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Like others here, depends on where I am. I don't think of it as "cruising" if I am at a bathhouse or ABS because I am simply naked and available. Cruising to me involves clothes and some seduction. I wear something with a loose waste and nothing underneath on the bottom and usually a tight and short T shirt on top (short so it doesn't hide any ass or get in the way of fucking). Loose wasted jeans or shorts because I like to be able to subtly slide my pants down and expose some ass crack as part of the seduction process. If I see a guy eyeing me, I'll find a way to get in front of him and work my waistline down just enough to show a small strip of ass that only someone looking for it would notice. One of the places I liked to cruise before I moved was a pedestrian bridge over a river at a park. It was long, so you could stand in the middle and look out over the water and easily see when someone was entering the bridge from either side. It was particularly cruisy at dusk when you couldn't see clearly what was going on unless you were actually on the middle of the bridge. I'd stand looking out at the water and when I saw a guy enter from either side of the bridge, I'd lower my pants just enough to expose a small amount of crack and bare ass. Love that sort of cat and mouse play. Many tops would act like they were just taking a walk, pause as they started past me, look, then slowly approach to make sure they were seeing what they thought they were. I'd have my hands in my pockets and let my jeans or shorts fall a little more and they would often step up behind, lower them the rest way, slide in and breed me right there on the bridge.

I lean in this direction also. I am not one to put a moral judgement on anything except causing harm to another, so for me this becomes a practical discussion. Essentially, this seems a discussion on how to have as pleasurable life as possible, and who doesn't want that? I love sex and when I'm in the zone it's hard to find anything that compares. From and intellectual perspective though, I want to experience as much in life as I can. I really believe I can do anything I set my mind to, and that has borne out for me. I've been a successful business person, building and running a 14m business. Did a total switch in mid life and now am a medical professional saving peoples lives. I've restored 9 houses, 4 of them historical, doing all the work myself. Ive done white water rafting. I can hang glide. I'm a yogi. I have a second degree black belt. I'm an organic grower/farmer, started and run a farmers market. My point is, I don't think I am special. I didn't know how to do any of this stuff until I tried and just did it. I made tons of mistakes, but consider that part of the learning process. If all one wants out of life is to fuck, hey, go for it with all you have. On the other hand, I think life is full of possibilities and I don't have to limit myself to fucking if I want to include other stuff as well. I'm still a slut and I have a special place in my heart for many on this site because I love people who defy the status quo. Also, just because one chooses to dedicate their self to fucking right now doesn't mean one can never change and add something to the equation :-). That's why I appreciate JizzDumpWI approach/input, because it allows for future options through self preservation. As someone who takes care of dying people, I have cared for many people who are still young who have destroyed their health and are no longer in a place to pursue or enjoy their source of pleasure because of that. They become a burden, dependent on others to sustain them. It's not a fun life for them, because no one enjoys caring for a selfish person. To me, independence is key to a successful life, because dependence takes away choices. I think we are so fortunate to live in a time where there are HIV meds and it is no longer a torturous death sentence to be HIV+. I fuck with abandon. I get checked for STD's and treat them so I can continue to fuck with abandon as long as I can and so I can fulfill my own moral code to do no harm to another.

At first this question made me laugh because as a bottom cum slut, I like to get fucked by any cock. I've had lots of BBC, enough to know that stereotypes are just that: "Stereotypes." Not all blacks have huge cocks and they don't all have a specific approach... Having said that, most of the BBC i have had has been the kind of experience where I have to bite my tongue while getting fucked to keep from declaring my love and adoration. I've had similar experience with WBC, but it's not nearly as common as with BBC. For me it's not the size thing, but the attitude and approach. There is often this focused attitude, energy that I feel when getting fucked by a BBC that totally sends me. For me, my usual desire when getting fucked is the cum. That changes most of the time when I am getting fucked by BBC and I love the fuck process as much or equally to the final cum deposit. Case in point. I recently went to Palm Spring for a sex vacation (went to a gay resort), so I got a lot of cock. They all blend together in my mind, except the black guy I hooked with. It's hard to explain, but the way he fucked me touched me emotionally as well as physically, something I have come to associate with black guys. It's like I fall instantly in love lol. He did happen to have a huge cock, both girth and length, and he was very into working the second sphincter. That's never been huge pleasure spot for me, usually feels kind of uncomfortable physically, and hurts if forced, but hearing his pleasure response when he was working the head of his cock in and out of it had me in total bliss. I'm not usually one for long fucks and sometimes find it tedious if the top doesn't have technique, and he announced before he came over that he liked to take his time. I loved every second of it and missed him as soon as he was gone. He had me in all sorts of positions and had a sweet but assertive temperament. He left me gaping afterward and I savor that fuck still.

