tallslenderguy

I love the Bd part but not the Sm, no thrill from pain here, but love to be subjugated.

Good point, it should be qualified we're talking sti's here that are treated with antibiotics.

When I was younger and married I used to hook up on the DL, usually in restrooms. One guy became a regular and would wait for me at a particular restroom. He'd spit on his cock and slide under the stall wall and I'd sit on it and he'd breed me. One time he followed me from the mall where we hooked and found the office building where i worked. He made an appointment to see me, ostensibly to sell me something. I had no idea who it was until he showed up. He saw how my office was set up. He left a note on my car to meet him in the downstairs restroom when he drove by (he knew I could see all the cars that drove by from my corner office since he'd been there, it had floor to ceiling windows). Once I was with my wife and he walked past us in the mall, so he knew I was married. I was scared to death he was going to expose me, and he knew it and pretty much had a hole to fuck anytime he wanted, and he'd subtly hint he'd expose me if I ever said no. Looking back on it as I am now, it's really hot to me because I'm a slut now, but then I was conflicted and scared and he used it to his advantage.

LMAO. I never thought of this. I love PA's and wouldn't mind if one automatically came installed on all tops.

One of the things many bottom cumsluts have in common is we'll do just about anything to find guys who want to breed when we're feeling it. Among those efforts, for me, is the craigslist (CL) ad. I've had enough success using CL that, despite the crazy and frustrating flakes, I keep employing the list sometimes when I'm in heat. For the life of me though, I cannot figure some of the craziness out. I think I kinda get the responses of guys who are prolly married or closeted and just getting off on talking, but have no intention of hooking or chicken out last minute. I can wrap my head around those guys (so to speak). But I'm becoming convinced there is something more sinister afoot at CL. Case in point: I ran an ad today and got, really straight forward and to the point. Even the title was "cumdump." I got 4 responses. and they all seemed legit, but I'm beginning to wonder if there's not some religious conspiracy or something to try and frustrate cumsluts lol? I've gotten to the place where I don't give out my actual house address till the very end, and I like to have some exchange first to try and vet the person and determine if they're for real. These guys all answered questions and sent pics, and got as far as my street and cross street info, but they all disappeared after saying they wanted to come over. This one in particular cracked me up: One of the guys sent a hot pic and a coherent note responding to my ad as if he'd actually read it. Then wrote saying he just got off work asked if I was ready. I replied "yes" and he disappeared. Then 5 hours later I get an email from him "where?" blink. this was my response, but I swear I'm replying to some sort of sophisticate bot... I just can't figure the purpose? lol you: "are you ready now? I just got off work." me: "yes" you (5 hours later): "where?" rolls eyes

"Pig Breeding With Ugly/unattractive Men" One of the things I love about my sexuality is how it has taught me to question the status quo. If it weren't for my sexuality I never would have questioned my absurd religious upbringing, which is just a form of cultural ethnocentricity. For me, that questioning has extended to tons of notions for instance ideas/definitions of beauty and "ugly." I understand that our response of attraction to another person is not necessarily cerebral, prolly largely emotional, but I do think a lot of it is learned behavior... and what makes it "right" or "true?" Being a cumslut bottom has gone a long way towards getting me past my ideas of beauty, mainly because my drive to be bred and have a mans orgasm in me has kind of overcome my learned emotional dispositions about "ugly/unattractive." What's the result? Guys who might normally experience rejection, loneliness and go without have the opportunity to experience pleasure and touch with another human being. So how is being a slut who loves making others orgasm a bad thing vs a discriminating, superior snob who makes others feel rotten to elevate their own self worth a 'good' thing to be emulated and prized?

lol, no. For me it's kinda weird, almost primal, like life depends on it (i.e., pregnancy). Of course, no chance of that, but I wonder if I got some female DNA coding that makes me want a guys seed deep inside me? It's a little mind bending. I'm like a bitch when I get in heat, so maybe I have some canine DNA as well lol. When a guy orgasms inside of me I have an emotional response that borders on adoration, no small wonder that Dom and sub relationships happen.

