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I think you're trying to deal with a few issues you are not identifying yet. And I'd say don't rush the physical side of this before you'd be mentally and emotionally on a close page between you two. Things you haven't said mostly relate to you. Aside from your appreciation of your newly found emotional state of attraction, you need to take inventory of your own side before you thread deeper. People with disabilities need a whole lot more confidence than regularly-abled persons - it compensates for them to a degree what they are missing. You mentioned he is not social, his mother is constantly helping him out with his impairment, and that is significantly limiting his own initiative. It is a very big warning sign. I don't know if that had gone too far so that he would not build for any more of it on his own, staying forever dependent on charity of other people. This is where you are jumping ahead without looking - if the guy is not social, he may not be well-equipped to judge his own feeling towards sexuality of either kind - his mother is cockblocking him all the time. If that's what she is doing, that is the most obnoxious parental disservice to a person with a physical disability. This is where you walk in all hot and heavy trying to get his pants off deciding who's fucking who now. You need to understand your own emotional state first, because it sounds to me you're also mostly lonely yourself. It is hard as is for you. Seeing another lonely guy, and making a quick parallel, you heart is big enough to feel compassionately willing to reach out. And being gifted with Internet Age, it seems to be an illusion that you'd strike the ball out of the park with a single click of a button (i know, a US sports metaphor - I've been here too long) would transpire in real life. Such digital convenience and utility are fantastic and very misleading - human emotions take far longer to form and develop for anything other than a quicky in the heat of the moment. And if he is a person captured by his disability, he also may be needing extra time to say 'yes' or no' to any new physically-engaging idea - again, for lack of, or insufficient, confidence. And then it be ready and available to be openly (or willingly) verbalized by either side can be a huge hurdle. Again, if the other side is not ready to be at that stage, or can't join you opining in free flow on personal issues that deep - thread very-very carefully. Because his sensibilities are different from your own and you may not know by how much, and he can take offense where you don't mean any. Again, I may be wrong - I can judge the situation only on what you have said so far, and there are very big chunks missing. If you have a social circle to rely on, offer to take him out of the house without his omnipresent mother and try to engage in regular non-sexual interactions. If you show that you're interested to understand how he perceives the world around him, public places can be helpful - lots of sounds, lots of movement. See whether it's touch or sound being central in his interactions. See what he likes. See if he'd willingly take initiative on movements, or rely only on your senses to navigate. You will need more props. May be it's a bar of ice cream. It's the insight you can't get out of an office visit to unfamiliar equipment. You need to know the person behind the dark glasses before you get involved in your own emotions thinking he likes you just as much - that's a fantasy until he verbalizes it himself. That is if he is identifying as gay of course. You don't know that yet. And there are ethical issues there too - practitioners and patients usually are not engaging each other romantically. And if you feel comfortable around each other and come to find a new friendship, would you be upset if he turns out not to be gay? Would you then continue that relationship? Would you reach out again to offer your emotional support when he has a problem elsewhere? If you're lucky enough to find a relationship - remember that it is not a given. Right now you have far more questions in front of you than answers. Just remember that hornliness and sex and intimacy are 3 separate and individual things, sometimes very personal.

I'd say - don't assume everything you know is known to the other guy ATM. Unless you have a clear recognizable face pic online, locked or unlocked, you'd never know what moved the other guy to unlock unless he follows up with a comment. I am usually interested to see everything else and THEN the guy's ass. Unlocks are common, non-verbal and most of the time are just an inkling of an interest to stay or evaporate into the shadows faster than the poppers. Extreme hornyness, intoxication, ADHD, other distractions, etc could be a possible reason. At every step of the initial back-n-forth there is always room for human error, mechanical motor skills or in judgement, or misunderstanding that would get no explanation. Try chatting first, with something innocent "Did we meet before? or Have I seen you somewhere?" to see if you knowing the guy pulls a mutual recollection. At public events I register a lot of familiar faces - look, we are doing this for years - it's a starter to strike a convo but hardly an obligation to respond affirmatively. See what comes up.

Tan lines! It just underlines the nakedness of the affair. Yummy!

