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way to many to recount or even remember. One place in particular that was hot was a park in Virginia that had a bridge over a river. In the summer I'd walk to the middle of the bridge at dusk wearing shorts commando. Dusk was great because the bridge was long enough and it was just hard enough to see that people would question what they were seeing. I'd stand leaning against the rail, looking out over the water and when I'd see a guy enter the bridge, I'd subtly lower my shorts enough to where the top of my ass was showing and then I'd nonchalantly stand in a a suggestive pose. I love the body language guys looking for guys use to communicate. Frequently the guy walking past would pause (i'd just hear, because i was looking the opposite direction and never saw the guys except peripherally when they entered the bridge at a distance, but looks didn't matter). Some would hesitate, so i'd have my hands in my pockets an slightly lower my shorts a little more, slow enough to where there'd be a question in his mind about whether he was seeing what he was seeing. Many guys would walk over, lower my shorts to expose my ass completely, discover my lubed ass and slide in and fuck me as I looked out over the water. They'd cum and go. Sometimes someone would enter the bridge while it was happening, and depending on the feel of it, sometime they'd stop, other times just keep going. Really hot. I also love under the stall restroom fuck, though I haven't done it in a long while.

I've been recently approached by a dom top and were exploring him "training" me to be a "pussy bottom." What that means in our context is that I would not get any sexual pleasure from touching my cock, just from my ass. I'm really turned on by the idea, though I'm finding it to be more of a challenge than I would of thought, even though I've considered myself pretty much a 'total bottom', I've always used my cock to edge or eventually orgasm. Anyway, as part of the process, he has me using butt plugs. His assertion is that by using butt plugs and never touching my cock, my sexual energy will all be transferred to my ass. Using butt plugs will get me used to always having something in my hole and make me miss it when there's not something there, which talking that way always makes me really hard and drippy lol. I still have yet to take a whole hand. Though the idea is hot to me, it's also a little scary and I wonder about being that stretched? Same thoughts about using butt plugs all the time, especially progressively larger ones. What will that eventually do to my hole? His take is that it will train my muscles to be able to milk cock, and i admit I often clinch when I have a plug in vs just being relaxed down there. So on the one hand I am being dilated, but on the other I am using those muscles, they're not just becoming flaccid. As a long time bottom, I've already developed the ability to squeeze and milk a cock with my hole. I took a walk to the store with a plug in yesterday and was kind of surprised to see how I could squeeze it even while walking. I can't walk and chew gum, but I can walk and squeeze cock. I know there's a lot of collective experience here, so would love any input on hole training. What kind of plugs do those of you into this use? Lubes? How long do you keep them in? How about size? What is your rationale for what you using/doing?

fun topic. I was approached by a dom top about a month ago and were exploring him "training" me to be a "pussy bottom." I know some guys shrink away from using the word "pussy" to label or describe their ass hole, and I get that. I don't relate to being feminine, or maybe more accurately: 'girly.' That isn't really a fit for me. But from a utility standpoint, I can relate to my hole being a pussy on several different levels, and damned if it doesn't look like one a lot of times when it gets that kinda swollen look around the edges and is more a slit than a puckered sphincter. I get totally turned on by tops who want it loose and used, there's a hot synergy between our slutty desires. I love when a top wants to leave his signature on me that way, a loose cum filled hole.

So hot!! My first experience with piss was with a fb who I played with for over a year and a half, it only ended when I had to move. We got together at least once a week and he was responsible for either turning me or bring the sub out in me. He never forced anything, but ended up getting me to do stuff I never would have imagined. I never saw him, he always wanted me waiting naked, ass up and blindfolded on my bed with my door open. The first time I experienced piss was with him, after breeding me one time, he stayed deep and pissed. I was really startled and he knew it, but he lay on me and held me and whispered in my ear how good it felt and I got so turned on by his enjoyment, I submitted. He never asked me to drink his piss, he was mostly into ass. On rare occasions he would push his cock between my lips (i was blindfolded). he was always slow and purposeful about everything he did, I could deep throat him because of his slow and easy pace, it actually had the effect of making me hungrier, so I'd end up taking his cock all the way and a part would end up down my throat. I'm not sure, but I have always suspected that a couple of times while doing this he would let piss go when the tip of his cock was in my throat. That was the big turn on for me with this guy, he was always managing to use me in new and different ways for his pleasure, but never forced it, he just always managed to get it... and i loved him for it.

wow, that happened to me too!

too funny, obviously this guy has never arranged a gang bang before and has no idea what's involved. It's not just crazy bottoms, though. Ive encountered this kinda stuff too where you spend a bunch of back and forth time with a guy, arrange a meet, then suddenly he wants a pic and stats, or wants to flip or_______________. It's like bait and switch.

