tallslenderguy

may you never get past this part, i think they are wonderful parts of you.

i'm so inclined, i have to guard against embracing what isn't there lol. Your story is sweet and my heart breaks for your loss while it is glad for what you had. Life can be bitter sweet. The pandemic is only a moment in the grand scheme of things, hard to feel that in the middle of it though. May you find another love. i am not one who thinks there is only one "soul mate," just that chemistry can be hard to find.

i'm such a fucking romantic, i have to guard myself sometimes with FB's because i'm such a romantic and wanna fall in love and give my heart. Life has taught me not to give my heart to easily, but i have never reached a place where it's sealed off or not wanting to be hopelessly and helplessly in love lol. So far, it's never been mutual or a the few possibilties just seemed too star crossed. The older i get, the less possibility i see for it, older guys seem more emotionally unavaialble. i get how a lot of older guys go for younger, especially my generation and earlier. Our youth didn't have the opportunities for love that exist now it seems, so it's like trying to revisit and get back something that wasn't available and still has a hole that hasn't been filled (so to speak lol). i somehow got on a mailing list for Udatz, lots of gay stories with lust and romance woven in, been reading a lot. They sent a copy of a short gay film today, was really sweet and the visuals were very well done. If you're a romantic, you'll prolly like it (it isn't racey or porn guys, just a sweet short story of gay romance). Any other romantics out there?

i don’t. The kind of guy you describe doesn’t turn me on, I’ll take him and his cock if he wants to breed, but that type doesn’t turn me on. i’m not sure we can figure out all the whys of attraction? I don’t think our emotions always make sense. I don’t like bullies at all, but a guy who sees into me and can affectionately humiliate me or make me feel awkward knowing I can’t help wanting what He is serving up, He owns me. So not like what I describe is so obviously sane and what you describe not. I think the power of deep connection is personal and a little mysterious, but awesome. ❤️

i'm writing this on the fly before work, so haven't thought it out, but i think BB is a risk reduction. I.e., breeding vs oral. The virus enters the body via the nose, mouth or eyes. Wearing an N95 while you fuck and washing your hands before and after. Changing clothes after. Use glory holes and only fuck. Shower after and change your clothes. Learn to avoid touching any part of your face after contact with another person or being in a place with a GH. Finding ways to have sex without touching our faces... a challenge when we start thinking about it lol, but stick to breeding with a N95 mask and as much barrier as possible between bodies, which sounds like glory hole sex. Still have to think about contaminated surfaces though.

i've been fucked without lube a lot... not always available, so spit does just fine for me, but i'm not into dry fucking. my favorite is a Top who loves sloppy and eats my hole out or manipulates it till it gets that way. i've had some who will really fill my hole with lots of lube, like with a syringe, in order to get it sloppy. It's the idea of a Top making my hole sloppy that is a huge part of the turn on for me, the psychological side of Him opening me up and having the effect of breaking down the resistance of my hole, as it were, and leaving me opened and sloppy as a result. i've had that happen with or without lube. i think it's hotter when He is done that i don't have a pristine hole anymore, that it has obviously been fucked.

i think you have some great observations here. Without a vaccine, you are right, soon or later those countries that did suppress and restrict the spread of Covid will still have to deal with it. It's possible that countries like China, the US, UK and Italy and others who didn't initially supress with sweeping isolation and distancing, or started the process late, may fare better in the long run. Particularly if contracting Covid turns out to confer immunity (we don't know yet). Touting herd immunity seems premature at best right now. Suppression is about limiting the number of active infections we have, not preventing them altogether. I.e., sooner or later, most will be exposed and have to deal with it's effects, suppression is about keeping everyone from being exposed at once. There's a bunch of people i work with in hospital who care for Covid patients who think we may have already had Covid. To determine that requires an antibody test. The CDC antibody test is starting to hit the streets and that will hopefully prove reliable and add more pieces to the puzzle. The test will help determine who has had Covid, but it doesn't tell us whether or not having the antibodies confers immunity as it does with some viruses. If it does, those countries that have had mass exposure will possibly develop herd immunity first. On the other hand, if a vaccine is developed, those same people will have suffered sickness while the vaccinated will not, and both having antibodies will become part of the immune 'herd.' You are so right though, at some point we are all going to have to resurface... though gays may do that by resuming activity under he duvet.

i hit the laugh icon on this, then removed it. While i might laugh about this, it's prolly annoying for you guys trying to keep this site on course. i have seen this on pretty much every site i have been on, bottoms or subs posting ads in areas clearly marked for Tops or Dom's to post their ads. i wonder about it. i think language barriers and dyslexia may account for some of it, but i think for the most part it's desperate bottoms trying to give their selves an edge or simply get in front of as many Tops/Doms as they can. A way to stand out? Of course, there's always several, so they still fail to achieve unique status.