Sluts, whores and bitches rejoice! Generic Truvada is coming. By Teva (US), maker of very many things generic. Unfortunately their pricing varies widely. But as always - the the proof is in the pudding, no date yet and no pricing either: http://www.raps.org/Regulatory-Focus/News/2017/06/09/27877/FDA-Approves-First-Generic-Version-of-Gileads-HIV-Drug-Truvada/

My experience may be a bit non-standard. But it worked out time and time again. While MisterBnB had some curious offers for the areas of my next travels, acceptable places (walking distance to transport, non-shared occupancy, in places of interest) were all in smaller numbers, more expensive, sometimes much more expensive for the discerning homo eye than plain-Jane hetero AirBnB listings. It's just economics at this point. When you count all expenses to get all possible lay and sex in all possible days (count your potential host only as 1 contact), transportation, door costs, location charges, time for travel from A to B, consumables, etc etc), it comes to mostly the same with much more flexibility in plans and wider range of options. I do list in my profile that I am a single homo, and I let people draw their own understanding. I am yet to get a question. And when I need to, I have a private spot with easy access. And access to whatever events I feel like going to. By all means, it's not a fully-equipped kink apartment somewhere like in the center of Schöneberg or Vauxhall or Amsterdam Centrum, but it's 2 blocks off. And I bring over along with me what I can to play with.

Hairless for the bottom is the best, man. Whichever way you get to it.

Don't worry about IML - it ain't gonna be even close. You should've stopped by Biohazard party. Mutschmann's is reliable time after time but does not go to that scale.

Chariots/Vauxhall was squeaky clean for me, and not very popular - could've been a slow day too. But Pleasuredrome and Sweatbox were easy fun even on a slow night (they are 24/7 both). Will try Locker Room next time I come over early June.

You should plan this better - not at the time you're walking through the door. Your promo time would be longer, and I am sure more guys would detour daily travels and make a stop at your waiting ass. Including myself. But may be next time.

Eunuchs who chose to turn that way are a fascinating mental state for modern times IMO. And I see it as something starting on as mental, just like anything else sexual - if your brain is not tickled by it, you are just not interested - by way of a regular subjective contemplation. And then from one's mental acceptance it transpires into physical as a body mod on oneself. Where most times in human tribes a body mod is attempted on as a subjective opinion of enhancement of appearance, less so of physical function - tats, piercings, skin graphs or hair removal, a bone in your nose, et al. I am not talking about it as an imposed medical need, induced chemical injury or designated criminal punishment in modern societies or recent times. Yet, obviously, ball removal in itself is very visual (when you get down to it naked), and, possibly, visually pleasing to some, and obviously very impactful functionally to an adult male. To a degree that takes one to an entirely new level of servitude and dedication to pleasing the bodies and senses of others - consider historical references - the same castrati, catamites, and paederasty in antiquity - a relationship between an adult and yet-undeveloped adolescent males. And it was happening all over the place in ancient human societies, not only in Rome or Greece. Brings a lot of classical undertones infused to a regular slut looking to provide and enhance his anal arts to satisfy a top and polish it up to become a reputable cum dumpster. With no major similar need for himself. Like I said, fascinating.

I what I have recently found out is that winter airfares to Europe could be quite often very affordable. I have now seen below-$500 fares to Barcelona and Munich for January-February trips. Granted it's from the East Coast, but I think similar options could still be found from something like Seattle or another major hub. Because it had been a few years now since traveling NY to Europe was almost the same cost as going from NY to the West Coast. Look at where you have local last minute offers and then try manual searches on major travel engines with variables that suit your dates. Or may be take a road trip?

I think you notice only guys who do the same pattern as you in this - bottoms looking for tops. I can say that I see exactly the opposite - too much roaming traffic and very few bottoms engaged in activities. And definitely not enough fucking. I don't believe everybody is that shy that everything happens silently and only behind a closed door so god forbid anyone notices that someone got fucked at the baths or in a booth.

After American experience pretty much all over the country I can concur - not a lot can be in the same league as Biohazard, Coffe & Cream, Pig, or Snax parties. Some are more regular than others, and Pig and Snax are once a year events. Try club listings on Gay Romeo for detailed info.

Try Liberator Shapes if it is for your own bed.

