tallslenderguy

I'm not "always" thinking of it, I have a job where I keep people alive and sometimes have to focus on other stuff. But getting bred is always just under the surface when it isn't on the surface and it seems to take little to nothing to bring it to the surface. I will take any cock in my pussy any time any top wants it, that does seem to be an intrinsic drive for me.

I think your profile is direct, but not obnoxious. I find a certain number of profiles that turn into a rant. I get it, guys get tired of flakes or just a failure to hook with the guy they want, so they start going on about what they think is the wrong kinda person and who needs to stay away. I think that kind of profile just drives people away, it does me, even if I am exactly what they seem to want. Also, for me, profiles are static, but I can be fluid, so my profile gets adjusted depending where I am at on a given day. No matter what I write though, and I am generally pretty direct, there always seems to be some who are blind to what is written. I don't know if they are illiterate, ignorant, or if they hope they can convince me otherwise, but I mostly just take it in stride anymore and remind them of what the profile says. I think some guys just look at pictures and use their imagination without even reading the profile lol, Idk. I also think newbies may not relate to distinct identities like "total top" or "total bottom", some don't seem to understand what it means.

Interesting... pretty much 100% consensus. Me too. It's not just the cum that I want, it's what the cum represents, that the top is sated and I now have a part of him inside me even after he leaves.

Ive been a bottom for most of my life... in my gay life. I was married for most of my life to a very sub woman, so I was a top in that relationship. Very recently I have been getting into topping after I have been fucked, if I cannot find anyone else to top and instead of jacking off and wasting my cum. Im kinda surprised by this turn in me. I have always loved mens asses, my favorite part of his anatomy visually, so I checked the "bottom versatile" box... which is new to me.

This sounds about like my experiences at the local sleazy ABS. It is hit or miss, but when it's "hit" is usually get 4 or 5 loads in rapid succession. I love it, cept I'll take any offered cock, guess I'm a total slut, don't want to ever miss out on a load.

I love the hole idea of dark rooms. The only one I have been to is at Hawks in Portland OR. To me it's not really dark, just kinda dim, and it's more of a large closet than a room. I envision a real room that's got a few fuck horses and slings, where it's dark enough that you have to be careful. I wish I could find something like that, it would be hard for me to leave once my ass was in the air and available.

Not really advice (sorry), butt I hear you. Honestly I think a lot of this has to do with the tops technique? I have the same issue with it being uncomfortable, but if the top is cognizant, I find it a hot experience even with the discomfort (I guess because of the idea of it). I had a BBC recently who mentioned before we hooked that he liked long fuck. I do too, depending on the top. I typically have really good experience with black tops and this guy didn't disappoint. It's like his cock was a true extension of himself and he used it like a probe. It seemed like he could really feel my second ring around the tip of his cock and he fucked accordingly, kind of like some tops to with the first hole, just kinda playing and teasing it. He coaxed it open instead of forcing through and had me totally under his power.

oh yeah, this one makes me crazy. I want your cum. I sorta get if the top is trying to spread himself around and not cum right away. But I go insane (inside) if the top pulls out and cums on me instead of in me. What a fucking waste of cum!! Otherwise, I get it. Honestly, I get most of the complaints here. I get that someone simply may not be into me for whatever their list of reasons, and I'm okay with that. Competitive bottoms piss me off. I've been in ABS where they will purposely close the door to the booth next to others to redirect traffic to the booth next to theirs. WTF? that is so stupidly childish.

I can't remember ever having enough cum in my ass. It's like cum is always an appetizer and the more I get the more I crave. Not to say that my limit (for "now") doesn't exist, just that I have never experienced it. My drive does have a pause button though, it's when I cum. I use stroking and edging and that just increases my craving for cum in my ass (or mouth if I cannot get it in my ass). Once I cum though, my craving is on simmer for awhile... usually no more than 24 hours at most, shorter depending on the stimulus. I use cumming so I can get other stuff done. Lately I have started breeding again instead of masturbating to cum. I am somewhat choosy as a breeder (and not at all as a cum slut), I like smooth, slender ass to breed... butt even that seems to be evolving. After I've been fucked by lots of guys and have been edging, I usually cum a lot and hard (I've had to clean my headboard off on many occasions), so I figure it's the right thing to do to not waste my cum and put in an ass where it belongs.

Yeah, he was my second. He commented on the load I already had in me felt saying how much he liked it.

