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A (apparently) different angle here. i think a lot of this is fantasy vs fact, which is not to suggest that some of it is not true or real, but horny guys seem to be able to sexualize anything lol. i never knew any of my family on my dads side. He grew up during a tougher era. His parents were immigrants, just off the boat when he was born. His mother died his first year of life and his father, then living in Ohio, shipped him off to be raised by his grandmother and uncles on a farm in Colorado. The details are few, he never talked of his family to me... my dad was a very quiet man. But he did talk to my mom, a little, and even that (apparently) was like pulling teeth. i was in my late 30's before i learned that my father had been molested by his uncles as a child. When he was 12, his grandmother was dying and it was decided he should go to live with his father and stepmother, now living in Hollywood CA. One of the first things his father tried to do when he arrived was molest him. Apparently his step mother walked in and intervened. Apparently, his sexual experiences with incest wounded him pretty deeply, because as an adult, he wanted nothing to do with his family. my dad died several years ago now, and given his reticence, i never got to know much about him. When i was still religious and trying to de-gay myself, a counselor once suggested to me he may have been attracted to men? That took me out of left field. It had never occurred to me that my dad might have been gay or bi? He did have guy friends he would go to see and he would sometimes go places alone. As a little kid, i would ask him where he was going and he'd reply: "duck hunting." Of course, i knew better, we lived in LA. I'd beg to go with him though, and one time he acquiesced. i was very young, and he made me wait in the car, but i have a memory of it and i'm pretty sure he went to an ABS. i'm speculating, but i think it was. Who knows why? He was pretty sexual, but i have no idea if he liked guys or not, just a question. i believe a lot of gay guys get molested as kids because some sense and are attracted to their gayness, and exploit it. Reading of experiences of others, some gay kids seem to be aware at an earlier age and want that expression. i know i had crushes on many boys as a kid, but never the opportunity or knowledge to express it physically.

Ah man, so sorry you lost your dad. It sounds like you had a wonderful and loving relationship with him and it makes perfect sense to be confused and in turmoil by the loss. i ditto those suggesting a grief counselor. Grieving is a process, an individual one, but a process none the less. It can help to have someone by your side, to walk through it with you. A few questions to perhaps ponder? Have you had an intimate/romantic relationship with a woman before? Right now, you are idealizing. I.e., you are projecting a fantasy of having a wife and children. You're also fantasizing about how that would be and feel. Have you ever fantasized about a relationship with a guy? Even a hook up? And then when you got together, reality was very different from what you imagined or wanted? What we imagine is never the same as reality. "Forget [your] gay side?" That's sort of like saying you're going to forget you have a cock. Changing how you use it does not change the fact that you have one. We're all different, but a lot of people have tried to change gays, including a lot of gay guys. There's a long history of this. I tried to not be gay, was married to a woman and had kids. i love/loved my former wife and kids dearly, but that doesn't change reality. Being gay is not a choice. You might be bisexual. i thought i might be, so after i divorced i dated men and women. It didn't take me long to realize where i land on the spectrum. i proffer that any woman you might marry should know all about your 'gay side.' That's likely going to narrow your field. i'd also suggest that any serious relationship with a woman should involve premarital counseling. There are women out there who think they will be enough to change you, which is delusional at best. i'd suggest that anyone you marry is going to have to embrace and love your gay side as well as the rest of you. Back to the cock example, you may go to sleep thinking you have forgotten it, only to wake up with a hard on demanding attention. You can possibly find a woman you love and can have good sex with, but that does not change the gay part of you. Once you are out of the fantasy of how you imagine marriage and kids will be, reality sets in. Marriage is stressful and hard along with the joys. Having kids is stressful and hard along with the joys. During those stress times, your "gay side" will appear and fantasize about how life would be so much better on the other side.

i like it when a Top acknowledges me, enjoys me as much as i enjoy Him. i want to connect with a Top, i love a symbiotic connection where each fulfills the need and desire of the other, so i probably am not a cum dump, though i want any mans load who wants or needs to put it in me. idk