I can agree with most things already mentioned on here, based on my own experience and other witness' accounts. But I want to mention something else, in my opinion very related - as you might notice that you're getting more tender in sexual contexts and more accepting of things coming as a reaction towards you from others (or may be not, I can be blamed for both), one tends to forget that sex is all mental. "Brain is the biggest sex organ" (The Big Liebowski). As a younger guy I haven't even paid attention to that. And while I find that such self-reflection (as this thread) is generally a good thing, possibly motivational for physical and mental upkeep of oneself, the mindful side of getting older can really drive you bonkers for not good enough reason. As someone (oh horror! - straight) shared to me exactly today, it is totally upsetting that emotionally you're still seeing yourself as capable and available, but physically things are so very different. (In gay terms, you're getting judged by the cover. She is also much older than me, my parents' range older, and we've known each other for decades), so the issue at hand is a bit bigger than just being a top or a bottom, and it is common to most other humans - aging with time but against your will - however narrow you want to focus it. Effectively you're just limiting your sexual demographic to a mostly-losing scope of singular self, when it should be the main driving force going forward, just like in your younger years, - another cinematic quote - "On a long enough timeline, the survival rate for everyone drops to zero." (Fight Club) At this point I think it is all in your own mind, whether you agree to slow down or keep on whipping on that batter. I do enjoy taking breaks, but on the other hand I enjoy more the quality of my encounters. Yes, it is accepting a registered change in self. Granted, you get more skilled with age, both in sex and righting the situation for a more satisfactory outcome, and things may take more time than before. You enjoy wider variety of activities and entertain your body with stronger senses. Everything has an opposite side. It took some time for "Fight Club" to grow on me. I find the dialog in it rather motivational. If you allow someone else to impose their passing opinion of you on your own self and of your own free will doing so, you're effectively aging yourself without even looking in the mirror. I can also be blamed for that, and now I try not to do it.

Shave that cunt. The feeling of nothing interfering is amazing for the top.

Bath house on a weekend night? Granted, places differ in experience, but I imagine plenty of people have shared what where is worth to visit. SBN night? or a Blackout event? I am sure you'd get your ass fucked - there is no such thing as a free ass getting away.

Spread your cheeks and start begging to be fucked - that would pull over anybody. Rimming your top is good but be ready to roll onto more with it.

Well, as a proper slut you probably have an item or two in your street gear collection with (let's say) easily suggestible messages in full display - RAW series from G-Star, Easy Ryder with a reference to motorcycles, Big Bang from TV show, etc etc. That is besides the legitimate kinkwear - leather, rubber and such. Sometimes as a fashion statement, or a conversation starter, a tongue-in-cheek pun, or otherwise a subject for easy banter of sexual kind. I confess - I have more than a few myself, with variable degrees of intentional clarity. I enjoy most of it - again, street type fashions. I recently came across a chance reference to a vendor site I never heard of before - and not that I've been just so looking. I have no intent of passing an endorsement for it, but sometimes new things are quite appealing. Have a look - RawTshirts.com . Some are flat out tempting to me. I appreciate all opinions shared.

I imagine the material of the item also matters - stainless vs tagnsten or whatever else, ferrous/magnetic vs non-magnetic, etc. Or same for, say, chastity hardware. That choice is something that is in one's control or range of option at time of purchase. Or say 'open' (removable) shape vs 'closed' for quick removal prior to scanning. Because the type of scanner you'd be going through is outside such choice or option, and depending on the 2 common types public experience might be different. I'd be interested to see if someone can comment on those details. On a side note, I can say I've been 'randomly selected' for additional screening so far twice over the years when returning to the US, at Toronto and Copenhagen, and let me just say that facilities and protocols used differ significantly.

I'd venture to say a plunger-based oiling gun should help, similar to the likes of a mechanic's tin oiler (but I use it for liquid lubes). An automotive store should have one. It is smaller than a common caulking gun. Just tell them for greasing up ball rollers, they'd get the gist of it. Also, a battery acid tester kit may have a similar sturdy syringe. Neither should be expensive. And all you need is about 4-5 inches in length of the tube, but a replaceable/extendable nozzle may be more difficult to find. Unless you put a piece of vinyl tube on it like a catheter. See if that works. Plus it's a conversation piece in the bedroom.

All sounds proper

That setup is not without a benefit - no banging against a hard wall to get a warm hole.

While I agree with most that chimed in before me, here is an alternative view to the topic, from the hand of the bottom - it would work fo a number of situations, not just getting the hole ruined - http://thisvid.com/videos/pretty-faggot-princess-destroys-it-s-cunt-to-amuse-it-s-master/