I was at my local sleazy ABS yesterday evening looking for loads and having pretty good success for a Saturday evening at an ABS. One guy was kinda scruffy, he came into my booth vs using the GH and I sucked him for awhile and then he fucked me. He was pretty verbal and seemed to be into me vs just getting off, which was kinda nice. He wanted me to go home with him, but I was just trying to get some loads before going to see a movie, so I smiled and didn't bite on the suggestion. After he came and left, I got another guy who had been watching through the GH. and then had some time while no one was there. About 20 minutes after he left, he returned and came in the door of my booth with a bag, he'd gone across the street and bought me dinner. I was touched by the sweetness of the gesture. I didn't eat it right then and there (I don't eat while I'm bottoming for obvious reasons), and even questioned whether I should eat something given to me by a complete stranger? After leaving though, I figured it was prolly safe and ate while in my car outside the theater (no hallucinations, it was fine). I was a sweet experience though. The guy was kinda shy when he brought me the food and announced he'd bought me dinner. I was totally touched by the vulnerability and thoughtfulness of the gesture.

Interesting stuff... I don't have the mutation lol, though it did take a long time for me to become poz. I've had thousands of loads since the early 80's and didn't become poz until a little over a year ago. It's really not that easy to get HIV, so there would be a few who would beat the odds, but I like the evolutionary mutation idea better.

I don't get a thrill from catching a disease, but I do understand that some do. I appreciate the sentiment behind the idea, but I don't think it would work on a few levels. The two most common STD's out there right now are gonorrhea and chlamydia, and syphillis is finding resurgence. If a guy showed up to this club and was poz for one of them, then what? You'd have to discriminate against the guys (i.e., turn them away) with STD's because treatment does not constitute an instant cure. If I were going to such a club, I'd make sure I was tested for everything before showing up so I didn't get turned away, so I guess it would be a way to ensure not getting an STD. My own take is I think we need to remove the stigma of sex and having an STD. No one is made to feel ashamed about catching a cold from someone they kissed, there is no shame in catching a bacterial or viral infection from someone you had sex with. I like when clubs or bath houses have clinic nights where guys can get tested. I think it would be great to have STD clinics next door where you can get tested and get meds if necessary all in one stop. If we were progressive enough to de-stigmatize the process, it would be cool to have a quarterly "National Get Tested Week." Imagine the reduction in STD's that would result if we did that for just a few years?

As others have alluded to, I think cruising places have fallen out of favor because of the smart phone/cruising aps and the net. I was living in Virginia Beach/Hampton Roads (VB and surrounding areas like Norfolk VA) during the cruising hey day. That area is built on the Chesapeake Bay and has the largest Naval base in the world, so lots of military. There were several very cruisy places in the 80's and 90's. Ocean View Beach would have at least 10 guys cruising during slow times and 40 or 50 was not unusual. It was a social gathering as well as a cruising place. Across the bay was Grand View natural preserve, you had to hike back almost a mile on sand dunes, but there was nude 'sun bathing' the further you'd go, and sex out in the open... sort of. Lots of mall rest rooms where you could go pretty much any time where fucking and sucking happened under the stall walls and through GH's. This was Virginia and there were always vice cops to worry about. I got arrested in '98 for asking an undercover cop to fuck me. It was always total entrapment. They'd pretend to be gay and cruising and were usually hot. I got charged using a 100 year old sodomy law that made sex with another male a felony. The attorney general at the time was a religious right winger who used fear of gays as a platform to further his career, so he instructed his DA's to go for blood. I hired a very expensive lawyer who knew the game and it took about a year to come to trial in '99. Thankfully things had progressed enough, even in the south, where it was no longer considered to be evil to be gay, and the judge immediately lowered it to a misdemeanor. He asked my lawyer what he wanted to do and he said back to the judge "I don't know, what do you think?" He 'reduced' the "offense" to indecent exposure. Thing is, there was no exposure involved, just conversation. I was so scared out of my wits, I just gratefully took it and paid the fine. I was still married at the time and closeted, so I had the stress of trying to hide everything. I'm in healthcare, and to this day I have to explain this to every place I apply to for a job, because they do a criminal background. This is a part of the past cruising legacy that I don't miss. I live in Oregon now, and it is actually totally legal to have sex at an ABS or bath house.

I thought I'd wake this thread back up. I believe some new toys have been developed since this was started, and I just bought one. I'm 99.9999% bottom and have enjoyed occasional orgasm from getting fucked, but that's pretty rare. I've recently gotten into FF, though I have yet to take a whole hand, I hear a lot about guys cumming from "analgasms" and how they are different and longer. I have been disappointed by most vibrating type dildos and recently googled looking for the strongest prostate massagers. I settled on this one http://mrracy.com/review-lamourose-rosa-rouge/#charge (for size and intensity reasons), butt would be interested in hearing from other like minded bottoms on this site re what they have used to get anal orgasms, or orgasms using anal only stimulation... I know this community has some awesome, experienced bottoms and look forward to your input (so to speak)

