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If you are determined to be a cumdump, then that suggests you are pretty much ok with whatever drug resistant strain you may get, right? I'm not sure how asking complete strangers on such a forum is going to yield much in the way of cold, hard facts. I've mentioned already on another thread that asking your doctor to validate your choice to be a cumdump is not very realistic. Sure they shouldn't lecture you about condoms but health care professionals are not there to encourage you to take such risks. Just tell your doctor you occasionally have unsafe sex or you "slip up" from time to time and ask him to check you for all the nasties. No need to change doctors; by the way, I did have a gay doctor once. And he was about as judgmental as they come. I eventually moved on.

I was referring more to the pricing. Big pharma is set to make even more money from people who are worried about becoming poz. That was my point. Now if health insurance companies are discouraging doctors from writing scripts for PrEP (Truvada) because they don't want to pay for it, that's an entirely different issue. I'm amazed that big government allows big pharma to act this way. They've got a drug that will keep gay men alive/healthy, but they want $500-600 a month for it (too much for most people to pay out of pocket). And the pill probably costs pennies to manufacture. If big pharma wanted more people to use it, they'd lower the price. But no, they keep it high to make profits, but then help propagate the message that your health is at risk as a gay man if you don't take it. Wow. http://www.pharmacychecker.com/brand/price-comparison/truvada/200&252300+mg/ I use the term "hoodwinked" because a lot of poz guys are taking Truvada along with something else. I think it's very "convenient" that all neg guys need to do is take one of the meds a poz guy is taking and voila, he stays neg. So now neg guys are popping pills like poz guys so they can stay neg and big pharma is laughing all the way to the fucking bank.

I am bit confused as to why HIV status even matters anymore unless you are going to be monogamous. Seriously. The guys on PrEP and the poz guys are essentially taking the same pills. I love how the pharma industry has essentially hoodwinked everybody into popping pills forever.

I vote for being honest with your doctor up to a point. If you've pozzed and he/she is any good, they know you are at high risk for other "nasties" and will check you for them anyway on a routine basis. They have seen it all. But if you choose to spare them the details - e.g. I was at a sex party and took a dozen loads - then at least tell them you occasionally "slip up" and/or do your own research to stay up to date as well. I think it's a bit much to ask a health care professional to validate your choice to be a slut. Sure they shouldn't be lecturing you, but maybe it's also unrealistic to expect them to make you feel great about being a slut and possibly spreading the "nasties" around. Imagine if they took the opposite stance and recommended that "repeat offenders" be quarantined or registered in a database somewhere. That wouldn't be cute at all.

I know people are likely to disagree with me on this, but I don't think a poz guy who is undetectable should tell random strangers their status unless they are dating the guy and have gotten to know them. Why? Because you can't untell people. If you have a profile up on a bareback site, then it's a no-brainer because if you are willing to advertise yourself on a site with poz guys, then you clearly know you're likely to fuck a poz guy. I think a poz guy - and any neg guys who have given/taken loads since their last neg test - should say they are unsure of their status. Why? Because your health is your business just like your ATM pincard number and your social security number. If a guy insists, then send him on his way and wish him good luck sorting out the liars (10%) from those who know (25%) and those who truly don't know (all the rest).

If I don't know your name or much else about you, I am certainly not going to discuss something as private as my health with you. Why would I? Especially in an anonymous setting. I think it is borderline ridiculous for guys to seek bb sex and think by posing the right questions they can end up with a neg bb top or bottom. Stop kidding yourselves. The only guys who can give you an honest answer are the poz guys who know they are poz and the guys who just left the doctor's office with a neg result. Anybody else who has fucked raw since their last neg result is suspect. It's as simple as that. I think it's much more sensible to get on PreP or get tested regularly. Those are things in your control. Nothing else is. If you can't or aren't willing to do either of those, then you are probably going to end up poz.

I've run across guys who self-identify as straight and are married with kids, but would fuck a rattlesnake if somebody would hold the head for them. This one guy in particular was so sexual that I don't think he even thought of himself as bisexual, let alone gay. If your hole was offered, it got fucked but you couldn't even touch his. I'll never forget how he had been on vacation with his wife and said he fucked her everyday during the trip. But he came straight to me when he got home and dumped two loads in me. Heck, he even turned out one of his straight co-workers and they both ran a train on me. I can imagine the conversation that occurred leading up to this. "I know this fag who will let you fuck him and breed him. I'll arrange it but only if I get to fuck you too." And he didn't have a small cock either. I imagine his wife was happy to have him fuck other people to keep him off her every night!

I was in Berlin a few years ago and was leaning over a sling. The first guy, who I saw, fucked me with a rubber. After he finished, I stayed there facing the wall when a second guy slid his dick in raw and fucked me hard. After he came, I reached around and felt my slick hole. I never saw his face. As it was quite dark, I would have had trouble seeing him anyway. It remains one of my hottest fucks. This is why I am not a fan of chat sites and apps. When I am truly in slut mode, nothing is better than having a drink in a bar and going to the darkroom. So much time saved, nobody flakes and my hole is happy.

