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or this lol
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sounds like he was conflicted... he did want you, just wanted you to be less rough. my guess is he was afraid of offending or turning you off in the process, so waited till after the fact to express his feelings. i don't think that's the right way to go about it, but i've experienced more guys who are poor communicators than guys who know how to articulate what they are feeling.
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Thank you for your (as usual) thoughtful reply Eros. This makes complete sense to me. i've thought and thought about this topic and reached a similar place. i too am not sure i completely understand,but believe i reached a better place of understanding when i too connected that "i'm not actually humiliated by it" but "affirmed." i've come to believe that the contradiction is between socially/culturally imposed standards and reality. Many consider what and who we are as less than, if not down right 'perverted,' and many of us have been fed this message all our lives. Some of us have hidden in shame or still keep many of our own desires or needs deeply buried, secret. Then along comes a Top with the complimentary need or desire and, like and proton and electron, we're pulled together by a force we don't understand. For me, it feels like reducting something more profound to explain this in terms of physics, because of the emotional component, i guess? i feel like the Top also takes a sort of risk when exposing His need and desire and that it is just as affirming to Him to be able to be who He is with another guy.
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i love foley, especially the idea of a Top inserting a cath in me to empty me, then connecting a cath that He has inserted into His full bladder, or maybe one of these condom caths, and Him pissing my bladder full of His piss, then clamping the tube so i hold His piss in my bladder. i also think it would be hot to have a Top with a catheter in and He inserts the other end of the of the tube into my hole instead of connecting it to a bag.... like i become His foley bag. i think a hollow butt plug could be fashioned to hold it all in, or an inflatable enema plug.
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Man, you are way to hot to withhold your ass. i've been known to buy a bottled water and douche myself in a public restroom. Pretty interesting going in and out of the stall refilling the water bottle, but it works. 😉
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i've written this one elsewhere, but it fits here too. When i did a stent at a hospital in Virgnina, there was a cruisy park on a river with this bridge. At sunset i'd stand in the center and pretend to be bent over the rail looking at the water. When i would see a guy step onto the bridge from either end , i'd lower my shorts just enough to show a little ass for him to see when he walked by. If i felt him pause or thought he was looking, i'd subtlly lower them a bit more to encourage him. Can't count the number of times a guy would come over to me, wordlessly pull my shorts down the rest way, slide his cock in and breed me right then and there, then walk off after unloading leaving my loaded bare ass. Sometimes others would see and take their turn. With all the wood work and at dusk it's hard to really see what's going on on the middle of the bridge unless you really look. Enough to wonder if you really saw what you thought you did? But was long enough to pull your shorts up if you saw someone coming from a distance, so even if they saw you, there'd always be a question: "did i just see two guys fucking?" lol, was very hot
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Funny how things can change. Went back and read my response to this 3 years ago, and while i still am not into smelly cock, i won't reject it even if i don't like the smell. i'll still suck any cock.
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lol, this is about as subtle as a train wreck, but the guy did have guts and style. i think the internet is changing/has changed our skill set for connecting. Before the internet an hook up sites and aps, we "cruised." Yeah, some cute guy/s came up with hankerchief codes, but we also ended up coming up with a term "gaydar" to try and explain the subtle commumication, the visual and other cues that we developed and used to identify each other. For a long time, that was prolly hugely related to survival, being to overt could get you bashed or worse. Here's a few visuals: staring at a guys cock till he notices you looking, then licking your lips. There's been occasions where i felt bold enough to 'accidentally' brush or bump his crotch. If i wanna get fucked, bred, i'll present my ass, maybe scratch my ass... but a more sensuous 'scratch' , more of an invitation. Depending on circumstances, i may lower my pants/shorts to show some crack. If i am standing at a urinal in a restroom, i'll often lower my pants enough to show some crack/ass.
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This is a topic that effects me and, from posts i have read here, seems to effect a lot of guys? i use the word "humiliation" for lack of a better descriptor, but i think most will get the general idea. This is a mysterious topic to me. i don't feel like i 'suffer' from issues of self esteem. i don't hate myself or being gay or being bottom. i don't think i am bad or wrong. Yet, there is something inside of me that responds with a response close to adoration when a Top exercises a kind of affectionate, matter of fact humiliation on me. It feels powerfully affirming-which i find paradoxical, and it is one of the deeper, more vital parts of my sexuality. i know this is where we'll likely find a lot of variety of response to this, because i know a lot of guys get into "rough" or "bullying," or "force," etc.. All are welcome to discuss their thing, this is not a judgement or attempt to set a standard, but an exploration of the overall topic of humiliation. What kind of humiliation to you like (if any) and what is it about giving or receiving humiliation that you like? What are your thoughts and feelings on the topic?
