tallslenderguy

i confess i have used cum filled condoms by pushing them and their contents into my hole.

Honestly, for me there is no such thing as "premature ejaculation" from my Top. i'm not meaning to be glib either. i have never been disappointed by a Top who was so turned on that He came fast or even as soon as He slid in. Part of my make up as a bottom is wanting to take, not just a Tops cum inside of me, but i am also 'bred' by His mental and emotional pleasure as well. i'm dead serious. The speed at which He releases Himself into me doesn't detract at all. Having said that, i understand if You want to prolong the experience because you want to. i wonder how much of the cumming quickly is mental/emotional and how much is physical? i'm a total bottom with guys, but have lots of experience as a top from when i was married to a woman (only woman i have ever been with). Early in my marriage, i learned how to make my wife cum before i did. It took time, but i conditioned myself to not cum until i knew she had been satisfied, didn't matter how long, but it helped me learn how much the mind is employed. Of course, the dynamic between two guys, Top and bottom, is probably usually different than a man and woman? i do wonder, why is it important to you to go longer? Are you concerned what the bottom may think? Is it a form of performance anxiety? Is it always the same or have there been times when you have gone longer without a condom?

To the OP question... idk. i hate the notion of indulging in a stereotype, but would be lying if i said i don't have a special place in my heart for black Tops. my experiences with black men have been pretty consistent and it's had the effect of creating a conditioned response in me. Intellectually i understand that that is a stereotype, but emotionally, i am drawn by the hope of experiencing what i have with the majority of black men i have been with. i'm not sure i can explain... and it's not as if i haven't experienced the same with Tops of other color, just not with the same consistency. i almost always feel more than physically bred by the black Tops i have been with. It's like they have bred my soul as well as my body, and i end up feeling a connection, a possession that makes me have to bite my tongue from saying "i love You!!" lol seriously.

If i am talking to a possible hook up, this is one of the pics i often send of my ass. it's actually a dildo with cum lube, but the idea is to give me that just bred by multiple Tops cream pie look

ditto. i've never been turned on by strong smells. i have had more than a few cocks offered through glory holes that smelled of piss or general funk... i always suck them though. If a guy wants His cock taken care of, i want it no matter what.

i've lived alone since getting divorced in '08. So much of my sex life with guys has been anonymous hook up where i almost always host. Most often, it's walk in and i have the perfect set up for it. i have a house in a historic district setting, smallish town (pop. 60k). Guys can park in my driveway and i leave the side gate open for them to come into my back yard. The backdoor to my house is off of a deck in the back yard and leads directly into a powder room that is right across from my bed room, so guys can see me ass up on my bed as soon as they walk in, and can use the bathroom on the way out if they want to clean up. in the summer when its warm, there's been several times when i've been bred on my back yard deck... you can see over the fence, but night time is pretty easy to get away with it.

i almost never see my Top because i am face down on my bed, anonymous walk in... so i don't care how He looks or if He has a pic at all. my pics are all accurate, my body hasn't changed, but my hair and face has aged, so i keep those particular pics current.

Great question. Looks like obviously not just one answer, eh? We all like different stuff. Personally, a Top is always going to get moaning out of me, that's a spontaneous response on my part when taking a cock. When a Top fucks me hard, i will moan louder, with some "ohs" and "ahs" . again, can't help it, and sometimes i bite my mattress. i often grab my mattress in my fists as well. Physically, i try to read my Top and move or squeeze or lie there depending on His response when i try. i'm typically face down on my bed, but if a Top is lying on me, i sometimes reach behind and grab or stroke His ass, but almost always that is to His movement, not me trying to make Him do anything. If it's standing or horsie fuck, i'll reach under and stroke His balls if He is doing a slow deep grind. i always try to get a sense of my Top while we are writing back and forth online. Guys who will not say anything or cannot articulate what they like make me a little crazy sometime, but i'll still take any Top who needs to unload.

this is so fucking Hot to me.

i appreciate the point. The thing i hate about having to prep is how it effects spontaneity. i can't count the number of times a Top has contacted me wanting to breed and i have to tell Him i am not prepped... and most Tops, in my experience, want cleaned out. So often though, the need to breed it NOW, so waiting can sort of take the edge off. i love the idea of a Top just taking me when ever He wants, without having to worry about prepping.

i love the discussions we have on this site!! Reading this got me to consider what it is i feel. While i may not physically want to take a cock after i have cum, boredom never enters in to the picture. For me the feeling is one of disappointment. i enjoy cumming, but it's always tinged with the disappointment of loosing my bitch heat, drive. It would be a whole lot more fulfilling to not cum to make a Top happy than it is to not cum by my own desire to stay in heat... that's kind of like trying to be my own Top.

This With me, a Top has totally 'won' if He has me cum before He even starts fucking me... physically. Psychologically, He is already fucking me if He has me touch myself and make myself cum before He penetrates me. He knows He is going to have me, even though physically i am done before He gets started. The whole time He is fucking me, He knows it's because i want Him even more than His cock. Once He is done breeding me, He has demonstrated and proven that He has control and that i am not going to seek another cock, but go home and curl up and sleep, His load inside of me.