That's great Hotboi01, I think you are showing a lot of strength and character, which is pretty much opposite of what the general culture would say. I would wager more people get sick using public restrooms than do having sex, but we don't shame people for using them to fulfill a basic need. Instead, we hire cleaning services and try to overcome the issues with sharing toilets. The question is, who gets to make the judgement that the kind of sex we have is wrong, and why? So much of it is tied into being "gay" or "bi" and residual from when society largely thought that was 'bad'. If everyone would get checked once a month for a year, we could virtually eradicate a lot of STI's, but the stigma attached to it keeps a lot of people from doing it.

Interesting subbytch, based on this list and how you self describe I would say you're a cross between some of these, but not mostly "bitch". I really like these definitions though, it helps put a perspective on my own sub nature. I see myself a 'bitch' because I am not into being abused, and object or slave...

Awesome subbytch, way to push back against the 'norm.' We could probably come close to eradicating STI's if not for the social stigma attached. If we had a week or month where everyone in the country got tested and treated, think of how far that would go? But there are way to many social ramifications. Shame about sex and sexuality is a good way to control people because it's a strong and primary drive common to most of us. But we can stand up and say: "fuck you" to the system.

Hi Homo60, There are some drugs that, if taken continuously, a person will build up a tolerance to, where it will take more of that drug to get the same effect (e.g. opioids). Some pathogens (e.g., STI's) mutate and build a resistance to the drugs that have been used to destroy them (e.g., gonorhea). With STI's the drugs are used to eradicate the pathogen, not do something that affects an individuals physiology (like relieving pain with opioids). So with STI's it's the pathogens that we have to worry about building up a resistance ("immunity") to drugs, not the individual taking them. If one is a virgin and gets an infection with a drug resistant pathogen, the same issues killing it apply to that person as the person who has had 100 STI's. Hope this makes sense? (I do healthcare for a living).

I have 3 speculums and this is way more intense for me. I thought of the preparation h, butt don't have any right now. this is the dildo I used https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00C2H0MZC/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o00_s00?ie=UTF8&th=1

I have a fb who is obsessed with a gapped hole, and who am I to disagree? I also have wanted to be able to take a hand for several years, but no one has ever gotten past the opening. So, I bought a couple of new toys last week, big fucking dildos designed for hole stretching, and they were on my doorstep in an Amazon box when I got home from work Thursday. I could not resist, so went right to work trying to get one of them in. I wasn't having much success getting the head in and after a good long time of pushing, took a rest. I got an email from my fb, and that was all it took to get me going again. After some time, I was finally able to get the head through my opening, and almost came from the sensation. That was unexpected, I've cum from having my prostate worked, but never from my just my hole. Once the head was in, the shaft went in pretty easily, so I left it in awhile to let it do it's stretching work. Next morning, I re inserted the dildo. It was still a challenge, butt definitely went in sooner than the first time. I didn't use it yesterday and towards the afternoon my hole started itching like crazy, and i know it's from the hole stretching exercises. I tried rubbing it... to dry, so used some lube and rubbed and fingered myself and that had a dual effect of relieving and simultaneously making my hole more itchy. It's an unexpected side effect. I'm already a slut, but so much of that is a mental disposition, now i have a hole that is itching continuously and craving penetration and friction to go with it.

For those interested...sounding, especially sharing a sound without sterilizing it, carries a risk of urinary tract infection ( UTI, not necessarily an STI). Unlike the digestive system, the urinary tract is a sterile environment. The number one cause of UTI in hospitals is from catheter insertion, and that's being done very carefully as a sterile procedure (I'm a critical care nurse, I do lots of this sort of stuff). Also, it's painful for some, not for others...we're all a little different. I brought a catheter home once and inserted it because I wanted to know how i feels (and I"m kinky), and it surprised me that it hurt. We have lidocaine gel we can use when inserting into a patient. PSA lol

Hi bareall77, Love this community, really cool to be able to talk about anything here. Not sure I've really experienced hypnosis. I did have a subtly dom fb who I think used hypnosis, or probably more accurately, hypnotic technique with me. We got together almost once a week for over a year. He introduced himself to me from CL as liking to give massage, which he did and was really good at it. I didn't realize his dominant nature at first because he was very subtle about it. I've used the word "grooming" to describe it, but not in the usual negative context it is usually used. From the beginning he asserted a sort of control of the situation, and by extension, me. He always wanted me waiting naked, face down on my bed, door open and blindfolded. I never saw him. Later I realized that he used touch combined with whispering and the sensory deprivation of sight with the blindfold to endure a sort of affect on me that when I look back seemed almost hypnotic. True hypnotists might argue against this notion, but he had me doing all sorts of things I never would have imagined. By my understanding, hypnosis requires complicity from the one being hypnotized, and I always was, but this guy had a way of getting me very pliable. There are lots of guys on Recon, for instance, who put in their profile that they are hypnotists and they employ it as part of the sexual relationship they have, I've noticed most often with a sub, so most of what I have seen is very up front about using hypnosis to affect/enhance the sexual relationship between Dom and sub.