On 11/11/2019 at 2:07 PM, Sheath said: I think this is every bottom's fantasy. Yes, that exactly. Cum is a bottoms food. without it something in him dies. Anonymous whoring is like a feast.

my theory (totally speculative and unsubstantiated) is that sucking cock fulfills a need in you. The culturally conditioned response of having a hard time being submissive and your feeling guilty aren't enough to overcome the need/desire that sucking cock fills, so you refine it down, but find a way to do it. i think it's all about need, There are guys who need their cocks sucked by guys and there are guys who need to suck those cocks. It's a wonderful, symbiotic relationship. If you don't do it, there will be another guy who will and you will just be frustrated without your needs satisfied. Now, go suck some cock like you know you need to.

Fun to see how we change. i wrote my original response to this about 4 years ago, now i can honestly answer i'm not picky at all. For me, it now comes down to energy and desire/need. If ia Top wants to cum in me, i automatically want Him and what He wants to put in me. It's His desire that i am responding to. That's what i have come to. And it's not resignation, i end up having this connection with this guy and truly want to see Him get His desire fulfilled.

i've avoided answering this because there are so many guys on BZ that i have fond affection for and outright lust, it would take way to long to list them all. But crushes? That's different. i suspect many of my longer list could become crushes with more contact? idk "Crush" kind of has that school yard ring to it, and is almost a little girly. i don't relate to being either, but have to admit there are a couple of Guys here who take my feelings there beyond my choice, it's just the way they affect me. They are both very different, but both have hit that spot in me and have made me wish they lived next door. find91 and Sunovabesh

idk, i think boy-slits are pretty fucking sexy. To me they demonstrate that your ass is more for receiving than the other use lol. i think a boy-slit instead of an ass pucker is something to be proud of... though i get someone wanting to take it to the next level. 😉

Oh yeah, used to hook during work hours all the time. i've written this elsewhere on BZ. Living in VA in Hampton Roads, big military area. Norfolk has the biggest Naval base in the world. There was a mall with a cruisy restroom about five minutes from my office called "Military Circle." It was a long narrow restroom with about 5 urinals to the right when you walked in and then a row of about ten stalls, also on the right and parallel to sinks and mirrors. It was like an airport restroom, no door, just an S shaped entry way with a guy doing shoe shine at the entrance. It wasn't very private at all, but guys would have under the stall sex all the time, it was really busy. Some cruise standing at the sink across from the stalls and look into the stall in the mirror reflection through the cracks between the doors, then go to the stall next to you if they saw you jacking. Others would just signal by tapping their foot. It was pretty common to have repeats and one guy in particular seemed to be there every time i would sneak over from work for a quickie. It got to where in seconds he'd be sliding under the stall wall with spit on his cock expecting me to sit on it.. and i would. One day he followed me back to my office, unbeknownst to me, and left a note on my car letting me know he knew where i worked now. i had a second floor corner office with floor to ceiling windows, so i could see cars coming and going from the parking lot. He'd park where i could see his car, get out and glance up at my office and then walk into the restroom downstairs, i would go down the stairs to the small two stall restroom, go into the stall and he'd slide under, just like at the mall, with spit on his cock ready to fuck. He was pretty Dom, I miss him.

This post looks familiar... i never forget a cock.

i think it's fascinating how we can have similarities and differences. i don't like force but fuck, a Top doesn't really have to order me if i sense His lust, it's like: "yes please" and "thank you" and that's from the heart. Men can collar me so easily if they know how.

Interesting. i appreciate your honesty. i don't really like the taste of piss either (but i fucking love the taste of it up my ass). Orally? i cannot disconnect the piss from the Top and i think i could be easily conditioned to love it because the idea of it drives me wild. i love that lusty look of satisfaction on a Tops face when He has His way with me, that's as good as an orgasm for me. better really

i love the discussions we have on this site, my pleasure to participate. These to me are great examples of ways a Dom or Top would end up collaring something psychological in me. For me, there is nothing more powerful than a Guy who gets. In my head vs using something like force, where it’s like He has found a place in me to collar and attach a leash. The example of Him talking quietly while looking in your eyes has a hypnotic feel to it that pulls me in completely. Being taken captive subtly is such a fucking show of confidence and power to me. pissing on me in His own bed has a balance in my mind too, but it even more sends a message to me that He is melding me with His territory, as if His pissing on me in His bed is uniting me with His territory, making me a part of it.