It depends. my being bottom is both a physical thing and psychological, which i think is probably true for any of us and all positions?, but i think the psychological/mental/emotional part of sex is more important to some than others? i know it is to me. i'm currently crushing on two guys at work. One is my age, looks like a weight lifter. He's shown interest and has captured mine by His shy, friendly demeanor. The other one is a tall skinny sort of fem guy who looks like He's in His 20's. i admit that all of those attributes in a Top can be a real turn on for me, particularly if He can get in my head and subltly dom me. At first i only noticed Him, but then He started flirting with me and now i have a crush on Him. Mutual interest is important to me, i want to be wanted as deeply as i want a Guy, and i have to really feel the desire from a younger guy because there are so many younger guys who look to exploit older guys as a financial resource. Also, any Top has to have emotional and mental maturity to get and keep my attention. He may be physically beautiful to me, but that wouldn't be enough for me to get into a romantic tangle with Him, there needs to be a mental and emotional bond. i've experienced those kinds of connections with a younger Top, and it can be an awesome mind fuck when the chemistry is right. i suppose it can work the opposite way, i.e., if the older guy is just not very mature for their age? But i have some emotional miles on me, and mental development has always been important to me. The emotional and mental parts of my Top are very important to me, He has to be a Man of substance for there to be more than a hook up.

i've come hands free from my cock a few times when getting fucked. Psychologically, i fantasize about a relationship with a Top where penetrative orgasm is the only kind of orgasm i have. i love the idea of being dependent on a Top for my pleasure, giving Him that control.

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The one taking the swab, could be the doctor or a nurse, probably does this test many times a day and doesn't even think twice about it. i understand the embarrassment though. i'm a nurse and work at a hospital. my doctor also works at the hospital, so i know and work with him. i get checked for STD's routinely and he always does the swab. He's completely professional, but it's still embarrassing for me. Still, better than running around with and spreading a disease you don't know have. For me, getting checked routinely is just a part of my sex life.

There is a whole niche of bottoms who want and love the idea of being pimped out, i think this is an opportunity for a voyeur. i love the energy and lust of a voyeur. With my own particular wiring as a bottom with sub is attracted to a Top who is voyeur. For me, it's not just the loads or cocks i need/want, it's the intense connection with a Top and HIs need/want to breed. i see a Top voyeur as a variation on that. If a Top whored me out, my focus would be on Him the whole time, for me He'd be the one fucking and breeding me, vicariously. The guys He is whoring me out to are like 'toys' He is using on me, so i see and relate to Him as the breeder and am locked onto Him the whole time He is watching.

Ditto the other two responses, i.e., "see a doctor." As much as i love BZ, no, "this is [not] the right place to put this." As a health care provider, i can tell you google is not the answer either. It takes a minimum of eleven years of education to become a medical doctor. An Ear/Nose/Throat specialty takes even longer to obtain. Then experience on top of that is always a good thing. If one is not trained in physiology, one often doesn't even know the right questions to ask to obtain a diagnosis. As mentioned, some drugs can cause hearing issues (even aspirin), injury, infection, stroke, heck, even a cotton swab used improperly, the list goes on and on. Please see someone trained in medicine. It's your hearing, please take care of your self ❤️

idk, but i don't believe a straight person can become gay. Culture still largely assumes that if you are male, you are straight, and conditions us accordingly from day one. Consequently, it can be challenging and confusing for some guys to realize and come to terms with their sexuality if they happen to be wired gay or bi or something other than straight. i grew up in a deeply religious culture that conditioned me to believe "gay" is broken and sinful. When i realized how i was at a pretty early age, i just believed what i had been conditioned to believe and thought i was broken and sinful and spent a good deal of my life trying to not 'sin' and get fixed. i got married, not because i didn't realize i like/need/want a guy, but because it wasn't an option from how i was conditioned. It wasn't an option to simply accept myself and learn how to live with who i am, so i 'chose' to live as straight, got married, etc.. Didn't work. It was like being in prison. Lots of striagth guys indulge in gay sex in prison, but that does not make them gay... it's just what's available. Given the opportunity, they'd choose a woman... they're straight. i don't believe being married and being able to have sex with a woman makes one straight any more than going to the zoo makes one an elephant.