I shy away from saying this, but some of the best Dom guys I've been with have been black. I don't know why, may just be coincidence, because it's not like every black guy I've ever been with possessed the qualities that make me wanna be his, but it's happened more often with black guys. If I get your correctly, your attitude is exactly the kind I was describing in my post above. The fact that you can easily walk away from a fuck you obviously found physically attractive because you were "not on the same page" demonstrates to me that you are looking to get more than your cock satisfied, that you want your mind to 'cum' too. I so get that, because I'm a sub bottom who longs to have his mind fucked along with his pussy.

It's layered question for me. I'm all guy with no fantasies or aspirations of being a woman. The only people who know I'm gay are the ones I tell, i.e.., I don't have any stereotypical 'feminine" affectations would likely identify me as 'obviously' gay. I think the word bitch has/is evolved/evolving. It's always referred to a female dog, and until more recently has always had a negative connotation when used towards a woman. I'm a feminist and question all sorts of 'normative' treatment of women. I do not think of women as inferior because of their gender. I question a lot of notions of "feminine" and "masculine" because I think a lot of our attitudes and definitions were born out of a patriarchal (and often religious) culture that hasn't been friendly to women or gays (top or bottom). Having said all of that, I more than love being the sub with a guy. But even that means different things to different people. I definitely do NOT relate to or feel less than anyone. For me being sub is more about power dynamic. The hottest thing I find about certain Doms is their desire and inclination to be in charge of both their pleasure as well as the persons they are using. I really get that dynamic because I was married to a very sexually sub woman for most of my life. As a gay guy, my pleasure came from giving her pleasure. I got really good at it. Too good. Towards the end of our marriage she was frustrated at how good I could make her body feel because she wanted to be taken by me out of lust, with no regard to whether or not she came. But that kind of desire wasn't in me. I'm attracted to guys and maybe because in nature I am more like her, submissive? So, for me, being called "bitch" is more about the guy using the word than the word itself. What is his attitude and how does he mean it? The same is true about words like "pussy, cunt, slut, whore.... "ad infinitum. For me, the hottest sex involves intelligence in the form of 'mind fuck.' To me, the most important thing about a Dom is his grasp of what his sub needs and his desire, enjoyment and abilities to provide that. I've met Doms who like things like "feminization" and chastity, and depending on the Dom, it makes me want to fold right into them. The "dom" who does that from brute force and a sense of superiority affect me as the exact opposite. To me that comes off as bullying and weak minded. I know some are into that, I'm just saying how it affects me. The Doms I am talking about have a purposeful and studied approach, even using things like hypnosis (talk about "mind fuck"). To me, that's like a mental/psycological wrestling match between us, and I'm a worthy opponent, where he 'pins' me mentally/psycologically, but not in a bad way... because the sub in me wants to be conquered. Terms like "bitch" and purposeful things like chastity and feminization become components of and representations of them subduing me. They earn it, and the more Dom they really are, the more meaning those things take on.

