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goT my attention....

That's a great plot twist at the end....

@nep321 A few thoughts and in no particular order.... Age is important if you think it’s important; the mere number hardly means anything except to the IRS and the Social Security Administration. Moreover, Cupid tends to strike when no one expects the little bugger to be flying around, shooting arrows. As evidence of these propositions, I humbly offer my own experience: At the tender age of 61, I hooked up one Friday night with a 39 year old guy on A4A (“do you want to come over and frolic?”). Three weeks later, he had moved in; we’ve been together 18 months, and I can honestly say he’s good to me and good for me. The point, I suppose, is that you’ll get nowhere by fretting over something you can’t change. It’s awfully easy at this time of year to feel discouraged about the trajectory of your life. Don’t treat your age and build as character flaws; think of them as some of your strengths. If you compare yourself to others, you’ll invariably think that some people are doing “better” than you and others are doing “worse” than you. And at the risk of making broad generalizations, the vast majority of guys in my part of Florida don’t strike me as being Ivy League graduates making 6 figure salaries. The Great Recession took a huge chunk out of the then-existing middle class, and the insane housing market here hasn’t helped anyone’s standard of living. I’m hardly surprised that a lot of guys have roommates; if you’re only making $15 or $16/hour, you’re not making enough to afford a place on your own. Along similar lines, it’s insanely expensive to have a car, and folks of all ages here ride bicycles to get around. And while I can readily agree that guys who use drugs should be given a wide berth, I’m not ready to morally condemn anyone; it’s unlikely that the 700,000 people who have died from an overdose in the last 20 years were all intrinsically evil. You’re doing fine — even if you can’t see it. Take care of yourself, and remember that in 12 weeks or so, the weather will be awesome in Jacksonville (and in my corner of The Sunshine State).

One advantage of “business casual” is not having to worry about your silk tie.

hell, you won the damn Mega Millions and have the winning Powerball ticket...

I was simply displaying my sense of fairness when I mentioned his posting in the SF forum. And to the extent that one's personality can be gauged through one's posts on BZ, it certainly struck me that finesse and subtlety weren't prominent features of his personality.

In all fairness to TopDad4Younger, he did post in the San Francisco area forum, looking for "young perverts or those who want to become perverted." There are several posts in reply to TD4Y's initial post. I'm ready to guess that the initial expressions of interest went no further, thus leading to TD4Y's burst of frustration in this thread.

ErosWired and NastyRigPig are pretty much spot on with their advice. I add a couple of my own observations.* First, an example of what NastyRigPig mentioned about a civil suit is the OJ Simpson case - though he was acquitted of the murders, the Goldman family sued him and obtained a money judgment against Simpson. Second, these civil actions have to be brought within a certain amount of time, the time being set by the relevant statute of limitations. Each state sets its own time limits, but the period is typically 2 to 3 years. My point here is that if you decide to do this, you need to get moving on it now, not next week. Third, the type of civil action that’s been mentioned is typically a wrongful death action. That action almost always requires some legal relationship to the dead person: for example, a son can sue because of his father’s death. The various states have various rules about who can file a wrongful death action, but the nature of your relationship may mean you’re not the person who can bring the claim. Finally, litigation of this type can become very, very nasty. To say you could be dragged through the mud is an understatement. Everything about the two of you is fair game for the other side to explore in pre-trial proceedings (even if it isn’t introduced in any trial). The only way for you to get real advice is to consult a lawyer. And I can tell you right now that not many attorneys will be interested in taking the case. It’s factually complicated and the odds of success are, in my admittedly detached view, pretty low (like less than 10%). I feel for you, and in a reasonably perfect world, there’d be something that you could do, but the law isn’t always about justice. Whatever you decide, good luck.... ——- *Not to brag on myself, but I practiced criminal law for nearly 30 years in one of the mid-Atlantic states. My comments are simply my observations based on my experience.

@carlton3053: I appreciate unexpected turns in the plot. Thanks for being creative and hard-working....

Who needs a complimentary continental breakfast after that...?

That’s where I went wrong.... I knew there was something I should have asked him about. Damn...!

“Flakiness” came to mind as I thought about this. But I wanted a word that, at least to my mind, gave a broader sense of how we mere mortals regard “The Grindr Experience.” (Hell if I know if I succeeded — I should know better than to engage in linguistic exercises on 3 hours of sleep.)

A perversity of grindrs?

Taking a wild stab in the dark, it strikes me that your power supply is wonky, the motherboard needs attention, or the thing is overheating. It certainly isn’t going to improve with time.

Oh, yes... this was worth the wait. And you describe that early morning atmosphere so well, I feel as if I’m right there. If anyone who hasn’t gone to the baths wants to know what the experience is like, they should read your blog entries. Thanks for taking the time to write this entry....

Doing field research of course....

If you’re uncomfortable in a particular position, consider making a slight adjustment, changing the angle at which the guy’s dick is going into your ass.

From the woman’s point of view: [think before following links] https://www.theguardian.com/world/2019/nov/03/did-i-ever-really-know-him-the-women-who-married-gay-men

Anticipating remarks along the lines of “it’s too complicated to make porn,” I’ll simply note that some guy in Jeffersonville, Indiana is making porn. His work might not win awards for cinematography, but he must be making some money — if only because of the tax rules about hobby activities.

It is possible to turn off the auto-correct function. For those in the world of Apple (iOS 13): Settings>General>Keyboards. Auto-correct, predictive word choice, and other typing choices can be set on that screen. Misspelled words and odd choices of punctuation don't rattle me —except the use of “discrete” when the writer really wants to say “discreet.” (I gave up fighting that battle decades ago, but I look askance at profiles that contain the error.) Instead, my heart sinks when I’m looking at a block of text that has no punctuation and no paragraph breaks. On the other hand, I practiced law for nearly 30 years, and I was repeatedly flabbergasted by the poor writing skills displayed by other lawyers (including some in my office). Indeed, I often had to deal with documents so poorly written that I wondered how the writer made it out of college, let alone law school. If lawyers can’t write, I can’t be surprised — or distressed — that many posts contain errors that would make my 8th grade English teacher reach for her smelling salts. So, yes, some of the writing here requires a bit of effort to understand. But there is plenty of writing on this site that is simply a joy to read (and not just the fiction sections), the writer having put time, effort, and thought into his work. If I have to wade through a story that never saw a paragraph break, I’ll take that as a small price to pay for being able to read the really good stuff.

Damn! I wish the appetizer course always showed up like that....

Well, everyone can't be a Liverpool fan ⚽ And given Man United's start to the season, your mate is going to need a lot of comforting this season. At least, Solskjaer will have the comfort of whatever huge severance package he negotiated (yeah, I don't see him lasting past Boxing Day -- not after the defeat to Newcastle).

It seems to have been 3 years since he was online (under that screen name at least).

Spend a few minutes doing the Google search for gay motels, hotels, b&b, and the like in St. Pete. In St. Pete, there’ll be a search result for GayStPete House. Then read the recent guest comments for that place and draw your own conclusions. There are several motels (not gay-owned as far as I know) on 34th St N, between Central Ave and 54th Ave N, that offer the same ambience as the Flamingo did. Hope this is of some help. Shout (via private message here) if you need more travel advice.

Or "I'd prefer that Earth be destroyed in a collision with a giant asteroid." (H/t: Lewis Black, Black to the Future)