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Fucking Hot. i used to get a lot of truck stop sex, haven't in some time because there aren't any very active stops near me now. i've never been fucked in a sleeper cab, always wanted to though, it's always been in the restroom or outside on the edges of the rest stop at night in the dark. Pretty hot to receive cock bent over a picnic table 🙂

addendum for those interested; like a lot of total bottoms, i always wanna hold onto the seed a Man plants in me, i never shoot it back out and don't want someone eating it out of me once it's there lol. This is where i find cock size does make a difference. When a Man has a longer cock and breeds past the sigmoid curve (aka "the second hole"), i have found that i absorb His cum... which makes sense because it goes into the colon. When it doesn't get past that curve and stays in the rectum, it doesn't get absorbed and eventually makes its way out :-( This morning, i got up to pee after holding last nights deposit for >12 hours, and as i stood on my tile bathroom floor, all at once His load slid out and onto the floor. It impressed the fuck out of me, was a 4 inch solid puddle of cum. He tells me He often cums 2 or 3 times while fucking me, but i can never tell because He is one of those Tops who keep fucking when He has an orgasm. But wow, there is was, that was a lot of cum. Probably had some of my juices mixed in, but i was still impressed. Whatta Stud!

i have not been post pandemic, and my understanding is the bath house has been remodeled. In Portland OR there are two, Steam and Hawks, i've been to Hawks Hawks "dark room" (last i went) was more of a walk in closet, and wasn't dark. it had one of those doors made of plastic strips painted, but still let in lots of light. They'd have "light out" night weekly i believe, but it wasn't dark at all, just more like dusk lol. They had a disco ball somewhere high up on the ceiling, and that's the extent of "dark." To me, the whole idea of a "dark room" is it's a sort of universal blind fold, removing the visual element of attraction and sex. That doesn't happen when i've been to "lights out" at Hawks.

i think it might help to distinguish between physical and psychological, even though there is overlap/connection between the two. Physically, there is a refractory period, here's some info on that: "It all has to do with the changes in your body that occur after you have an orgasm. Post-ejaculation, “your penis becomes flaccid from neural signals telling your body to relax," explains Jamin Brahmbhatt, MD, Urologist at Orlando Health and Assistant Professor at UCF College of Medicine. "Dopamine and testosterone levels drop, and prolactin [a hormone produced by your pituitary gland] rises." Elevated prolactin levels post-ejaculation could play a role in your inability to get it up again. "Increased prolactin and subsequent lower testosterone is like a double whammy affecting your sex," says Brahmbhatt." [think before following links] [think before following links] [think before following links] [think before following links] https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a19524569/refractory-period/ Psychologically is more complex, or individual, i think. There are culturally, and other, conditioned psychological generalities we could identify, but our psychological experience and response to our environment is individual. For instance, i grew up during an era when being gay was generally considered to be "sick, perverse, etc.." Add to that that i also grew up in a conservative religious culture that considered being gay as "sinful, broken, rebellious against 'God', etc.." So there was a double force conditioning me against who and how i am. i can look back and see how, when and why i built my own proverbial "closet." i had a lot of garbage to walk through before i got out of that landfill and into open, free country (so to speak). Even though things have changed vastly socially, there are still a lot of overt and subtle influences against being gay or bi, and it's often the subtle ones that affect us most i think, the ones the fly under the radar. i think guys have it a little harder when dealing with the psychological side of life. Part of most guys cultural conditioning is "women are emotional, guys are rational." Yeah, i'm way oversimplifying it, but generally speaking, i think culture has conditioned guys against being in touch with their emotions. Guys have the same emotional brain centers as women, denial doesn't change the fact that both sexes have an amygdala. Yes, thee are differences, but there are also similarities. Bottom line is, it's harder to deal with something if one is in denial of even having those things to deal with. Sorry, getting into the weeds here. Where i am going is, in my experience (for what anecdotal vs science is worth), it took time and a lot of processing for me to see and understand the affects of cultural conditioning on how i felt. Once i did that though, and reached a place of not only rational but emotional self acceptance, i haven't experienced a second of guilt or shame sense. For me, the key was finally grasping that my ideas about "God" were conditioned, not fact. Once i truly grasped that, the change was instant. i didn't rebel against my condtioning, i saw through it, honestly and really and i was, subsequently, free and at peace.