I'm pretty much a total bottom, with an occasional fuck foray. A guys ass is my favorite part of his anatomy from a visual perspective, also love to grab, stroke and spank it. I've wondered that too. If I'm watching a movie that might have some nudity, I'm always more interested in seeing a guys ass than seeing his cock.

I refuse to give in to age (part of the delusion of age? lol). I bred a guys ass yesterday who was older and not my type visually at all, but he put his ass up to a GH and it was hot, so I bred it. I think your first assessment is closer to the mark. Technology has changed the way we do stuff, no doubt about it. Even at places you'd think were places for cruising, you find guys with their phones out checking out grindr. There is trade off. I've gotten tons of hookups on CL, etc., where I am lying face down and get anonymous fucked in my own home. Can't deny how hot that is either, just different.

No talk fuck pretty much describes 90% of my gay sex life as a bottom. Hook up sites have kind of modified that as there is written exchange before, but when a guy wants to talk on the phone ahead of time I don't want to get into that. The written word has never had that effect, kind of like an ad on a bathroom wall for me. I put out an explicit ad: "anonymous walk in breed and go. you find me face down and naked, door open. walk in, slide in, cum and go." Cruising is different and has a whole different means of communication, like others, I find no verbal communication is necessary... I just offer my ass. When I lived on the east coast there was a park with a 150' pedestrian bridge that I'd cruise at dusk. I'd stand in the middle and look out over the water, my back to the walk way. When I'd see a guy step on to one side of the bridge to cross, I'd lower my shorts just enough to show that I had nothing on under, exposing some of my crack. I'd have my hands in my pockets, so if he paused or I could feel his eyes on me, straining to see if what he was seeing was real, i'd lower them another inch. More often than not, he'd walk up behind and pull them down the rest of the way, exposing my ass finding is lubed and wet, another invitation. He'd breed and be on his way. I love that kind of visual communication.

As the name indicates, I'm tall (6'5"). I work at staying slender too even though I could carry more weight with my height and still be within the norm for BMI. I like the way slender and slight look. For me "shorter" can be part of that equation. I've had several short fb's who were tops and LOVED them. For me it's like they're a giant cock, not a smaller body.

:-)... very similar modus operandi here. I usually start out reading stuff here or on a hook up site, or start watching some porn and my cock stirs and I start to get horny. I wait to touch my cock, getting that achy feeling first. Once I start to stroke, I reach a higher level of heat where I turn into a bitch (i.e., just like a dog in heat) where I'll take any cock in my ass. I can stay at that fevered pitch pretty much indefinitely by either getting fucked or with occasional strokes in between fucks. When I do finally cum, it's a lot because as a bottom I'll often go a week or two between cumming. I also cum very hard, the first shot usually hits somewhere over my head and I usually get my face. I can see how a dom could really channel that energy if they locked me in chastity. I've only played around with chastity and not sure how I really feel about it, but I could see things going to a different level if a dom happened to get control that way.

Good information. The writing style reminds me of a 1950's sex ed film for teens (i.e., superior and patronizing at times), but, in this case, the information is valuable.

Cool questions! As a pretty much total bottom, I do not equate "depression" and "just want[ing] to be used." I know there are some who think of bottoming as "just...being used" (not saying you are saying this), but it isn't true for me. No matter how you do it, unless it's nonconsensual rape, permission is being granted and an exchange is taking place. I do not think that what tops and bottoms get out of the exchange is all that different, just expressed and acquired differently. Call a bottom all the names one wants, "meat" or any number of 'degrading' names, but the person using the names obviously places a value on that type of bottom... enough to pursue and invest himself in that person. The reverse is true as well, I think. To me the end result is an expression of mutual desire and the connection that comes because of that. I think of one regular fb in particular who I've had to bite my tongue to keep from saying "I love you" to him lol (probably should just say it, but I don't want to risk ruining it). I've never seen this guy, just peripheral vision stuff, he always gets me face down and anonymous, but I love the way he makes me feel. Sex has always been on his terms (only when he wants it), which is kinda hurtful, but there is plenty of positive in the experience to keep both of us wanting continuity. That is a mutual expression of value. I think there is something hot about the unbridled passion that is expressed in "just being used," but I also think that what is happening is the opposite of "using." Both parties are obviously getting something out of the exchange. One of the things I love about my sexuality is the different perspective it lends. Initially, it was a forced perspective that I fought, but when I accepted myself, I found I can look and be open and honest about how I feel. I like who I am, and so do lots of others, I'm not ashamed or depressed about it. I consider myself pretty rich and am consistently damned happy. Even finding out I'm poz didn't change that.

