a handful of these "groups" can be established (naming them can be a hoot), then gradually one group turns into 2 or 3 "groups", and larger events can be planned with the camaraderie of guys that have at least a glancing knowledge of most of the other guys.  That, in itself, will retard any negative behavior alluded to in some of the above replies.  The ability of those who never learned manners to not mess up other people's places, or ghost events will either be eliminated, or the guy will be.  

This may not be an attractive idea for some guys who love the adventure, mystery of cruising fresh meat, but it can be a fairly reliable source of action when getting enough raw sex is presenting a problem.  Obviously, not every guy will be able to make every single event, and that's fine.  

This worked fairly well some  years ago in Northern Illinois, where there are plenty of very small farm-towns along route 173 far enough from Chicago to inhibit a lot of going "into the city" for sex.  Some of those farm boys will take your breath away !!!

[evilqueerpig]

On 1/10/2023 at 12:13 AM, faggotsub said:

Does anyone have an opinion on whether more guys would show up to fuck BB  hosting or getting a hotel room in a sleazy hotel?

Seem to get  a lot of younger guys that want to fuck but don't show up when i host.

Live in a private location  in a rural area ,,,Maybe they just like to fuck with an old man's head.

See the hotel ads on grindr from time to time...wondered how they make out

Any thoughts?

I'd NEVER flake on you!

[PozBearWI]

1 hour ago, hntnhole said:

There's another way to deal with "group" Breeding events, but it does take a while to develop, particularly in sparsely populated areas;

Say you know 4 or 5 other guys that love raw sex (T or b), and you've known them long enough for them to become somewhat of a "regular".  Get those 3,4,5 guys together, and form a "fuck group".  Don't let them get too big; instead encourage "spin-off's", i.e. other groups forming.  Make getting together to fuck a regular thing - monthly, every other month, daily (wouldn't surprise me, ya bunch of pigs), whatever.  The schedule isn't important, the regularity of the group Breeding is the point.  Each guy can/is encouraged to bring fresh meat to the next event, whether Top or bottom or switch.  

Don't hesitate to mention the group to other horndogs you know, and spread the word.  Try to get the word out within the gay community that there are these groups forming in the area.  It doesn't work as well in large cities, where there's easy sex in numerous bars, backrooms, fuckjoints, and it's more likely to "take off" in smaller towns / rural areas.  

The point is, if a handful of these "groups" can be established (naming them can be a hoot), then gradually one group turns into 2 or 3 "groups", and larger events can be planned with the camaraderie of guys that have at least a glancing knowledge of most of the other guys.  That, in itself, will retard any negative behavior alluded to in some of the above replies.  The ability of those who never learned manners to not mess up other people's places, or ghost events will either be eliminated, or the guy will be.  

This may not be an attractive idea for some guys who love the adventure, mystery of cruising fresh meat, but it can be a fairly reliable source of action when getting enough raw sex is presenting a problem.  Obviously, not every guy will be able to make every single event, and that's fine.  

This worked fairly well some  years ago in Northern Illinois, where there are plenty of very small farm-towns along route 173 far enough from Chicago to inhibit a lot of going "into the city" for sex.  Some of those farm boys will take your breath away !!!

I host group events at my house a few times a year.  If I guy is new to me I prefer to get to know him 1x1 before inviting him to the group.  We are a member club of about 200 guys.  Typically 35 or so show up for events post covid.  Breeding not a requirement.  We get more guys if they are free to explore and discover.  

[bbzh]

You mentioned living in a rural area. That for me instantly rules out hosting unless it's 1-1 and even then I'd think twice. Potential no-gooders can scope out your place and rob you later. I vote hotel. There's cameras for one. It's neutral as @backtails pointed out. You will never be able to discourage flaking, so look out for your own comfort and safety before trying to accommodate those who don't have your best interests in mind.

[BootmanLA]

I will add something that people have kind of skirted around: there's a delicate balancing act between a motel/hotel in a really secure, safe area (which is a plus) and motels/hotels that have outside access directly to the rooms (ie not having to go through a lobby, which is also a plus). Unfortunately, these two things to operate to the exclusion of each other; the safer the area, the more likely it is that the hotel will require all guests to go through the lobby, and the more convenient the hotel layout is (with outside access to the rooms) the more likely it's in a less desirable area.

Plus there are guys who won't go to a hotel in a "nice" area because they think they might get seen and recognized by someone working there (unlikely, but it can happen), as well as guys who won't go to a hotel in a sketchier area because it's, well, sketchy.

I wouldn't recommend a really seedy area (it might seem appealing, but it's likely to cut into your numbers). What you're looking for, generally, is an older motel-style place with outside room doors in a not terrible area - like near a major interstate exit. Scope out the building and find where there's more parking than average (typically, at the far end of the building away from the desk) and request a room in that part of the building. That puts your transient visitors as far from the eyes at the front desk as possible.

[topblkmale]

Best bet would be a Motel 6 kind of place off of a major interstate in an OK suburb with direct access to restaurants/shopping center so you get more foot traffic if using a hook-up app.

[ErosWired]

Location, location, location.

Hosting in a rural home is not a recipe for success if you’re trying to draw numbers. Neither is hosting at a hotel if the hotel is not well situated. (Note that many of us use “host” regardless of the location simply to mean that we’re the ones providing the venue.)

A hotel should be located for convenient approach, near a major road, or better yet, an intersection, with available parking, and ideally within a mile of bars, dining, entertainment, sporting or retail establishments. It can also be useful if near residential areas, but know something of the composition of the neighborhood. Some will be better than others.

 I try to avoid hotels surrounded by industrial areas - these might seem the place to snare men as they get off work, but once that narrow window passes, they become dead zones.

Airport areas are also a two-sided coin - while they give access to people on the move, a hotel adjacent to an airport has vast acreage next to it with no houses or businesses, just runways and hangars.

An app like Sniffies can be very useful in scoping out the best-situated hotels - you can determine visually where the clusters of men are in a location, and then determine which hotels are closest to the densest groupings of likely participants.

[Guest]

Never host groups at my house. I have nice things that I don't want to vanish. Always one on one at home.

 

Hotel for group but set expectations low unless you're a porn star. And even they see the flakes. Dude had 80+ people signed up for his BBRT party. His Twitter said "thanks for the 12 loads Fort Lauderdale" the next day.