It's different for everyone. Some guys feel little to nothing, others say it hurts. i'm a critical care nurse and have to put them in. i brought one home and put it in myself so i'd know how it feels. Wash your penis first with soap and water, same with your hands. Don't set the cath anywhere, keep it from touching anything. Use one hand to insert the cath, the other to hold your penis. Doing it at home is less strict, in hospital we use sterile technique, sterile gloves. Guys who cath at home don't usually go to that trouble, but at least be clean about it. if you read though the threads, you'll find i have all sorts of kinky cath fantasies. 🙂

i've always been bareback, even during the AID's crises. i have never been a chaser, but have never been a condom user. i've prolly had thousands of guys and can count on two hands the number who used condoms, and that was early on. i still encounter some who use condoms, on hook up sites, i suspect that has more to do with them being in relationships, married, and fearful of any STD. i just don't encounter it much with hook up sex, i'm explicitly bareback on all my profiles (but then, there are many who don't read profiles!). The only person i have encountered of late who wants to use a condom is a sort of dating situation. i say "sort of" because i've already been clear to him i don't think we are a match. He's versatile and would want me to top... not gonna happen, plus he is afraid of HIV and std's and would want to use a condom... not gonna happen. So, in my mind we remain 'just friends,' though i think he still has romantic notions. i find the disconnect strange. i don't see it as "hate" at all, really just fear.

i wonder what form his bullying took? my sense is you are describing a guy who was closeted, ashamed of himself, and he transferred his self hate onto you? Sort of like ef like ErosWired's abuser who had a career that reflected his self loathing. i find it noteworthy that, in both cases, the 'bully' stopped when he found his self hate was not reciprocated. ErosWired's experience reads like rape to me, whereas you gave this guy submission on more than one occasion and a part of you enjoyed it. i think bullying is often an immature dom's way of acting out. Sort of like the school yard kid who has a crush on a girl and walks up and hit's here because he doesn't know what to do with his feelings? i had lots of bullies growing up. Over time i have come to see my own sub nature has always been there, from a very early age. i suspect that the same is true about dom guys, that the dom nature is in place early on, but they haven't grown into it? Then to be dom and gay can be a double hurdle for some. Thinking of the guy who abused ErosWired, he likely grew up in and was conditioned to self hate from an early age. i can see where it could be hard for a gay guy with a dom nature to come to an understanding and a place of self acceptance. Even in the year 2020, there's a strong cultural current that believes being gay is less than being straight. imagine being gay, having a dom nature and having to reconcile with that? i participate in a couple of BDSM forums that have a mix of all types of identities (i.e., gay, straight, bi, etc.). Some of the more established and stable D/s relationships i see are understood as symbiotic. i've also met several gay Dom's who have (to my way of thinking) matured to a place of self acceptance and understanding where they realize they do not have to force or bully in order to find and receive submission. Indeed, the more powerful expression and experience of Their nature is when submission is freely given by or seduced from a submissive.

i've prolly had well over a thousand guys, mostly anonymous, but i remember Andrew Lee Burton. He picked me up on the ocean board walk, took me to his place. We talked, he knew i was new, but i was very ready. He looked at me with surprise when i straddled him and tried to push his cock into my ass. He laughed and said: "hold on," ran down stairs and returned with some Vaseline Intensive Care hand lotion, lubed, fucked and bred me.

Like others, not really something i chose. In fact, i grew up in a culture that told me i am broken, so for a long time i felt shame and i tried to choose against it. And i was a miserable, sad person. i literally could not help myself and it was hard for me to see that that was because of the way i am, not from a lack of self control. If anything, taking a man into me is 'self control.' Some Tops can make me feel humiliated and degraded, but it's very arousing when it happens because it's like a mutual recognition and affirmation of who i am. i love it when a Top looks through me with full recognition that i'm a fag and wants, even needs, to plant His seed in me and knows i'll do it because i need it too.

It's never happened to me, and i've been fucked thousands of times. Honestly, i'm a little envious of those who have experienced it. i don't see it as an issue or problem with the bottom (though i know i don't speak from experience, so hey, that might change if it were an all the time occurrence for me). i find it an awesome mind fuck to consider though. i imagine it more of something a Top would do to me. Sort of a different style of orgasm that He produces in my body as a result of His penetration and fucking. i have a decided sub side to me, so i like the idea of a Top who can effect my body sexually by who and how He is. Especially if He is connected mentally and emotionally to His own power and what He is doing and causing in me as a bottom. i can imagine a smile and look of satisfaction on His face at my powerlessness to control the effect He has on my body when He breeds me.