Having the tops get in to the sauna for free is to hopefully balance out the number of tops and bottoms. I do have a funny memory of being at a sex party where there were not enough bottoms. I think it actually turned some of the bottoms into tops. LOL. Back to the idea at hand, I could envision a pump and dump station that was totally anonymous as part of a sauna where the tops didn't have to get undressed.However, I don't think they should be able to pick among the holes. It would be totally dark and you'd have 15 min max to dump your load. If you dumped it sooner, you got a partial refund. Bottoms should have to pay for every top they service with a cap on the amount of time they could occupy the station.

I think all saunas should have a "Dare to Bare" party once a month. The play on words would attract the barebackers and the nudists. All doors should be removed from the cabins and the lighting should be dim. People would travel for hours to be there. I've seen it happen. And don't let somebody post on BBRT that they are taking loads, the place would be rocking. (I don't think the sauna should post the party on BBRT to avoid running afoul of the authorities). I'd issue wrist bands. Tops wear black wrist bands, get in for free and get a free drink. Bottoms wear white wrist bands and pay full price and pay a two drink minimum. Versatile guys get a black/white band and pay somewhere in the middle and pay a one drink minimum. Masks might be even better to ensure the anonymity.

some will certainly care if you are bleeding and it make you feel even worse if they stop fucking you and express disgust let your body heal is my vote

Just took care of business for a 32 year old italian guy in the neighbourhood. He's in a relationship so he's super careful about everything. He only contacts me over the chat lines. I get there, go in, and he takes a huff of my poppers. I suck him briefly before he spins me around and nails me right there by the kitchen sink. He pulls out and creams my face (which is so humiliating for me by the way - loads in the ass don't bother me at all ). As soon as I get in my car, his bf who I've seen before is getting off the bus. Wow.

This is a tough question. I met my current bf back in 2009. At the time he was in a relationship. We fucked around a bit but lost touch. His relationship eventually ended and we got together in 2012 and have been together ever since. In a way, I am kind of "relieved" that he did not end his previous relationship because of me. I feel much more secure and I feel less threatened by other guys, who come on to my boyfriend all the time. Although there are certainly exceptions, I do believe that a guy who leaves his bf for you is likely to leave you for someone else once the honeymoon phase (which usually lasts 1-2 years) is over. Yes, people do get tired of each other. And my bf and I have an open relationship. It just never ceases to amaze me how many guys want you when you are not really available to them but when you are looking for something serious, it is not so easy. I have a fuck buddy right now in another town who knows my situation but I distinctly get the sense that he's catching feelings when I am all about getting a little side dick. One more thing: it's never a good sign if somebody is bashing their ex constantly. For this reason, I think anybody fresh out of a relationship needs a 6 month cooling off period to hopefully prevent them from bringing unnecessary baggage into a new relationship.

@seaguy: if i understood the story correctly, the twink had been drinking and it was 5 am. If you think you are safe and you are attacked like that, I can see freezing up. And it had to be very unsettling to see the attacker on campus and very hard to go and report it.

Of course the guy was being a little dramatic for the camera, but I do feel some sympathy for him. He is a twink and even if he wasn't drunk, he probably could not have done much against a bigger stronger attacker. I am a pretty big guy myself and I did have someone try to force himself on me in a cabin at a bathhouse years ago. We struggled for a while and he gave up because I was strong enough to stop him from penetrating me. If you find yourself in a situation where you are not turned on and someone decides they are going to fuck you, it's really alarming. This is why I don't get the rape in prison fantasy some gays have. There is nothing sexual or exciting about that. It's no different than being mugged or physically assaulted walking down the street.

I didn't think I would like rimming until I was in a bathhouse in Montreal and this hot guy presented his ass to me to rim. It turned me on immensely. That being said, rimming only happens with me less than 5% of the time. It is really guy-specific. And hygiene is very important. Though I tend towards bottom for penetration, rimming makes me definitely want to top. I also have a regular fuck bud who insists on being rimmed. After a couple of minutes of rimming, he tells me to get on my knees - but not to rim me - but to plant his load in me. So in a nutshell, I'm an opportunistic rimmer. LOL. One more thing: you rim me or I rim you = no kissing afterwards. It's a one way street.

I once heard a comedian say, "The only thing better than good pussy is new pussy." I had to laugh. But if the pussy is good, and I mean really good, you'll probably want it again at some point. Some of my best sex has been with people I have known for years. We don't have to see each other often....maybe every few months or every year or every few years. Sounds like something deeper is going on if you can get erect for a guy the first time, but not a second time. That's worth talking to a professional about because that pretty much means you can never be in a relationship. And that's kinda sad in a way.

Not a problem for me at all if the guy wants to suck me. I just better not feel any teeth . I've seen tops get bone hard from sucking me or from having me rim them. I know some will say "he's not a total top then." I don't judge. I focus on the end result - the load in my hole - and not the path we took to get there.

