tallslenderguy

Awesome subbytch, way to push back against the 'norm.' We could probably come close to eradicating STI's if not for the social stigma attached. If we had a week or month where everyone in the country got tested and treated, think of how far that would go? But there are way to many social ramifications. Shame about sex and sexuality is a good way to control people because it's a strong and primary drive common to most of us. But we can stand up and say: "fuck you" to the system.

Hi Homo60, There are some drugs that, if taken continuously, a person will build up a tolerance to, where it will take more of that drug to get the same effect (e.g. opioids). Some pathogens (e.g., STI's) mutate and build a resistance to the drugs that have been used to destroy them (e.g., gonorhea). With STI's the drugs are used to eradicate the pathogen, not do something that affects an individuals physiology (like relieving pain with opioids). So with STI's it's the pathogens that we have to worry about building up a resistance ("immunity") to drugs, not the individual taking them. If one is a virgin and gets an infection with a drug resistant pathogen, the same issues killing it apply to that person as the person who has had 100 STI's. Hope this makes sense? (I do healthcare for a living).

I have 3 speculums and this is way more intense for me. I thought of the preparation h, butt don't have any right now. this is the dildo I used https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00C2H0MZC/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o00_s00?ie=UTF8&th=1

I have a fb who is obsessed with a gapped hole, and who am I to disagree? I also have wanted to be able to take a hand for several years, but no one has ever gotten past the opening. So, I bought a couple of new toys last week, big fucking dildos designed for hole stretching, and they were on my doorstep in an Amazon box when I got home from work Thursday. I could not resist, so went right to work trying to get one of them in. I wasn't having much success getting the head in and after a good long time of pushing, took a rest. I got an email from my fb, and that was all it took to get me going again. After some time, I was finally able to get the head through my opening, and almost came from the sensation. That was unexpected, I've cum from having my prostate worked, but never from my just my hole. Once the head was in, the shaft went in pretty easily, so I left it in awhile to let it do it's stretching work. Next morning, I re inserted the dildo. It was still a challenge, butt definitely went in sooner than the first time. I didn't use it yesterday and towards the afternoon my hole started itching like crazy, and i know it's from the hole stretching exercises. I tried rubbing it... to dry, so used some lube and rubbed and fingered myself and that had a dual effect of relieving and simultaneously making my hole more itchy. It's an unexpected side effect. I'm already a slut, but so much of that is a mental disposition, now i have a hole that is itching continuously and craving penetration and friction to go with it.

For those interested...sounding, especially sharing a sound without sterilizing it, carries a risk of urinary tract infection ( UTI, not necessarily an STI). Unlike the digestive system, the urinary tract is a sterile environment. The number one cause of UTI in hospitals is from catheter insertion, and that's being done very carefully as a sterile procedure (I'm a critical care nurse, I do lots of this sort of stuff). Also, it's painful for some, not for others...we're all a little different. I brought a catheter home once and inserted it because I wanted to know how i feels (and I"m kinky), and it surprised me that it hurt. We have lidocaine gel we can use when inserting into a patient. PSA lol

Hi bareall77, Love this community, really cool to be able to talk about anything here. Not sure I've really experienced hypnosis. I did have a subtly dom fb who I think used hypnosis, or probably more accurately, hypnotic technique with me. We got together almost once a week for over a year. He introduced himself to me from CL as liking to give massage, which he did and was really good at it. I didn't realize his dominant nature at first because he was very subtle about it. I've used the word "grooming" to describe it, but not in the usual negative context it is usually used. From the beginning he asserted a sort of control of the situation, and by extension, me. He always wanted me waiting naked, face down on my bed, door open and blindfolded. I never saw him. Later I realized that he used touch combined with whispering and the sensory deprivation of sight with the blindfold to endure a sort of affect on me that when I look back seemed almost hypnotic. True hypnotists might argue against this notion, but he had me doing all sorts of things I never would have imagined. By my understanding, hypnosis requires complicity from the one being hypnotized, and I always was, but this guy had a way of getting me very pliable. There are lots of guys on Recon, for instance, who put in their profile that they are hypnotists and they employ it as part of the sexual relationship they have, I've noticed most often with a sub, so most of what I have seen is very up front about using hypnosis to affect/enhance the sexual relationship between Dom and sub.