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There is an entire culture (often religious, like Pence's) that believes that there is no such thing as 'being gay.' I.e., they think we are "broken, perverted, sick, etc. etc.." They even developed a whole system to de-gay guys (and chicks) called "reparative therapy." Guys like Pence think they know "God" and, additionally, they think they know what "God" wants and what "God" doesn't want. So, they try and enact laws accordingly. It wasn't that long ago that a gay person could get arrested for fucking with another guy. The Trump administration and it's supporters scare the hell out of me. There are so many similarities to Nazi Germany, it's spooky. Not many people realize how progressive and liberal Germany was prior to Hitler and his ilk. i love the movie "Cabaret" for it's representation of culture prior to and after Nazi's got in power. i don't doubt for a second that if guys like Pence had their way, being gay would be illegal, sites like BZ would not exist and many of us would be in prison. We might be given the 'choice' of reparative therapy at our trials.
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i work in healthcare (critical care nurse), so naturally my mind sees other uses for stuff used at work. Here's a fun one, "condom catheters." A tube is attached to the end of these so the urine can flow into a bag... but of course, the end of the tube can go anywhere you like 😉 https://www.shopcatheters.com/p-coloplast-freedom-clear-silicone-self-adhering-male-external-condom-catheter.html?gclid=EAIaIQobChMIjeP0l5794QIVgsVkCh1o9AFoEAYYBiABEgIuz_D_BwE
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This is what i use. It's a 60ml syringe. By contrast i think the blue one pictured is 10ml in size?
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i don't think i'd go to the trouble of trying to get the cum from a condom out of the condom and into this. i have a simple method when i find a used condom where i just put it in my hole while turning it inside out. I.e., i put my finger on the filled in and push that part into my hole. The friction from the sides of my hole wipe all the cum off the condom and leave it in my hole... where it belongs 😉
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Ha, interesting. That almost seems kind of obvious when one looks at it, but i never connected that. i have a long term fantasy of being stealth booty bumped, but suspect the reality would not be as hot as the fantasy. i have 50 mL syringes that i fill with Elbow Grease lube and leave out for hook ups to use on me when they find me presenting my hole for them. i have yet to ever have a guy use one of them one me? They always go for the jar or bottle of lube? As for using it for cum? i wish more guys valued their seed and were careful/thoughful about wasting cum when jacking off. i wish all Tops saved their cum with the intent of eventually insemenating a bottom with their seed. If that were common mentality, these things would be common too?
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Ditto this. Kissing is a mystery to me. i'll take and love any guy who needs/wants to breed, but my response to kissing is more emotionally refined? That may just be a matter of evolution for me, because i didn't always have the universal love for guys that i do now. I.e., there was a time when i was selective about who's cock i took. Now, sex is so much deeper than a physical act for me, at the risk of sounding flakey, it's practically spiritual. It's important to me that the guys i'm with know how much i love and appreciate them, and i find that isn't hard to do the more i do it. It seems most guys are more experienced expressing their selves with their cocks than they are with their lips (i.e. "kissing"). Just like their are guys who are more in touch with what they are actually doing with their cocks, their are guys who seem more in touch with the effects of their kisses. To me, the "art form" involves reading the responses of the kissed guy and kissing accordingly. i've had guys who were so good at this that their kisses seemingly put me into a trance. i've also had guys who were so disconnected and unaware of the effects of their kisses, it was like kissing a vacuum cleaner instead of a person. So, to me, kissing art form involves self awareness and observational skills that increases that awareness to their partner.
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Where did you get (or give) your last load?
tallslenderguy replied to rawTOP's topic in General Discussion
Took a load about 5 minutes ago from a regular. This FB usually breeds my hole (he calls it a "pussy"). Our relationship is pretty simple, when He needs to unload He sends me an email, this morning the subject title was: "hey slut" and the message was: "free today?" He usually comes in my open back door and finds me naked and ass up. He mounts, breeds and leaves. Last fall He asked for a BJ and i said sure. So instead of waiting naked and ass up, i left my front door open with porn playing on the living room tv. He came in, took His clothes off and sat on my sofa watching porn. i waited facing away from Him in my kitchen ass exposed, till He got situated. Apparently, He likes my BJ's, He sure gave a lot of verbal feed back. Since then, He gets a BJ about 25% of the time. It's actually a decent substitute if i am not prepped and He doesn't have a lot of time, or needs to cum ' right now' That was the case this morning, He wanted pussy, but didn't want to wait for me to prep, so He came over and shot a sweet load down my throat. i really like this FB because He is always verbal and i can tell He likes what He is getting... which just makes me try harder. -
reading this pushed some big buttons in me, one of them is adoration. It's hard not to adore such and attentive and considerate Dom. damn, i love every detail of this.
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would you link the plugs you are referring too? MEO has so many, and my search for "grommets" didn't turn anything up....