This topic can really illustrate how diverse we all can be sexually. Even though we try and narrow things down into specific terms, like "Top, bottom, Dom, sub, etc.," there seems to be endless variations on all the themes. i had a Dom once who punished/trained me by making me cum several times in a row by making me touch my penis. He inserted a large butt plug in me first and locked it in place with a chastity belt. Being penetrated by a Top in any way always pushes a button in me and makes me desire Him. He had been withholding orgasm from me for awhile, so i was very horny and a part of me wanted to cum, so when He first told me to jack off, that part of me was excited. But He was also training me as a bottom, so part of me was not happy about it at all. When He first told me to jack off, i didn't know what He had in mind. i came pretty quickly (i always cum more quickly when penetrated) and was not very happy about it after. i also wanted to remove the plug, but of course, could not. As soon as i came, He told me to jack myself off again until i came. It was much harder the second time. He did this three times and i was miserable after the last time. i can take a cock after i have cum, but like many bottoms, i lose my heat and physically do not want it. So, coming makes me conflicted because mentally and emotionally i always want to take a Man if He needs/wants to penetrate me

i have about 7" when i get hard, but the psychological/mental/emotional dynamic between a Top and bottom means more to me that physical size. If my Top has 3" and is penetrating me, He is 'cock' is bigger. The fact that we both consider myself a hole for His pleasure makes His cock the only one.

omg, i adore You.

my first load was under a stall wall in a rest room. He tapped His foot, i tapped mine, He reached under and felt me up, avoiding my penis and going straight for my hole. When He saw that i didn't pull away, He reached back under with a lubed finger and penetrated me. When He had His finger hooked in my hole, He pulled it down to the edge of the stall wall and slid His legs under and His cock in. Even though it was my first cock, it didn't hurt because my hole was already a little gaped from always putting things in it. i was an instant slut. i hung out in that restroom after He left and took 3 more loads from Tops who slid their cocks under the stall wall. Later i discovered glory holes could be used similarly. When cruising places became fewer, i found CL and would always advertise as a bottom lying face down with my door open, ready to breed. That was hit or miss, lots of flakes, but lots of loads too, many became regular FB who had my email from Cl and would just email me when they wanted it. i've probably had a few thousand cocks and loads, but can count on one hand the number whose faces i have seen. Even my FB's have been anonymous, face down slut to load, I've tried presenting at a GH, but it seems so many guys will just walk away if the just see a hole presenting, so it sort of conditioned me to wait and see what he wants, many want sucked and don't want to fuck. i prefer getting bred and if i knew i wasn't going to miss a Top who wanted to unload, i'd just keep my hole backed to the GH, but i'd much rather suck a guy off than lose him completely. it's hard, because i love what you describe. To me, there are no 'dirty' cocks that will defile me, i treasure them all.

i'm bottom with Men, but was married to a woman for many years and was always the Top with her. i learned how to withhold/control my orgasm early on and would not come until i was satisfied with her orgasm/s. i learned her and her body well enough that i knew how to give her different and multiple orgasm and sometimes it would drive her nuts, she'd beg me to cum so i'd stop.

Good input... i'll add my two cents. Ditto fiber. We do not get enough (i am professionally certified in reversing certain disease process through diet). Fiber= fruit and veggies. It can be herd to stick to, but the ideal diet is a whole food plant based diet (WFPBD). Another thing to consider is that people have about 25 to 28 feet of intestine. The colon (the part we're trying to get clean) is about 4 or 5 feet long. It's bunched up and has turns and is convoluted. We can shallow douche or deep clean, depending on what you're doing. If it's a quick fuck, a douche can work just fine to get clean, though we all have to know our own anatomy to know where our bends are and make sure we don't go too deep when douching, if we do, we're stuck with having to do a deep clean. But you're not talking douche, you want long term clean for multiple loads. In my experience that takes deep cleaning. Some people don't seem to have to, but i do. And frankly, as a critical care nurse who has to prep people for colonoscopy, it takes a lot of effort and time to get the colon cleaned out. So, patients. Also, i don't eat on days i am in heat and wanting to be ready all day. For me, eating makes things move. i don't like not eating, but would rather get fed up my ass than in my mouth... i've always been much more anally oriented than oral. ?

This evokes a couple of thoughts (as well as affection), in me. One is, i had a Top who not only called my hole a pussy, He got to the place where He referred to me as a cunt or pussy. It was maybe a little bit a term of derision, but it was also a term of desire and affection on His part. He liked that i was his pussy. If all He had wanted was an object on His cock, He could have used a toy, but He fed and was nurtured as a Dom by exercising His desires with a sub person. The way He dealt with my penis is by calling it a "clit." He made it clear that He saw it as a part of my pussy, that all pussies have clits. He never referred to me as a woman, it was purely an anatomical and psychological distinction. i loved Him and His ways.