Size can have certain effects, I used to have a fb who was about 7", but was so big around that I could not take him unless I'd been liberally fucked by several large cocks first, or had stretched with a big dildo. He literally would fuck the cum out of me and I had no control over it. I have to agree with many here though, technique goes a long way. When I sense a top is really into what he doing vs just going through the motions to get off, I get very engaged and enjoy. Having said that, if I'm at a bath house, etc., and have a choice over a guy who just wants to fuck and a guy who wants to orgasm, I'll take the second guy every time, no matter the size. My main desire is not for cock, it's for the tops orgasm inside of me and the cum that comes with it. For me, that's the connecting point, the part of him that remains once his cock is gone. I love that part of fucking.

I was married (to a woman) for most of my life. It was hell for me. Married young and was of a religious persuasion that considered "gay" as a sickness at best. I didn't think there was really a choice, so I married. I didn't not enjoy sex with my wife, but retrospectively understand that it was like being in prison (i.e., you make do with what you have). It's telling that I have easily been with over a 1000 guys, maybe 2000, but have only ever been with one woman. I finally got free of my weird belief system about 10 years ago and am divorced. I was married for 6 years before I had my first experience with a guy. I separated from her after it happened because I thought "I"m gay and I need to deal with it." But the tangle of my religious beliefs was still stronger, so the separation only lasted 6 months... not to mention that I loved my wife. And that was a huge part of the issue, I did/do love this person, but my sexuality was not something she ever (to this day) accepted. She knew about my attraction to men before we married, and again I brought it up shortly after we married, but neither of us believed there is such a thing as "being" gay, we thought it was a sickness or something you could choose to resist. The "hell" part for me was in trying to resist my sexuality. I didn't succeed. I did tons of anonymous sex with guys in restrooms, at parks. I cruised a lot. I got chlamydia and gonorrhea a couple of times and gave it to her... and lied about it. Weird to think that I could get away with lying, but our belief system shut our reason down in many respects. She wanted to believe me, which made the betrayal worse. I fought my desires to have sex with guys like a mad man, but always ended up doing it eventually, the longest I ever went without was about a month. I continuously felt guilt and shame... and desire. There was no balancing them. I compartmentalized and did not allow for relationship with a man, just sex. Again, for me/us, our issue was religion. Once I was able to work through that reality did not aline with my beliefs, I was able to move forward. My wife never changed her perspective and I realized I could not live with someone who thought of me as damaged or less than, though I probably would have stayed with her in an open, honest relationship. For me, the cost of cheating is way to high, though I did it for a long time, I hated it and myself. I love my life now, not only because I am free to be who I am, but I am free to be open and honest as well, not in hiding. I hate that I hurt people I love, but I also understand how it happened and why, so my experiences have given me insight I use every day. Not sure this is what you were looking for, but it's some of my story.

This is a fascinating topic for me and I confess it stirs something in me. I'm not feminine at all. I am a nurse and work with a lot of women and get flirted with by women quite a bit. I'm surprised at the number of women who flirt and touch me, I'm just not obviously gay and not feminine at all. I've had a couple of dominate guys approach me in this way though, wanting to "make me their pussy" and negate any masculinity. I'm not really sure why this appeals to me, I have no desire to cross dress or be a woman, but there is something about being directed and controlled that really turns me on, and i guess there's a lot of guys who associate "feminine" with sub, so by making you feminine they make you more sub? I've worn lace panties for guys before because they wanted it, but don't consider myself a cross dresser or into women's clothes. I've also been with a few dom guys who seem obsessed with making my ass hole look like a "pussy" or "cunt" and who love calling it that. I don't know why this turns me on, because I do not feel the least bit girly. I know what appeals to me is not being forced so much as talked or seduced into giving away my power, my manhood. The idea of being changed by a top/dom into just what he wants is a total turn on to me, there is something about being "groomed" that makes me really slutty, so I find I get turned on by guys who want to treat me this way, even though I do not naturally feel "feminine" thoughts?

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I've got a "raw dawg"... looks like a dog cock with a knot, but it's hollow and fuckable. I guess it's not unlike the "hump gear" bear bandit mentioned. The knot holds it in place in your ass, it's thick, so it doesn't strike me as permeable. It's kind of cool getting fucked with it, especially with the knot, instead of feeling friction you feel pressure/fullness. I tried jacking off with it and was not impressed, I guess it's similar to a "flesh jack" (but do not know because I've never used one). The friction is not comparable to skin to me, so I'd be disappointed if I were the top fucking a bottom with one in. Then there's the lack of cum. As rawTOP notes, this is a bareback site. For me it's not even half a fuck if I don't get cum. I've only used mine once and that was with a friend who only does safe.