Hey youngbbload I have a top fb who is obsessed with gaping my hole. He's largely responsible for me wanting to take a hand because he likes to use his to open me up before fucking, butt never gotten the whole hand in. Just last week I bought some toys with him in mind. I ended up getting the Doc johnson American Bombshell B7 and B10 Torpedo. They're definitely the biggest thing I've tried yet. When I got home from work Thursday, they were on my front porch in a box from Amazon. I work 13 hour shifts and was pretty exhausted, butt couldn't resist playing. The bigger one is still in my toy drawer, but the B7 got a work out. One of the things I'm finding is design matters when stretching (for me anyway). I spent a good deal of the evening trying to get the head of the B7 in. I was ready to give up after a lot of work when my fb emailed me with encouraging words, so I kept at it and finally got it in. WOW, I was close to orgasm in a way I've never orgasmed, it wasn't from my prostate butt just from my hole.. The B7 is the biggest thing I've taken (to date). The thing I am liking about it is it's very firm, so not a lot of give and it's good for stretching. The head is only a very little bit larger than the shaft, and that turns out to be important when the goal is stretching. The head is what took so long to get in, logically I guess since it's the largest part, butt I didn't want to get it in just to have my hole close over a narrow shaft. Turns out that that's opening is the hardest part to stretch (again, logically). I've bought other toys with stretching in mind, usually butt plugs that I wear for hours. Butt they didn't stretch what needs stretching, i.e., the opening of my hole. Most butt plugs have a larger tip and a narrower neck that your hole clamps (closes) down on. The B7 and B10 don't have a narrow part lol. I also looked at anal dilators, and they are designed the same way, same width top to bottom. To me this seems to be the right idea if stretching is your goal. Once you get it in, your hole doesn't have the ability to close back on a narrower shaft... your insides are a lot more accommodating than your opening. I got it back in again in the morning, and it was still hard butt took a lot less time. This morning when I woke up, my hole itches like crazy from the extreme stretch, likely an inflammatory response. The itching is kinda hot in a training sort of way, I could see how a Dom could use it to his advantage when training a bottom hole.

This is fucking hot. I've only fantasized about having this kind of attention.

Im a total bottom, butt still think there is nothing sexier than a mans ass. I rarely fuck, but if i do, it's your kinda ass that makes my cock twitch. yep, yours is fucking beautiful

Yeah, prolly has something to do with hormones, bottom or top we all have testosterone which drives us to wanna breed in our respective positions. I remember as a kid seeing about a dozen male dogs pacing in front of a house, there was a bitch in heat inside the house... and that bitch would take everyone of them. I often refer to myself as a "bitch in heat."

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ha, interesting... as a long time kinky slut, i thought i'd thought of everything, but never thought of dual cathing. I love it when a top pisses deep into my ass, so would likely love it for a top to piss into my bladder. Would take some cath modifications since only one end is designed to be inserted, but apparently others have solved this. For me cath play, and med play in general, is part of kinky dominance. I get turned on when a top does different, kinky stuff because it really turns them on and I become part of that process of getting them off.

As a kid, I had a crush on my cousin. He was a year older than me and loved sports. I was kinda wimpy and he always wanted to play tackle football (when we were 10, 11). We lived near each other, so we spent the night at each others house pretty often. When I was 15 I lived with his family for about 8 months. They were living in a small house and his older brother, me and him shared a room. I slept on the floor between their beds. The older brother was often not there, so it was just me and him. There were times when I thought I heard him masturbating, but was never sure. He had an electric blanket and the control was right next to me on the floor, a couple of times i turned it up hoping he'd throw his covers off and I'd be able to see him. Nothing ever happened, but even so many years later, I still have dreams of him wanting to fuck me.

A big part of my sexuality is being submissive (obviously like lots of bottoms). I have a profile on Recon, but have never hooked with anyone from there. Seems many who identify as "Dom" also identify as Sadist. I'm submissive but not into pain. Sex for me is about pleasure, not pain, though I get some get pleasure from pain or from causing it, that's not me. For me, being "sub" is mostly a psychological thing more than it is physical. My chemistry responds to mind fuck, or what i think of as 'intelligent' dominance (for lack of a better term) vs brute force. I have a second degree black belt and feel inclined to back kick into next Tuesday someone I perceive as a bully lol. I've never done it, but that's the response force evokes in me. It doesn't get me hot at all but makes me feel violent like a cornered animal. Obviously, this is not appealing to a lot of guys who identify as Dom lol. On the other hand, a Dominate top who is subtle and uses psychology to get what he wants gets me very slutty. The idea of hypnosis is a huge turn on to me, especially the idea of someone using it on the sly. I'm also turned on by the idea of being groomed because, to me, "grooming" requires intelligence and finese, and for me that makes sex so much hotter to involve the mind too. I don't think what I describe is really true grooming or hypnosis because each would require innocence on my part, or ignorance of what's going on. I guess that's part of what makes it hot, the notion that the top is getting away with something to fulfill his desire.