I shy away from saying this, but some of the best Dom guys I've been with have been black. I don't know why, may just be coincidence, because it's not like every black guy I've ever been with possessed the qualities that make me wanna be his, but it's happened more often with black guys. If I get your correctly, your attitude is exactly the kind I was describing in my post above. The fact that you can easily walk away from a fuck you obviously found physically attractive because you were "not on the same page" demonstrates to me that you are looking to get more than your cock satisfied, that you want your mind to 'cum' too. I so get that, because I'm a sub bottom who longs to have his mind fucked along with his pussy.

It's layered question for me. I'm all guy with no fantasies or aspirations of being a woman. The only people who know I'm gay are the ones I tell, i.e.., I don't have any stereotypical 'feminine" affectations would likely identify me as 'obviously' gay. I think the word bitch has/is evolved/evolving. It's always referred to a female dog, and until more recently has always had a negative connotation when used towards a woman. I'm a feminist and question all sorts of 'normative' treatment of women. I do not think of women as inferior because of their gender. I question a lot of notions of "feminine" and "masculine" because I think a lot of our attitudes and definitions were born out of a patriarchal (and often religious) culture that hasn't been friendly to women or gays (top or bottom). Having said all of that, I more than love being the sub with a guy. But even that means different things to different people. I definitely do NOT relate to or feel less than anyone. For me being sub is more about power dynamic. The hottest thing I find about certain Doms is their desire and inclination to be in charge of both their pleasure as well as the persons they are using. I really get that dynamic because I was married to a very sexually sub woman for most of my life. As a gay guy, my pleasure came from giving her pleasure. I got really good at it. Too good. Towards the end of our marriage she was frustrated at how good I could make her body feel because she wanted to be taken by me out of lust, with no regard to whether or not she came. But that kind of desire wasn't in me. I'm attracted to guys and maybe because in nature I am more like her, submissive? So, for me, being called "bitch" is more about the guy using the word than the word itself. What is his attitude and how does he mean it? The same is true about words like "pussy, cunt, slut, whore.... "ad infinitum. For me, the hottest sex involves intelligence in the form of 'mind fuck.' To me, the most important thing about a Dom is his grasp of what his sub needs and his desire, enjoyment and abilities to provide that. I've met Doms who like things like "feminization" and chastity, and depending on the Dom, it makes me want to fold right into them. The "dom" who does that from brute force and a sense of superiority affect me as the exact opposite. To me that comes off as bullying and weak minded. I know some are into that, I'm just saying how it affects me. The Doms I am talking about have a purposeful and studied approach, even using things like hypnosis (talk about "mind fuck"). To me, that's like a mental/psycological wrestling match between us, and I'm a worthy opponent, where he 'pins' me mentally/psycologically, but not in a bad way... because the sub in me wants to be conquered. Terms like "bitch" and purposeful things like chastity and feminization become components of and representations of them subduing me. They earn it, and the more Dom they really are, the more meaning those things take on.

Hey youngbbload I have a top fb who is obsessed with gaping my hole. He's largely responsible for me wanting to take a hand because he likes to use his to open me up before fucking, butt never gotten the whole hand in. Just last week I bought some toys with him in mind. I ended up getting the Doc johnson American Bombshell B7 and B10 Torpedo. They're definitely the biggest thing I've tried yet. When I got home from work Thursday, they were on my front porch in a box from Amazon. I work 13 hour shifts and was pretty exhausted, butt couldn't resist playing. The bigger one is still in my toy drawer, but the B7 got a work out. One of the things I'm finding is design matters when stretching (for me anyway). I spent a good deal of the evening trying to get the head of the B7 in. I was ready to give up after a lot of work when my fb emailed me with encouraging words, so I kept at it and finally got it in. WOW, I was close to orgasm in a way I've never orgasmed, it wasn't from my prostate butt just from my hole.. The B7 is the biggest thing I've taken (to date). The thing I am liking about it is it's very firm, so not a lot of give and it's good for stretching. The head is only a very little bit larger than the shaft, and that turns out to be important when the goal is stretching. The head is what took so long to get in, logically I guess since it's the largest part, butt I didn't want to get it in just to have my hole close over a narrow shaft. Turns out that that's opening is the hardest part to stretch (again, logically). I've bought other toys with stretching in mind, usually butt plugs that I wear for hours. Butt they didn't stretch what needs stretching, i.e., the opening of my hole. Most butt plugs have a larger tip and a narrower neck that your hole clamps (closes) down on. The B7 and B10 don't have a narrow part lol. I also looked at anal dilators, and they are designed the same way, same width top to bottom. To me this seems to be the right idea if stretching is your goal. Once you get it in, your hole doesn't have the ability to close back on a narrower shaft... your insides are a lot more accommodating than your opening. I got it back in again in the morning, and it was still hard butt took a lot less time. This morning when I woke up, my hole itches like crazy from the extreme stretch, likely an inflammatory response. The itching is kinda hot in a training sort of way, I could see how a Dom could use it to his advantage when training a bottom hole.