i take a casual approach at first, just to feel the Guy out. Some guys are turned off by piss, and the last thing i want to do is turn a Man off. Look for profiles where Guys come right out and say they are interested in WS, lot's of sites have that option in "preferences." Not everyone can piss on demand, some are shy about it. If it's a one time hook up, probably going to have more success knowing ahead of time if they are into it. Some are going to be interested, but have no experience, so may not be able to piss 'on demand.' If it's a fuck buddy, i see a lot more potential. WS is in a category by itself as far as i'm concerned, though it does have overlap with other stuff, i think thee is som unique, deep mind fuck connection to be had with WS, and that is not usually something that happens in a one time hook up... unless the hookup has experience. i think most guys are lust driven, so once they get past the culturally conditioned barriers against piss, their lust takes over and says the limit.

i'm not anywhere near a 'gym rat,' at least, i don't think i am? i've always been a group exerciser vs solo. Did martial arts most of my life, then Bikram yoga, both of which are sort of social exercising. i am lousy at doing exercise solo. But then, last March i started going to the gym. i do what i call my: "skinny white boy routine," just some legs, chest, arms, but the focus is gluts. Hey, i'm a total bottom and want my ass to scream: "fuck me." Okay, i want it to at least have a voice. Here's the thing; for the first time in my life, i am doing exercise (every other day) solo. There is the motivation to be appealing to Men, but i'd say at least half the motivation has been watching all the Men at the gym. i don't know why i never thought of this, but seeing all the hot Men really helps me get through my routine and actually get me to go to the gym. It isn't really social for me, not interacting other than a nod and a "hi" here and there. Just watching Men work out and admire Their bodies is really a big part of the experience for me. So i'd say it's about half and half. i go to the gym to work on my own appearance, but the other half is watching Men work on Their appearance. Curious about other's experience/thoughts/feelings?

i think that's beautiful. Parr of my psychological wiring, which i feel i see in a lot of 'bottoms,' is this very thing. A lot of (not all) bottoms don't want to cum (i don't) during sex with a Man. For me it's both physical and psychological. Honestly, i think sex always has a psychological element to it, but we are not always cognizant of that? For me, one of the most profound things that can happen in sex with a Man is what i consider as a shared orgasm. For me, this is very real. When a Man has an orgasm in me, and i feel we have had that form of symbiotic sex i mentioned, it is as if His orgasm becomes my orgasm. I.e., instead of us both having a separate orgasm, we have a shared orgasm. For me, this idea and approach can have profound ramifications on the Top/bottom dynamic... ventures into D/s. But more and more i find i can derive a similar satisfaction from receiving a Mans orgasm into me that meets that need/desire in me for an orgasm, where i do not feel the need to have one on my own, or an orgasm that originates from me.

Right? Saying: " the top does what he wants and is satisfied" can 'sound' different on paper than IRL to me. For me, Top and bottom are positional references, not status, thought i do experience a bit of status mind fuck in the T/b dynamic. For me, compatibility is essential for satisfaction to occur and sustain. i think that happens pretty naturally and automatically, at least on a crude level, when a Top and bottom get together (the devil can be in the details though). To me, the more mature Tops are concerned about a bottoms satisfaction as much as the bottom is about the Tops. i think confusion comes in when we assume that the bottoms satisfaction doesn't matter. i see this idea from both Tops and bottoms. i do not think it's a question of a bottoms satisfaction not mattering, just that a bottoms satisfaction derives differently. Speaking for myself, i need/want to please my Man/Top as an intrinsic part of sex. But is seems circular to me, my read is Tops/Men also need/waant to please/satisfy the bottom as well, that is affirms His value and postition just as much as with the bottom, it just happens in an opposite way. It's a little mysterious to me, but i'm convinced the best connection/sex is symbiotic. Right there with you re drinking from the tap. For me, it's a connection that has unique elements. i think there's a definite D/s element in Top/bottom, Breeder/breedee, but WS has a whole other psychological layer that, for me, can make it a deeply intimate connection in a way cum does not. i think there's a general built in valuing of semen as seed, whereas piss is generally seen as waste. For one man to want and receive another Mans waste, and also the lesser relief vs the more intense release from orgasm, can speak to a overall desire/need from both Top and bottom to connect and bond . For me, one of the more erotically satisfying draws i have is the mind fuck part both Top and bottom can experience venturing into degradation/humiliation. It's sort of magical to me when it happens based on mutual lust/need vs being a forced or mean act that is focused on superiority/inferiority. Hard to articulate what occurs, but it can be intense and wonderful.