I've played all the roles, having started out as a top, then switched to bottom and now somewhere in between. I'll never limit myself. I get having a preferred role, but I guess what I don't get is having a preferred role (e.g. bottom) and then being frustrated that there are not enough tops - because to me, you're either part of the problem or part of the solution. Or you look for a solution. I'm lucky in that I am in a long term open relationship with a versatile top. He only occasionally bottoms for me. So when I want to top, it's clear I get to fuck other guys. But when I want to bottom with other guys, I don't sit online for hours, getting frustrated, hoping that a "total" top picks me. Luckily, I have a few regulars from years of living in the same place and that works for all parties involved. In fact, one of my buds is bottom in his relationship but only tops me. The other thing I do is travel because it just exposes me to more people. And when I no longer get my sexual needs met through my man, my fuck buds and my travels, then I guess I'll turn to escorts or find the sites where younger guys are looking for grandpas. LOL. For the bottoms who say there aren't enough tops, I've heard some of my top friends say, the guys they are most interested in don't want to bottom. Go figure! I think sometimes as men we are wired to chase after what is often the most difficult to acquire. You would think that with all this technology - i.e. knowing who is within feet of us and looking for sex - that we as gays would be the most sexually satisfied group ever!!! I think it has made us even more demanding and more selfish and less sexually satisfied.

@JustProwling: you wrote: "Considering your words, I'd STILL prefer to have an "alright" TOTAL top in my ass, over a dude who's ALSO a fuck-hole." I understand what you are saying, but experience has taught me, things are not always what they seem. If I follow your logic, then all a guy has to do is tell you he's a "total" top (when in reality, he may not be) and you're good to go. He could very well have a load in his ass when he fucks you. See here's where the internet and personal ads (some of us on here remember them ) fucked up the game. I really do miss the days when you cruised guys on the street or in bars and you had no idea of what his preferred role was unless he was flagging it with a handkerchief (some of us on here remember them ) or he told you. If you were looking to get fucked and he fucked you, you were just fine. But nowadays we use the search function on a website, look at a pic (which might be very old), ask for more pics and then decide if we are going to hook up with a guy, knowing full well that guys will say just about anything to get laid. We look for things to use to screen people out. And while the internet has allowed us to organize ourselves into subgroups by fetish/interest, it has also cut us off from a wide range of men that we might otherwise find interesting. But alas, our Prince Charming ticked the wrong box on his profile and now he's in the reject pile. That's what I find sad. If you are turned off by versatility, I accept that. However, just remember things are not always what they seem. Maybe my next project is to create several profiles - one top, one bottom, one versatile - with a variety of different photos and report back on just how these labels are nothing more than our attempt to get what we think we want.

I'm considering removing my "preferred" role from all of my profiles because I think that it's very limiting for all parties involved. Think for a minute how many incredible fucks that bottoms have missed out on because they pre-judged the other guy because he said he was versatile. Or how many nice asses that tops have passed up because the other guy didn't self-identify as a total bottom. Given the disproportionate number of guys who prefer to be bottom, this self-labelling only leads to more frustration. The tops sometimes make older average-looking bottoms feel even more insecure by selecting only the youngest or most attractive bottoms, who may not even be the best fucks. Meanwhile, bottoms in their quest to compete for tops inadvertently make tops (some of who are lousy fucks) overvalued in the sexual marketplace. I blame porn and our need to fit certain gay stereotypes for forcing people into narrow boxes which they then feel obliged to defend. Almost like religion in a way. You know the shit doesn't make sense, but you go along with it because everybody else is too and you don't want to be labelled as the crazy or weird one. Going to sex parties (which I don't do anymore) taught me just how much more fun versatile guys have. When you've got your conquest in front of you, and you're damn attracted to him, you can do whatever is needed to have a good time - even if that means for a few minutes stepping outside your preferred role. I wish a few more hardline bottoms would pop a Viagra or Cialis and give it a go sometimes. You might end up changing your mind or at least becoming better at your preferred role. Another story and I'll stop. Back in 2012, I was getting bred regularly by this dude who I thought was a top. We ended up playing in a group and I saw him get fucked. I was shocked. But ever since then, when I see him, I fuck the shit out of him and we get into some very intense flip fucking. He's a multiple shooter too, but that's another story.

My apologies for drooling shamelessly, but RogerDavies if I was anywhere near you - BABY - as long as I had a dime, you'd have a nickel.

I have a PhD, and am a 6 figure executive in a blue chip company ...yesterday i was fucked raw and bred by an escort...I stumbled across his real name in the process....he also has a PhD and is an executive in a biotech company. he had been trying to breed me for a year now...I'm trying to figure out why he is an escort!

I know the grass always seems greener on the other side, but my advice to you would be to focus on your career and then travel when you can to live out some of your fantasies. I was super serious about school and my career in my 20s, and I now have all the trappings that come with that (nice house, luxury car, money to travel). It was only then that I got in touch with my inner slut and made up for lost time. You can be a whore at any age but you really only have a limited window of time to get the school and career bit sorted out. And one more thing. Don't give up on love. A life with material wealth and lots of sex sure is nice, but you don't want to look up at some point and see other couples who have bonded and think, hmm, I want that too. And you can't bond if all you are thinking about is your next trick. Married men often take full advantage of single gay guys in this sense. They are having their cake and eating it too, so only give them so much of your time. You really are just a hole to them.