This is fucking hot. I've only fantasized about having this kind of attention.

Im a total bottom, butt still think there is nothing sexier than a mans ass. I rarely fuck, but if i do, it's your kinda ass that makes my cock twitch. yep, yours is fucking beautiful

Yeah, prolly has something to do with hormones, bottom or top we all have testosterone which drives us to wanna breed in our respective positions. I remember as a kid seeing about a dozen male dogs pacing in front of a house, there was a bitch in heat inside the house... and that bitch would take everyone of them. I often refer to myself as a "bitch in heat."

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ha, interesting... as a long time kinky slut, i thought i'd thought of everything, but never thought of dual cathing. I love it when a top pisses deep into my ass, so would likely love it for a top to piss into my bladder. Would take some cath modifications since only one end is designed to be inserted, but apparently others have solved this. For me cath play, and med play in general, is part of kinky dominance. I get turned on when a top does different, kinky stuff because it really turns them on and I become part of that process of getting them off.

As a kid, I had a crush on my cousin. He was a year older than me and loved sports. I was kinda wimpy and he always wanted to play tackle football (when we were 10, 11). We lived near each other, so we spent the night at each others house pretty often. When I was 15 I lived with his family for about 8 months. They were living in a small house and his older brother, me and him shared a room. I slept on the floor between their beds. The older brother was often not there, so it was just me and him. There were times when I thought I heard him masturbating, but was never sure. He had an electric blanket and the control was right next to me on the floor, a couple of times i turned it up hoping he'd throw his covers off and I'd be able to see him. Nothing ever happened, but even so many years later, I still have dreams of him wanting to fuck me.

A big part of my sexuality is being submissive (obviously like lots of bottoms). I have a profile on Recon, but have never hooked with anyone from there. Seems many who identify as "Dom" also identify as Sadist. I'm submissive but not into pain. Sex for me is about pleasure, not pain, though I get some get pleasure from pain or from causing it, that's not me. For me, being "sub" is mostly a psychological thing more than it is physical. My chemistry responds to mind fuck, or what i think of as 'intelligent' dominance (for lack of a better term) vs brute force. I have a second degree black belt and feel inclined to back kick into next Tuesday someone I perceive as a bully lol. I've never done it, but that's the response force evokes in me. It doesn't get me hot at all but makes me feel violent like a cornered animal. Obviously, this is not appealing to a lot of guys who identify as Dom lol. On the other hand, a Dominate top who is subtle and uses psychology to get what he wants gets me very slutty. The idea of hypnosis is a huge turn on to me, especially the idea of someone using it on the sly. I'm also turned on by the idea of being groomed because, to me, "grooming" requires intelligence and finese, and for me that makes sex so much hotter to involve the mind too. I don't think what I describe is really true grooming or hypnosis because each would require innocence on my part, or ignorance of what's going on. I guess that's part of what makes it hot, the notion that the top is getting away with something to fulfill his desire.

I have some lace panties, but didn't buy them and don't wear them because I'm personally into them. I got them for tops who are into it. For me, a big part of being a bottom is not just the physical parts, but the mental as well. If my top is into it, I'll wear them to make it hotter for him... it's part of the symbiosis.

yeah, as far as I know, I'm the biggest slut I know. But most people don't talk about such things at work and stuff. I'm sure most of my friends would be pretty shocked to know how much of a slut I am.

i like it if my top is exhibitionist... and voyeur too for that matter. I love the feeling and heat of lust and, to me, exhibition adds to that heat. Guys watching throw fuel on the fire.