Just left... my regular FB, awesome Man. Fuck. Wore a jock, never quite know how to present with Him, He's not very vocal, but He is very physically expressive. Said my ass looked "so hot" which is all i need to hear. Wore a yellow jock, pretty sure He doesn't know the code though lol. He had to piss before and when He came back to bed i told Him He needs to try doing that inside of me sometime. i did drink piss from His cock one time after He bred me, He always showers after before going home, so i got in the shower and kneeled and drank from His cock. Wasn't sure how much He was into it, so i don't post... it's imprortant to me that my Top only does what He really gets into, to me His lust and need is half the fuck. He kisses my back and shoulders and i swear i almost came this time from that. The energy behind that drives me wild. Damn i feel so fucking good.

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i think it's cool to see how some mutate between then and now in some of these re awakened threads. i've never had an "ideal" relationship with a Man. i suspect ideal anything is more of a notion than a reality. i think some people manage to find more ideal than not, and so it works more than not and sustains. Some of my more emotionally satisfying experiences with Men has been with Fuck Buddies. To me, a FB is just a variation of an open relationship. Sort of a "let us be lovers..." without the "marry our fortunes together" part. I've long fantasized over having a relationship with a Man living in the same neighborhood or on the same block where my back door (yep, that's a double entendre) is always open to Him. One of my "ideals" is we're always there (sexually) for each other. i imagine waking in the middle of the night to Him pushing His cock into me because He needed to fuck. Of course, for that to be a reality, some practical considerations would have to be modified, if not totally tossed out the window. For instance, the big one, clean out. The notion of spontaneous sex with a guaranteed pristine hole is a pure fantasy, yet that's pretty much all that's ever presented in movies, etc.. E.g., if i have a date with a Guy, and we go to dinner, i'm gonna be thinking and nervous about eating. The sex drive is fickle and often less than predictable. Online has changed the way we have sex. Before online, we either fantasized and jerked off, sometimes with the added stimulation of pictures, or we went out and cruised and got sex IRL. A lot of what used to happen IRL happens virtually now. A big thing that is missing is visual/tonal communication. We do not get that online. Sure, we get a few pics (taken in ideal circumstances ten years ago, or so fuzzy you cannot tell what your gettting), but pics are a frozen moment in time. Versus gazing at another as they are 'IRL.' i wonder how much of an issue Sharpe-edge (or any of us) would have with 'warm up' if we didn't have smart phones and apps in the mix?

They are not being tested for in a drug test.