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It took me a long time to consciously understand that i'm what i term a "social exerciser." When i was a kid i tried running, fail, was bored to tears and had no stamina for it. But i'd play tennis for 8 hours and never get tired of it. When i got older, i became a martial artist and did it every other day for 25 years. When i injured my knee doing a jumping axe kick, i went into Bikram yoga (which turned out to be harder than martial arts). i moved to a place that didn't have Bikram, got a bicycle, maybe rode it 10x, a rowing machine, it's gathering dust in my home office. i realized that if there were other people involved in my regimen, i did it regularly, was like going out to eat with friends, if it was solo, major fail.
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Major Height And Weight Differences
tallslenderguy replied to topstud127's topic in General Discussion
Doggie sometimes doesn't work well with me because of my long legs, seems lots of guys can't reach my hole that way and they end up in awkward positions or standing, and i like my Top to be comfortable and in charge. Honestly, it's the size of a guys comfort and confidence in who He is that matters most to me. -
Any one is welcome to comment, but this is prolly mostly for those who bottom and clean out. We are a generally the same anatomically, but there can be differences too. i know there are others who have experienced this: water retention from clean out. Sometimes that can be a good thing, like when a Top pisses in me. i love to retain whatever a Top leaves in me from Himself, so i've slept overnight with piss in me without mishap. I've been stealth pissed at an ABS and didn't realize it till much later at home. i suspect a guy pissed in me at an ABS once and i was bred by two guys after without leaking, i suspect i'd been pissed in thinking back (deep pauses while fucking). So that's a plus. But there are times when doing a deep clean out when it is tricky to get all the water out. my tricks are fingers, long dildos, or while in the shower, taking my long douche nozzle off the hose and pushing it deep... that can work pretty well cause it makes a sort of drain hole. i also have a habit of 'resting' for a bit in case my body moves some water out. With all of that though, i;ve had times where i've come home from being slutty and have an undeniable urgency and gush water. That's kinda scary because i figure just one long cock at the wrong time could have resulted in a flood. What do you guys do to ensure all the water is out first? Is there a fool proof method you've found?
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i'd change "...I am normally to scared to be so open and public..." to "I was normally to scared to be so open and public...." ?
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i have a couple of Dom friends (who are also a couple) who are certified hypnotists. i talked to them about hypnotism just this weekend and they were both insistent that hypotism cannot make you do anything you don't want to do. Conversely, it can help you get past barriers you have about doing things you really want to do. This is pure speculation, but what i am reading is you did something you "have often fantasised about... doing," so it may have been that the hypnotism helped open a door/barrier between what you do want and wouldn't do for whatever reason. I.e., the hypnotism didn't make you do anything, just helped you get past objections you have to doing what you really wanted to?
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Any tips on training a bottom to stay soft during sex?
tallslenderguy replied to sublondon's topic in General Discussion
i read on this site that a lot of bottoms feel this way, but i don't relate to it. For me it's not a question of "duty' or obligation. Which is not to suggest i think that dynamic doesn't exist, it clearly does. The more i consider myself and see how i am, it's more a matter of opposites attracting to me. i often look at it from a physics perspective of negative and positively charged ions attracting and bonding naturally. i do relish the mental and emotional aspects of the sexual relationship, it's what distinguishes people from ions lol. To me though, there is the underlying drive of Top being attracted to bottom, each needing the other. There cannot be one without the other. To me, the wonder of it is, that each finds their needs /desires met (to one degree or another) in the others needs/desires. -
Any tips on training a bottom to stay soft during sex?
tallslenderguy replied to sublondon's topic in General Discussion
my brain is connected to my penis. i've wondered before if i have ED, but no, it works just fine and can get as hard as ever. What gets it that way can be complicated thougjh. It doesn't turn me on or get my penis hard if a guy is talking to me about it as a cock or if he wants it as such. i love the look of a mans ass, it makes me wild, but not because i wanna fuck it, i just love the way it looks. Even sometimes if i am touching, rimming or chewing on a mans ass and i think i might wanna fuck it, my penis says "no" and stays soft and small. Reading this got it engorged. Control the buttons in my mind, and you control whether or not my penis gets hard. i was naked with a Top recently who started right off by telling me: "since you're a total bottom, you don't really have a cock, it's really more of a clit. Since your primary sex organ is your hole, you really have a pussy and a clit." He was completely matter of fact about it. He wasn't being forceful or trying to be mean, He was talking almost casually. It was His manner as well as what He was saying that totally pushed my buttons, and my penis got hard. He smiled at me and said: "isn't that sweet? your body knows what I am saying is true, and your sweet little clit responded and got engorged with blood. It can be natural for a clit to get arroused by a Man who understands it." He turned me over and proceeded to rim me and as soon as He started, my penis went soft and small and didn't get engorged the whole time He fucked me.