Name to contact by: Tallslenderguy... When in heat, I am a total cum slut bitch, cannot get enough cum or piss in my hole Location: Albany OR 97321 Age: 60 Height: 6' 5" Weight: 190 Build: slender Text only: 502 381 8113 Available: every other week (I work healthcare and work 2 weeks in one, so I get every other week off and am flexible those weeks)

Im curious about the holy trainer too, I've read good things about it and how it can be used long term. I have a couple of devices, plastic and metal, both cause chaffing issues and pinching if worn long term. Ideally, would love to have a dom in my life who locks me in, have lots of fantasies about it. Also, as a bottom slut, curious about having my hole locked in as well. Though I know that can be lest viable/practical long term, love the thought of having my hole locked after breeding or being filled with piss to enforce absorption... among other uses I would think a dom could cum up with.

as a bottom slut, I love my hole used by a top who is really into it. Can't imagine fisting taking the place of cock because I'm a cum slut. I've never had a whole hand yet, but several have worked on it. What i love is a top who doesn't ask, but just goes for it when he is topping me. I've had several experiences where a top started fingering me at some point in the fucking process and just kept going, trying to get more and more in. It's happened that way at GH's a couple of times too. I wish I had been able to open more to accommodate them, butt love the fact that they wanted it and tried. When I'm cruising to get fucked, it's often part of my own lust to want a hand inside me.

I don't feel a sense of "doom" or "gloom" re STI's. To me, they are just a fact of life. I think services like safestsexorg are a cool idea for helping to reduce STI's, but realistically has plenty of room for error because how many really get checked for every STI after every sexual encounter? Still, it would make a huge dent if everyone got tested every 3 months as a matter of course. I also think it's great when local health services provide free STI testing at sex clubs/bath houses. Of course, this site has lots of evidence that there are many who want to have and spread STI's as part of their identity. As a critical care nurse who cares for people who are broken because of disease, I do not subscribe to those ideas because it's not just oneself that is affected by those decisions. I think anyone who wants Prep should have access to it. For instance, if all gays who engage in sex that could result in HIV infection were on Prep, it would eventually have similar results as a vaccine in reducing the amount of the disease, because eventually, all the poz carriers would die off from natural cause and not be part of the population to spread it. Prevention is always cheaper than treating the disease. I'm all for methods to reduce disease. But, I do not want to see our society regress to the place where LGBQT people are considered sick or wrong because of their sexuality. I've lived during that era and I don't want to go backwards, so I wouldn't want just anyone in charge of preventative systems.

" I'm a fucking cum whore and I've even been bred by a couple of guys." I smiled at this, I've prolly been bred by close to 2k guys, so I find myself asking: "what constitutes a "cum whore"? And if I read you right, that is the issue, i.e.., you crave cum and being bred? For me, being "frustrated" because you only want to bareback/get bred when you're really horny, would be like being frustrated that you only want food when you're really hungry. A lot of the food we eat is killing us (trust me on this one, I'm in healthcare and 85% of my dying patients have disease that is totally preventable and caused by diet). So, there really is a parallel that can be drawn, albeit not a perfect one. E.g., you could only engage in bb sex with guys who are 'certified' HIV neg. You could do the monogamy thing. Neither is a panacea, but would greatly reduce your risk. But I'm guessing that "cum whore" and monogamy do not align in your disposition? If you are anything like me, when I get horny I am like a bitch in heat and will take any and all cummers. The in between arguing with and fighting your self is not a solution in my opinion. I would seriously look at how to embrace your inner slut (if it is indeed there). Prep is a very real solution if you fear being pozzed, I wouldn't stop till I found a way to get it.

There can be so many reasons, the only way you'll know is the old fashioned way: ask him. I was married and bottoming 25 out of the 31 years I was married. I was ashamed and guilty about being gay (was religious) and cheating/putting my wife at risk. I was petrified and embarrassed to test. You could buy a drug store test for him, he might just be embarrassed to buy one, or he may just be afraid to find out. He's married and living a secret life, this is part of it. But you won't know unless you talk, and even then, it might be a challenge to get at the reasons. I've met a lot of guys who aren't very self aware, don't know how to articulate how they feel, or both.