i think this is a great topic for discussion. i'm convinced that the need for love is a common thread that binds all humans together (bear with me lol). i think one of the primary components of "love" is the need/desire to be 'seen' and 'heard," then valued and affirmed. i think this is an underlying emotional drive we guys have and a lot of men use sex to try and meet that need/desire for "love" (using that basic definition). Most guys grow up culturally conditioned against emotion. The stereotype is: "men are rational, women are emotional." i think in some ways that becomes a self fulfilling prophecy, but not a reflection of reality. i worked in the male dominated executive corporate world for most of my life, and i have seen a lot of emotional decisions desguised by rationale. i think a lot of the conditioning we receive against feeling/emotions does not make us any less emotional, but leaves us at a disadvantage. I.e., we have feelings and need to be aware and learn how to live with them, not deny or cover them up. Telling our self stuff like: "there are plenty of other guys out there," or "everyone has different tastes" is true, but it doesn't change the sting of feeling rejected, that basic need we all have to be seen, heard, affirmed, valued. i think one of the things gay guys have figured out as a work around is anonymous sex venues like arcades with glory holes and dark rooms, as an example. We remove the visual element that so often is associated with acceptance or rejection. In a (true) dark room, you cannot tell things like age or 'beauty.' i'm not visually attracted to certain 'types' (who the hell knows why?), but i have been bred by more of those 'types' than i can count by being face down and blindfolded lol. I've even developed deep affection for FB's that i can sort of sense by feel that i would not find attractive visually, but because i never saw them, that was not a factor and i was able to experience other parts of them that i did find emotionally attractive, along with the sex. i rejected my self for much of my life. Like so many or us, i grew up in a (religious i my case) culture that conditioned me to reject who and how i am. But my self rejection did not change the fact of who and how i am, or the needs and desires that accompanied that. my coping mechanism was anonymous sex. i think that's true about a lot of us. i don't think it's necessarily ideal, but it worked and kept a part of me alive that would have suffered a lot more had i not had it.

Last night. My FB. He texted me Saturday, but by the time i was done at the gym and saw His message... it was too late 😞 He said: "maybe tomorrow," so i prepped just in case so i'd be ready if He texted and He did. If you've been following my posts here, you've read that lately i've been wearing lacey, frilly stuff for Him. He doesn't say much, but His profile where i met Him states He likes "lingerie." I don't dress in stuff like that on my own, but admit that if i know it turns a Man on, it does surface something in me that is not there independently? Or so it seems. And the times i have, He got down right primal on me. Which, honestly, is always an element, just seemed more so when i was wearing. One of the times He totally tore the back out of a pair of lace panties to get to me, and that made e feel pretty damned conquered and then some. It was an awesome fuck. Last night i asked when He texted if He wanted me to wear something. i don't want to presume, but He's kinda quiet and shy except when He's fucking, then He can be a wild Man. He responded: "surprise me." Fuck. Reading between the lines, i took that as He wanted me to wear something. Okay, this is embarrassing to write, but i love the intense gotta fuck and breed energy in a Man, drives me wild and frankly opens and brings out the primal slut in me. After His response to what i wore last time, i went online and bought this really frilly pink thing with bows and like a 3 inch pink skirt. It had a little pouch to hide my penis and two straps like a jock, except thin. i like those better than a thong, don't want anything in the way of my hole lol, though a thong does feel pretty damned sexy. The other part of this was it was a garter belt. fuck. i got these black fishnet stockings to go with it. i felt totally embarrassed dressing in this thing. i'm tall and skinny and do not pass as pretty for a second. i look like a guy in women lingerie. i was lying on my bed wearing this ass up when He came in. He went wild and jumped on me saying: "I like." He didn't say a lot, but He was mauling my ass, and was obviously into it. i got a couple of loads before He left. Wtf? i love how He acted and how it made me feel. i don't get it. i have not frame of reference for it, but yeah, wow. Couple hours latter i could feel His load leaking out of my hole. i never like to lose a Mans seed, i scrambled to finger it back in... smelled so good, i wiped my wet finger under my nose... better than poppers.

i'm one of those who said "no." i don't have a 'cock,' just wired to receive cock... i don't use a dildo either. Like a few others who have responded, i do not have the inclination of a Top, all the needs and desires that go with wanting/needing to penetrate and seed another are missing. All my testosterone is plumbed into my holes and my drives and needs are receptive.

i've seen a few vids like this. Honestly, has a profound effect on me. The energy of that gesture is sooo D/s for me, expressing and asserting Top/bottom. It happens in a moment of victory or accomplishment, and the Man doing the fingering is asserting a sort of ownership, taking possession of the victor. Lol, i may over think, but that's how it feels to me.