Like others here, depends on where I am. I don't think of it as "cruising" if I am at a bathhouse or ABS because I am simply naked and available. Cruising to me involves clothes and some seduction. I wear something with a loose waste and nothing underneath on the bottom and usually a tight and short T shirt on top (short so it doesn't hide any ass or get in the way of fucking). Loose wasted jeans or shorts because I like to be able to subtly slide my pants down and expose some ass crack as part of the seduction process. If I see a guy eyeing me, I'll find a way to get in front of him and work my waistline down just enough to show a small strip of ass that only someone looking for it would notice. One of the places I liked to cruise before I moved was a pedestrian bridge over a river at a park. It was long, so you could stand in the middle and look out over the water and easily see when someone was entering the bridge from either side. It was particularly cruisy at dusk when you couldn't see clearly what was going on unless you were actually on the middle of the bridge. I'd stand looking out at the water and when I saw a guy enter from either side of the bridge, I'd lower my pants just enough to expose a small amount of crack and bare ass. Love that sort of cat and mouse play. Many tops would act like they were just taking a walk, pause as they started past me, look, then slowly approach to make sure they were seeing what they thought they were. I'd have my hands in my pockets and let my jeans or shorts fall a little more and they would often step up behind, lower them the rest way, slide in and breed me right there on the bridge.

I lean in this direction also. I am not one to put a moral judgement on anything except causing harm to another, so for me this becomes a practical discussion. Essentially, this seems a discussion on how to have as pleasurable life as possible, and who doesn't want that? I love sex and when I'm in the zone it's hard to find anything that compares. From and intellectual perspective though, I want to experience as much in life as I can. I really believe I can do anything I set my mind to, and that has borne out for me. I've been a successful business person, building and running a 14m business. Did a total switch in mid life and now am a medical professional saving peoples lives. I've restored 9 houses, 4 of them historical, doing all the work myself. Ive done white water rafting. I can hang glide. I'm a yogi. I have a second degree black belt. I'm an organic grower/farmer, started and run a farmers market. My point is, I don't think I am special. I didn't know how to do any of this stuff until I tried and just did it. I made tons of mistakes, but consider that part of the learning process. If all one wants out of life is to fuck, hey, go for it with all you have. On the other hand, I think life is full of possibilities and I don't have to limit myself to fucking if I want to include other stuff as well. I'm still a slut and I have a special place in my heart for many on this site because I love people who defy the status quo. Also, just because one chooses to dedicate their self to fucking right now doesn't mean one can never change and add something to the equation :-). That's why I appreciate JizzDumpWI approach/input, because it allows for future options through self preservation. As someone who takes care of dying people, I have cared for many people who are still young who have destroyed their health and are no longer in a place to pursue or enjoy their source of pleasure because of that. They become a burden, dependent on others to sustain them. It's not a fun life for them, because no one enjoys caring for a selfish person. To me, independence is key to a successful life, because dependence takes away choices. I think we are so fortunate to live in a time where there are HIV meds and it is no longer a torturous death sentence to be HIV+. I fuck with abandon. I get checked for STD's and treat them so I can continue to fuck with abandon as long as I can and so I can fulfill my own moral code to do no harm to another.

At first this question made me laugh because as a bottom cum slut, I like to get fucked by any cock. I've had lots of BBC, enough to know that stereotypes are just that: "Stereotypes." Not all blacks have huge cocks and they don't all have a specific approach... Having said that, most of the BBC i have had has been the kind of experience where I have to bite my tongue while getting fucked to keep from declaring my love and adoration. I've had similar experience with WBC, but it's not nearly as common as with BBC. For me it's not the size thing, but the attitude and approach. There is often this focused attitude, energy that I feel when getting fucked by a BBC that totally sends me. For me, my usual desire when getting fucked is the cum. That changes most of the time when I am getting fucked by BBC and I love the fuck process as much or equally to the final cum deposit. Case in point. I recently went to Palm Spring for a sex vacation (went to a gay resort), so I got a lot of cock. They all blend together in my mind, except the black guy I hooked with. It's hard to explain, but the way he fucked me touched me emotionally as well as physically, something I have come to associate with black guys. It's like I fall instantly in love lol. He did happen to have a huge cock, both girth and length, and he was very into working the second sphincter. That's never been huge pleasure spot for me, usually feels kind of uncomfortable physically, and hurts if forced, but hearing his pleasure response when he was working the head of his cock in and out of it had me in total bliss. I'm not usually one for long fucks and sometimes find it tedious if the top doesn't have technique, and he announced before he came over that he liked to take his time. I loved every second of it and missed him as soon as he was gone. He had me in all sorts of positions and had a sweet but assertive temperament. He left me gaping afterward and I savor that fuck still.