What "message" do you want it to "send" ? To read some of the posts here, there are guys who would get into this on both sides: i.e. from a 'Dom' side and from a 'sub' side. i confess there is something hot about it for me as well, but there is a line for me. i am not aroused by bullies or simply mean guys. i don't loathe myself and don't get into guys who loathe me and i don't relate to either side of those who are turned on or touched in some way by that. But there is a different place that is hard to explain, yet i have seen guys on both ends, giving and receiving, who obviously get it and are into it. So i know i am not unique in this. There is an affectionate humiliation that can be arousing to both the giver and receiver. i see piss as a powerful tool for a Dom or Top to exercise His lust and power to arouse through a sort of dominance and humiliation. i don't completely understand it, but how a Top pisses on a bottom can be a very powerful mind fuck. To me, just being mean isn't much of a mind fuck. It takes insight, power? for a Top to use His piss in a way that marks a bottom. To me the question becomes, how does the Top want to mark the bottom, or what kind of mark does He want to leave on/in the bottom? To me, the most powerful 'mark' is one that leaves a bottom bonded to the Top, and i see harm as the opposite of that. When a Top is fucking me and subtley pissing in me the whole time, that sends a very powerful message to me, and it also collars me. A Top who does permanent damage to something material doesn't really connect with me, i don't see much difference between that and him kicking a hole in the wall of my house. idk, it is different, but i am not bonded or possessed by someone who wants to harm or destroy. The power of a Mans piss for me is when He finds ways to use what He made with His body to effect me, or my body in a way that connects to my psychology. It's a hard one, attitude does play a huge role for me. And i can see where a Top might piss on my bed in a way that could have symbolic power... but i think there are other ways that are not destructive to make the same impact. Ways that would assert ownership, but not be, idk, petty? i'm doing a lot of 'thinking outloud.' i don't presume to have this all figured out. i will be interested to reads others thoughts and feelings.

i don't know. i was married for much of my life (religious background). i wouldn't say i hate women, but it can be hard for me to not attribute certain attributes to them that i don't see in men. When i first divorced, i thought i might be Bi because i'd functioned with a woman for so many years, so i dated a lesbian and a transgender (FtM). i liked both of them, but when it came to sex, there was a block i felt that i'm not sure i can explain? i didn't want sex with either of them because of the lack of connection i felt with them, just something missing... and it's more than a cock lol. The idea of a woman pegging me is a total turn off for me, i could get into it with a Man though. Honestly, i can get into pretty much any kind of penetration a Man wants or needs to do with me. i think that may be a big part of it. A (Top) Man has a need/drive to put Himself inside another guy, and i need/want that. Of course that doesn't explain my love of all men in general. i'm pretty much guy crazy in general, even though i'm not sexually compatible with bottoms. Women? i have a few women friends, but i prefer the company of men.

i always douche. honestly, i pretty much do a full on clean out, here's a pic of my shower...notice the cleanout nozzle on the hand sprayer, pretty much on there all the time lol. i honestly don't mind if my Top doesn't mind, for spontaneity sake. That's my primary regret about clean out, it ruins spontanaiely. When a Top wants to breed, i want to be able to bend over any time, any place, i love going with the heat of the moment, never been a fuck planner. 😉

Perspective, eh? In a D/s dynamic, as a sub if I have a Dom controlling and organizing who breeds me, it strengthens my connection to Him because i think of any other guy as an extension of Him, kind of like He is using them like living dildos to fuck and gape me. Though I know everyone isn’t wired that way

Welcome TallTop, this s a great community with lots of great discussions. i've been here for over 8 years, best gay site i have ever been on, we actually discuss things and talk to each other here.

Hmmm. Is the exchange of money an important part of this for you or is it getting a straight guy to do what you want, or do they have to be connected? i've been on some kink sites that have straight subs who have shown interest in being Dommed ("not...including fucking") who might really get into this without the need for remuneration. Are you including the money because it's part of your kink or because you don't think he would do it otherwise?

Awesome DarkroomTaker. i'm just a few days behind you, it will be 8 years for me on May 4, but was a lurker for a few years before that. This site is by far the best gay site i am, or have ever been, a member of. There is always a core group of guys here that i have come to truly love and respect. i've never been a drinker, so never went to the bars. Have tried connecting with other gay guys socially, but living in a small town, just not much available. BZ has been my community. i love this forum and feel free and safe to be myself like i have never been before anywhere else. Even with some of the differences between guys here, i have never felt in conflict or on the outside here. i never would have expected it, but this place has been a sort of family for me, very cool, one i'd happily practice incest with lol.