Oh yeah, then there's this:

i wondered some of this stuff as well: Is the guy being fucked married to a woman or a man? Are they in an open relationship? None of that is stated. If he is cheating and lying, he may already have that eating at him, or maybe he's ignorant and thinks he can cheat and still avoid the STD risk? Who knows, there's lots of guys out there who really act on that notion. Our sex drive is a strong thing. Also, gay relationships can be different, i've had more than a few long term FB's who i fell for in a sense, even if it didn't qualify as a standardly defined relationship, it was still a relationship i valued on an emotional level. my own belief is, lying and deception make for a fake relationship, or at least a partial, fragmented one. i do not think it is right, let alone worth it. To me, every time we lie about who we are, and subsequently cheat, we are what is wrong with society. We can only control our self, i don't know anyone who values being lied to or cheated, i sure don't, so it makes sense to me not to be that person. Anyone here who knows my story knows i was in a religious web for many years, married to a woman and cheated with Men, i felt rotten every time i cheated and hated myself for it. It cost me everything to become an honest person, but it's so worth it. It sucks feeling rejected, or not even considered because i put "undetectable" in all my online profiles, but to me, it beats the alternative.

But... Had You lied and you were both still having sex, things would be different than they have been. You would always know/have known that the man You were breeding wasn't accepting You into himself, but some 'sanitized' version of what 'should' be vs what is, I.e, what You had would have been false, a lie, vs true.

Nah... i think You are right to live honestly. Sex is one of the most intimate connections two people can have, lying about who and how You are takes that element away. This guy is now having to face who and how he is and decide if he wants reality and honesty or some Disney notion. Risk is part of the equation of human connection, denying that or lying about it doesn't make it less so. i would not rule him out yet. he may just be facing reality for the first time and wrestling with this. It's possible that he will end up missing and wanting what you two have and growing and changing as a result, becoming more honest and real vs living and acting in denial about the risks involved in living as a man with his particular needs and wants.

i don't know if you so much "need guidance" on how to do this as possibly whether or not you really want to. LAMO at hungry_hole's suggestion of an eHarmony account. Following the implied idea of a "cumdump" is a cum dumpster. A dumpster or trash can is not choosy or selective, Oh sure, there are those recycling bins that try to get users to only deposit select refuse, but those aren't really dumpsters, eh? i think being a cum dumpster is more a state of mind than a methodology. Honestly, i think the term "dump" doesn't really fit because i think a Mans seed is precious stuff, and my read of most bottoms is they feel similarly. i've picked more than a few used condoms off the floor at seedy fuck joints and emptied their contents into my hole. i cringe at porn or the idea of a Man spilling His seed on the outside of a warm bottom. What a fucking waste (literally lol). That said, there's lots on this site about being an 'ethical slut.' To me, that involves getting on PreP if you're neg, or staying undetectable and on meds if you are poz. And, otherwise, getting checked routinely for STD's . To me, it is neither negative or irresponsible to have sex, that's a cultural construct used to control. The notion of "making sure ppl are negative" is part of that construct. The only person you can make sure is negative is you. If society fostered that attitude instead of trying to control everyone else, STD's would not be stigmatized and would likely be less. We can catch a disease going to the grocery store or using a public drinking fountain, but there is no stigma attached to shopping or getting a drink of water. Sex? Not so much.

Probably many of us here would say you haven't had complete sex when you used condoms. To me, sex with a condom is foreplay at best. From my perspective, restricting sex with condoms is 'doomed." You say: "i never bb...." To my way of thinking, this is the first time you've had sex (i.e., when you barebacked).

Ha, that goes along with the essence of what i feel perfectly. it makes a perfect, hot sense to me that mine goes soft when i have a Man's hard 'tool' inside of me... yet another expression of oneness in a yin/Yang dynamic.

i get rock hard when a Man wants to fuck and breed me. If he shows any interest in my penis, it goes soft. If He shows desire for my hole, it gets hard. Whlle getting fucked just physically, it goes soft. While getting mind fucked, it gets hard. i have a meter, not a 'tool.'