Re-reading through the replies to this thread and wanted to add more to the idea of "mind fuck." i can be pretty damned sub, but the extent of my submissive disposition is often a reflection of the Top i am with. i often avoid using the word "sub" as a self descriptor because so many guys seem to equate "Dom" with attributes like "mean, hate, rough, etc.." i'm pretty analytical and cerebral, attributes some identifying as Dom dislike. i've seen Doms, for instance, who are specifically looking for an "empty headed play thing." To me, being penetrated vs the one penetrating, is automatically "sub" at a basic level. So, for me a Dom is one who knows how to penetrated and breed me at a mental and emotional level too. "Rough" or "forceful" (not to be confused with passionate), doesn't translate as "Dom" to me at an emotional or mental level, it actually has the reverse effect. For me (and i know this is personal, so it's not a universal judgment), a guy that relies on force or bullying is compensating for something he feels he lacks. What he doesn't realize or connect with is i don't think or feel he lacks anything if He is a Top. I.e., if he thinks/feels he has to force his way in, he is missing that he already 'owns' me. i don't think the OP is being to polite, or that He needs to be rough to Top or Dom. If the guys He is referring to truly have the sub ingredient that so many bottoms have, He doesn't have to wait for them to want Him, He needs to assume they want Him and proceed accordingly. I.e., instead of waiting for them to contact you and ask to be bred, know that they always want to be bred and contact them and tell them you want/need to breed. It's not a question, it's a statement. If they demur, they are either not that sub ( i think there are degrees of sub and Dom) or they may have another issue that they are afraid to voice to you or afraid you wouldn't like, like an std or they are not cleaned out. They are rare, but a few Dom guys i have been with let me know that they don't care what my 'condition' is, that if they want to breed, they want it no matter what. i sort of equate that to straights who will breed a woman even if she has her period, but that's another topic. If He want's it clean, then if He really wants to push a sub button, He should simply say: "clean out, I want to breed you" vs dancing around the topic, or worse, assuming that bottoms are just always automatically prepped (we have to eat to stay alive lol). If we are out cruising, we're likely prepared. If a Top is spontaneously contacting us, they should not pretend or assume the issue doesn't exist. To me, rape is the ultimate "rough." There's a lot of bottoms who have rape fantasies. i'm bottom and have a decided sub side, and i have no desire to be raped. to me rape is not a show of strength, but a lack of confidence. A Top doesn't have to take something He already has. A Top or Dom that understands that i am bottom sub, never has to resort to taking it because He already knows i want/need Him. If He want's me 'ready,' He just needs to say: "get ready, I want/need to breed you." (btw, i don't think there is anything 'weak' or not Top/Dom about Him expressing His desire or need to breed). It's not a question, it's a statement of fact.

i don't typically self administer poppers butt love it when a Top puts a bottle under my nose. Nothing pushes my horny buttons like a Top who does things to try and make me more receptive, more bottom, to Him.

Most of my sex life with men has been anonymous hook ups. i've never actually had a traditional relationship with a guy. i've never ended up "dating' a hook up, not in a traditional sense. i have had many hook ups that turned into regular, ongoing FB relationships, but even those have remained "anonymous." i had one fb who really pretty much owned my hole for about a year and a half (we moved apart, so it ended), using it about once a week, and i never saw Him. To this day, i have no idea what He looked like because He always wanted me waiting naked, blindfolded and face down for Him. He talked a lot to me while using my hole in all sorts of ways, and we communicated by email. It was a very intimate connection/relationship, but not "dating" in any traditional sense. That's something i like about being gay and part of the gay culture, we are free to make our own culture and types of relationship.

Same here. The way it strikes me when a guy uses the word "manpussy" is that he's not sure of himself. i know that isn't necessarily the case cognitively, but that's the way it makes me feel, like it's a gauche (i.e., he is not delivering the term with his dominant hand). lol, i know i'm being way analytical. And, i am not judging it as a 'bad' or 'wrong' term, just explaining how it effects me. Like it's something a versatile guy would say lol. And again, not saying "versatile is bad" or "wrong," just that it's not fitting chemistry for me. For me sex can be so much more than the physical act, words and attitude add dimension. An advantage that humans have over animals when it comes to sex is we can fuck using our minds and emotions as well as our bodies. Words and attitude are part of that process.

i know i've already commented on this, but.... Not only do i love a Top who calls my hole a "cunt" or "pussy," i also get really turned on an sub when He calls my penis a "clit" or minimizes it. It has nothing to do with me being feminine or wanting to be a woman, it's all about His attitude of making a distinction between Him and me. He's the Top and i;m the bottom and those are all just terms that emphasizes our roles.

From the other end of the spectrum (i.e., as a bottom). i have fantasized about a top whoring me out, but when i fantasize about it, it's not just (or even mostly) about the loads i'd be getting in my hole, but about the excitement the Top would have "whoring me out."