I was probably 8 or 9, I don't remember the exact age. A neighbor boy who I had a crush on showed me an enema nozzle when I was at his house one day and told me his mother would put it in his butt. The power of suggestion. I knew we had one at home, so that was the first thing to go in, after that just about anything...especially as I got older as a young teen. I didn't have my first cock till I was 27 though. I was very religious and only fantasized with objects. I never thought of my ass as a "pussy" though until I was much older and some tops started calling it that, a whole different type of turn on when I hear that because I guess in my mind a pussy is for fucking while an ass is being re-puposed (so to speak). The turn on for me when a top calls my hole a "cunt" or "pussy" is that there is no doubt in his mind what it's for.

I'm more into cum dripping, so to speak lol. Once cum is in my hole, i do not want to lose it butt want to hold it deep inside. For me it's an almost spiritual thing where a top has placed some of his essence in me. It is really hot to me though when I get so full that some dribbles down my taint and balls, kind of an invitation for more.

Here's some evidence based info for anyone interested (from the U.S. Dept of Veteran Affairs) "A smaller study looked at both male-female serodifferent couples and male-male serodifferent couples who did not use condoms (and did not plan to use them). All of the HIV-positive partners in the study were on ART and had undetectable HIV viral loads. After more than a year, none of the HIV-negative partners had become HIV positive. The results of these studies show that if an HIV+ person is on ART with a completely suppressed HIV viral load, the risk of infecting an HIV-negative sexual partner is likely to be extremely low. However, there are some major caveats to consider:" you can read the whole thing here http://www.hiv.va.gov/patient/faqs/transmission-of-undetectable-virus.asp

Yeah, this. I too am a healthcare worker. I do so many assessments that the questions are just data for me to use to help you. If I don't have the data, my help is going to be affected. Like madeupname, when it comes to some questions like alcohol I, and most of my peers I have discussed this with, at least double the answer. I work on a critical care unit in a hospital, so the people I see are there for emergent conditions. If I get a patient in for a heart attack, or whatever, I need to know if they are alcohol dependent because once they pass the 18-24 hour mark without a drink, they can start heading into withdrawal symptoms that I can treat and ease if I know about it. If we suspect, we just put the order set for ativan in their drug MAR so we have it if we need it lol. I had a patient recently who was in for low blood pressure. That happened because he had and infection. He also happened to be HIV poz. It turned out that the infection he had was from his pet snakes... you fill in the blanks lol. He told us after we did some extensive tests. The poor guy was miserable from diarrhea he'd had for a couple of months from the a GI infection, and finally got dehydrated and had electrolyte imbalance from all the fluid loss. If his PCP had known about the snakes, could've educated him about stuff he didn't know about diseases they can transmit.

Hi Sunovabesh, Not sure how much I can add to the great responses of Phoenixgeoff and subbytch. I would ditto PG's input about being upfront in your profile, both about what you want and that you're not looking for a sugar daddy. I think you are so far ahead of many guys, younger or older, because you are thinking and articulating what you think, feel and want. I am sort of amazed at the number of guys I encounter who want one to be a mind reader, or expect others should just know what they want. When I place an ad or write a profile, I work pretty hard to give the reader a clear picture of what they're getting. I really want the same from another. Guys who don't have a detailed ad or profile, then refuse to have some back and forth exchange before getting together are a crap shoot. I know that can be an attempt to avoid guys who are just getting off on talking and have no intention of hooking, but once you get past that you could be on your way to cultivating some fb's. One of the things I think is good about being different is 'different' people seem more apt to question the status quo, and learn a lot by doing that. Not expecting one person to be everything helps me a lot. It seems to be a heteronormative idea that somehow there's one special somebody out there. I get pieces of my needs/desires met by all sorts of different people, and I work to make that reciprocal. I'm comfortable with who I am and I don't want to put expectations on others to be something other than who they are. That's why it's important to be self aware and know how to communicate. I tell people what I think and feel and look for, and I ask others to do the same. I kind of avoid guys who don't know how to do that. For me, finding connections is not about finding someone who'll conform to what I want, but finding someone who likes what I'm looking for. I find it's easier to do that in pieces. For instance, if I am just super horny and want cum in my hole, I'll go to a place that has a GH or a dark room. For other desires like friendship or visual appeal, I have a network of friends. I look for pieces to create the picture/puzzle I'm trying to construct vs one guy being the whole picture. I think it's awesome you're examining this stuff. Yay you!

Ok, went and had a great time... ready to go back. The play areas at the resort were kinda similar to a bathhouse. I got most of my sex just by leaving my drapes open and door ajar, then lying naked and face down, plenty of takers. (_O_)

It's not something I typically do to myself, but I like the idea of it. I like the attitude of a top who wants to make my hole wet and accessible. A lot of tops seem to like wet and sloppy and this can be part of the process of making their mark, but I understand not all tops are into it.