I have times when I want this, when in heat, but am not always in heat. My guess is there are tops who are similar, that desires cum, go, change, cycle. I do not have one constant, though being a bottom seems to be that. I don't think desires are static, but fluid.

Great topic, I echo your feelings and questions. I've had several guys who have wanted and tried to fist me, only a few officially though, most have just tried without asking. For me, that's a big part of the turn on. I'm not into pain, but really love having my pleasure controlled by a top. The few sessions that have been incredible for me, making me want more, have been with tops who are really good at reading my signals. I get that "communication" is key, but the form that communication takes is also key for me (and I also think it's key for certain kinds of tops). The tops who whisper and encourage me have a hypnotic effect on me, helping me open up, but it has to be genuine patience on their part. Force does not work for me, seduction gets submission... almost ownership in the moment. For me, fisting represents that kind of dynamic, where the top reads me so well, subtle signals, and encourages and seduces me into opening my hole for him.

As is usual, there is never a standard or simple answer. It is a blanket statement and stereotype to fit all Republicans, or even conservatives, under the umbrella of "hate." Though it is a large umbrella, and a lot of people fit under it. Having qualified that, there are a lot of people who believe that being gay is contrary to their "God." Of course, it is still their idea of "God," usually based on their read of their scripture. But they do not see it as belief, but as "truth" or "Gods word," etc.. I think what is behind the "hate" is the desire to establish a stance or code of right and wrong that is considered dependable and offers an illusion of security. Nothing like being on "Gods side" to make you feel good about yourself.

ditto what others are saying... cock and cum belong in my ass. For me, sucking is just foreplay, not an end in itself. I got pretty good at it and had to back away from what I was doing because I was making guys cum before they fucked me and would be disappointed. If Im at an ABS, i may start by sucking, butt once they are hard I try to mount with my ass, if they refuse to fuck, i'll usually suck them off... cum at the back of my throat is better than nothing. Not into just sucking though, guys who do not cum turn me off.

I think it's a good and valid question, but as has been pointed out, having the answer does not equal knowing lol. I answer "poz and on meds" because it seems the most accurate, since even on meds ones detectable status can change. For me the message is "I'm doing what I can to try and minimize infection risk while still engaging is risky behavior."

I see a common theme in your topic: "worry." I went decades taking lots of loads and only recently became poz. Ironically, I learned I was poz after deciding to go on prep and taking the initial test to start the process. Now I'm on meds anyway because I want to be undetectable. Not a chaser or a gifter. It's just another guys opinion, but you sound to me like you'd benefit from prep. I used to serosort too, same kind of reasoning as you, also worried, but always ended up wanting loads (and taking them). If you are going to continue to do as you are doing, just be straight in your head (so to speak) that you are indeed at risk for becoming poz and the risk you are taking is all your choice. That's just a fact. When I became poz, I thought I had a pretty good idea who i got it from for reasons that do not really matter here. I do know he gave me syphilis, and when I let him know (just as a courtesy), he denied it. He was kind of like your guy, a repeat fucker who would fuck for hours and cum multiple times. I liked getting fucked by him and made my choice, even though I was suspicious that he might be a carrier. Bottom line, I wanted him and the choice was mine whether he was lying or not. I am totally at peace with that and him. It's simply unrealistic (and you already know this, I'm just stating the obvious) to hope you can stay neg by trying to be choosy about who you let fuck you. I'll include a monogamous relationship in that. It may be the cynic in me, but you are only as monogamous as your partner is, and you can never guarantee the monogamy of another person. The risk of contracting HIV is part of being sexually active, even if you only fuck once a year. The good news is, HIV is no longer a death sentence, it's usually a very manageable chronic disease for most. So, if you want a guarantee, you'll have to abstain. If you want to minimize your risk, then condoms or prep. If you gotta have cum, know that HIV and other STI's are likely part of your future.

That is a CDC recommended regimen for chlamydia, it's also a secondary choice for syphilis, but doxycycline will not knock out gonorrhea, which because of resistance now has a recommended treatment of 2 antibiotics (cephalosporin plus azithromycin) at the same time. The cephalosporin is administered in a shot. Penicillin g (also given as a shot) is still the number one choice for syphilis. For a few years, a one time 2gm dose of azithromycin would cure gonorrhea and take care of chlamydia as well (which still has a treatment dose of 1gm of azithromycin), but developing resistance in gonorrhea has changed the treatment to the double antibiotic regimen. Unfortunately, there is not a single regimen that can be taken presumptively to treat all three.