5 minutes ago. i have a fb who i've started hosting again. i'm His cock slut and have agreed i want it any time He needs to unload. Because of that we have an understanding that if He needs to unload 'right now', that my mouth can always be available, and if He needs to fuck, i need a little prep time. But my goal is to be there for Him when HIs want/need arises. He texts me, this morning at 0607, "I need your mouth and throat." and i respond "Yes please." He comes over, and in my opened front door. He likes to watch BB porn while getting sucked, so i have that on. i'm in another room and He comes in, takes His shorts off and sits legs spread on my sofa. i come in and kneel between His legs and slowly and purposefully worship His cock. i'm not anxious, but i am in full heat just knowing i'm needed for His cock and cum. i nestle my face between His cock and thigh first, getting His scent on my face, slowly licking His balls, mouthing them, His shaft. Then take the tip of His cock in my mouth, sucknng and tonguing His urethra, getting Him tense and needy, then when He is sort of shaky, i suddenly take Him to the hilt, into my throat and hold His cock there, massaging the tip with the back of my throat while i lick His balls then sort of pressure bite the base of His cock while cupping His wet balls. He tells me when He is close, but that's not hard to tell because His thighs begin to shake and His cock swells... still, i love to hear it and at that point, i become sort of anxious and need His orgasm in me. When He announces that He is coming, i take Him into my throat, His cock to the hilt, letting Him shoot, but not wanting to interrupt His pleasure i milk every last bit of HIs orgasm and pleasure with my mouth. i hold Him in my mouth till He goes soft, just a warm wet place calm down, with an occasional suck, tongue carress. i can smell His scent on my face now as i write this. fuck, so good.

Maybe the Covid thing has added to this? Social distancing adds another layer to this. The last couple of months i have had to fight my own temptations to hook with guys approaching me, and the wrestling may have come across different from what it was. That said, i don't even attempt to hang with or approach the "10 culture." For me, a big part of sex, hooking or not, is about each of us wanting/needing the other. i hate one sided sex and would rather go without than be with someone who didn't want/need me as much as i want/need them. i've had a lot of great connection and sex with 'zero's' ( i say that tongue in cheek because the 10 culture that rates people on a number scale do not have a clue as far as i am concerned).

There's ten times more bacteria living in the digestive tract than there are cells making up the human body, raising the question of who's the host? "The large intestine contains organisms belonging to over 30 identified genera and as many as 500 separate species or phenotypes." Male UTI from anal sex is not a hugely studied topic, so there is not a lot of evidence about how many and which of those bacteria can cause an inflammatory response in the urethra. The most common UTI from anal is from E. coli bacteria, which is beneficial in the gut (a decidedly nonsterile environment) but not in the urinary tract (a sterile environment). But other gut bacteria can cause UTI. Uncircumcised are more vulnerable. Here are ways to help protect yourself. i give cranberry extract to my patients with urinary catheters twice a day. "The current hypothesis is that cranberries work principally by preventing the adhesion of type 1 and p-fimbriae strains (particularly from E. coli) to the urothelium (17-20). Without adhesion, the bacteria cannot infect the mucosal surface" [think before following links] https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3370320/ Another consideration is the type lube being used. Some lubes contain sorbitol or glycerin, which is food for bacteria. Using those types of lubes promote bacterial infection. The old rule of peeing after fucking helps cleanse the urethra of bacteria that may have made their way in. Carry alcohol wipes and cleanse the tip of your cock around the urethra after fucking, it helps both kill and mechanically remove bacteria. Or simply wash your cock after fucking.

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Broke sexual distancing Friday with a FB who'd been contacting me since isolation started. i figured it's time to ease back into safer whordom. Neither of us had fucked since around the first week of March, so while i'm sure He didn't have a couple of months of cum in Him, we both had a couple of months of need and desire. i'm pretty open from lots of use, and He loves sloppy, so i put in lot of lube and thought i was pretty open, but i let out a cry when He just shoved in, i guess i wasn't as open as i thought. We both made quite a bit of noise, i had my window open and wonder if the neighbors could hear? When He came, He came hard, shoving in deep next to my heart and i raised up and pushed back into Him just as hard, squeezing and milking His sweet cock with my inner muscles. He never texts me after, just disappears till next time. But this time He texted me "Came so hard my legs are like jello."

i am sorry that you were abused for being gay, that's awful, and i am sorry you suffered through that. Please do not misunderstand me, i'm not saying one should hide being gay, but i was a kid who did it, so i know it can be done. i had bullies in my life till i was 13 and learned how to hide those things that identified me, the proverbial closet. For me it was a survival mechanism. my point was to contrast how white gay people are not immediately visually obvious as "gay." i have to come out continually at work, and i wonder that people cannot tell by looking at me because i think i am obvious. Just this week a woman at work asked me out on a date (left a note in my mail box). i said to a different employee next to me as i read the note: "hmm, she must not realize im gay." The woman next to me looked at me in surprise and said "you're gay?" my point is to say (and maybe i could have said it better) not all gay people are obviously gay just by looking at them as are black people. Gay people do not get pulled over driving their cars like black people because of profiling. Race is different from being gay. A black person cannot visually hide their race, a gay person is not automatically visually obviously gay, thus the term "can hide." i still think "race play" is destructive. i don't see myself changing on that. The reason i don't think it should be part of the gay community is because i think most of us should know better, for many of the reasons you state. I.e., i've suffered plenty for being gay, and i know many gays who have. Just for being gay. i do not think we should be "playing' about something that has caused so much harm and destruction.

i know that your advice makes sense, but i probably won't do it that way... instead i'll just learn the other way. For me it's not the piss but the act, and pissing in the glass takes something away for me. idk, i may change, i've taken cum from used condomes and shoved it in my hole... i honestly see piss similarly, though not exactly the same. But the thing that i connect with is the Top who has something in Him that wants to piss on and in a bottom, it's like it opens a door in me: "yeah i want you to do that too." Putting it in a glass takes something away from the act in my mind? i think i'd be more inclined to ask the Top to be patient with me, that i want to learn to take it from Him and HIs cock, giving Him the control.

i have been wanting a Man to piss in my mouth a long time, especially by surprise or not asking, just doing it while i suck Him. But i have been afraid never having drunk pee or piss before, wasn't sure how i would react to the taste. i've been piss fucke plenty, but want to be a full service bottom... no, really lol, i love a Tops pleasure and want to be able to drink His piss too. i especially love the psychology of it. To me it's not mean, its a matter of fact sort of natural thing for Him to be able to put a part of Himself in me as a bottom. So today i was so horny, have been keeping myself from cumming and reading some hot stories (not about piss though) and i had to pee. On the spur of the moment, i emptied my water glass and peed into it and then drank it. i didn't get off on drinking my pee, to me it's just my pee and has no potency (though i did have a Dom who spoke to me of always taking His piss and He told me He wanted me to put my pee in a container for Him to drink so He could drink His recycled piss distilled by my body for Him, which i thought was sooo fucking hot. i love mind fuck). i did it to see how i would respond and it was fine, which really makes me happy because i know now i'd respond with lust and need and drink my Tops piss if He pissed in my mouth. Still would take practice to take His piss from His cock i'm sure, but i feel like i am over a hurdle.

i'm not going to try and engage this poster, looks like a troll to me, and i don't have confidence in his reading comprehension. i do want to point out what people like him do. They infer and fill in their own words, and they're off and running. You'll notice i didn't use the word "Christian" in my post. Not all "Christians" are alike, not all Muslims are alike, not all atheists are alike.... i do have an argument with the fundamentalist approach. Those who take the absolutist notion that they know what "God" wants and who think they somehow do "God's" bidding. i think that is scary and would not vote for such a person. "In 2006, as head of the Republican Study Committee, a group of the 100 most-conservative House members, Pence rose in support of a constitutional amendment that would have defined marriage as between a man and a woman. Citing a Harvard researcher, Pence said in his speech, “societal collapse was always brought about following an advent of the deterioration of marriage and family.” Pence also called being gay a choice and said keeping gays from marrying was not discrimination, but an enforcement of “God’s idea.” [think before following links] https://time.com/4406337/mike-pence-gay-rights-lgbt-religious-freedom/