I was probably 8 or 9, I don't remember the exact age. A neighbor boy who I had a crush on showed me an enema nozzle when I was at his house one day and told me his mother would put it in his butt. The power of suggestion. I knew we had one at home, so that was the first thing to go in, after that just about anything...especially as I got older as a young teen. I didn't have my first cock till I was 27 though. I was very religious and only fantasized with objects. I never thought of my ass as a "pussy" though until I was much older and some tops started calling it that, a whole different type of turn on when I hear that because I guess in my mind a pussy is for fucking while an ass is being re-puposed (so to speak). The turn on for me when a top calls my hole a "cunt" or "pussy" is that there is no doubt in his mind what it's for.

I'm more into cum dripping, so to speak lol. Once cum is in my hole, i do not want to lose it butt want to hold it deep inside. For me it's an almost spiritual thing where a top has placed some of his essence in me. It is really hot to me though when I get so full that some dribbles down my taint and balls, kind of an invitation for more.

Here's some evidence based info for anyone interested (from the U.S. Dept of Veteran Affairs) "A smaller study looked at both male-female serodifferent couples and male-male serodifferent couples who did not use condoms (and did not plan to use them). All of the HIV-positive partners in the study were on ART and had undetectable HIV viral loads. After more than a year, none of the HIV-negative partners had become HIV positive. The results of these studies show that if an HIV+ person is on ART with a completely suppressed HIV viral load, the risk of infecting an HIV-negative sexual partner is likely to be extremely low. However, there are some major caveats to consider:" you can read the whole thing here http://www.hiv.va.gov/patient/faqs/transmission-of-undetectable-virus.asp

Yeah, this. I too am a healthcare worker. I do so many assessments that the questions are just data for me to use to help you. If I don't have the data, my help is going to be affected. Like madeupname, when it comes to some questions like alcohol I, and most of my peers I have discussed this with, at least double the answer. I work on a critical care unit in a hospital, so the people I see are there for emergent conditions. If I get a patient in for a heart attack, or whatever, I need to know if they are alcohol dependent because once they pass the 18-24 hour mark without a drink, they can start heading into withdrawal symptoms that I can treat and ease if I know about it. If we suspect, we just put the order set for ativan in their drug MAR so we have it if we need it lol. I had a patient recently who was in for low blood pressure. That happened because he had and infection. He also happened to be HIV poz. It turned out that the infection he had was from his pet snakes... you fill in the blanks lol. He told us after we did some extensive tests. The poor guy was miserable from diarrhea he'd had for a couple of months from the a GI infection, and finally got dehydrated and had electrolyte imbalance from all the fluid loss. If his PCP had known about the snakes, could've educated him about stuff he didn't know about diseases they can transmit.

Hi Sunovabesh, Not sure how much I can add to the great responses of Phoenixgeoff and subbytch. I would ditto PG's input about being upfront in your profile, both about what you want and that you're not looking for a sugar daddy. I think you are so far ahead of many guys, younger or older, because you are thinking and articulating what you think, feel and want. I am sort of amazed at the number of guys I encounter who want one to be a mind reader, or expect others should just know what they want. When I place an ad or write a profile, I work pretty hard to give the reader a clear picture of what they're getting. I really want the same from another. Guys who don't have a detailed ad or profile, then refuse to have some back and forth exchange before getting together are a crap shoot. I know that can be an attempt to avoid guys who are just getting off on talking and have no intention of hooking, but once you get past that you could be on your way to cultivating some fb's. One of the things I think is good about being different is 'different' people seem more apt to question the status quo, and learn a lot by doing that. Not expecting one person to be everything helps me a lot. It seems to be a heteronormative idea that somehow there's one special somebody out there. I get pieces of my needs/desires met by all sorts of different people, and I work to make that reciprocal. I'm comfortable with who I am and I don't want to put expectations on others to be something other than who they are. That's why it's important to be self aware and know how to communicate. I tell people what I think and feel and look for, and I ask others to do the same. I kind of avoid guys who don't know how to do that. For me, finding connections is not about finding someone who'll conform to what I want, but finding someone who likes what I'm looking for. I find it's easier to do that in pieces. For instance, if I am just super horny and want cum in my hole, I'll go to a place that has a GH or a dark room. For other desires like friendship or visual appeal, I have a network of friends. I look for pieces to create the picture/puzzle I'm trying to construct vs one guy being the whole picture. I think it's awesome you're examining this stuff. Yay you!

Ok, went and had a great time... ready to go back. The play areas at the resort were kinda similar to a bathhouse. I got most of my sex just by leaving my drapes open and door ajar, then lying naked and face down, plenty of takers. (_O_)

It's not something I typically do to myself, but I like the idea of it. I like the attitude of a top who wants to make my hole wet and accessible. A lot of tops seem to like wet and sloppy and this can be part of the process of making their mark, but I understand not all tops are into it.

hey phukhole, got here this afternoon (_!_)

This is where I will be staying... have a room for 5 nights

made reservations for Palm Springs, looks like it will be fun.

I haven't adjusted to my age. I turned 60 in October and do not see myself as 'typical.' I'm not as horny as I used to be, so I think that helps. When I am horny, the feeling is just as intense (maybe more?) than it ever was. I don''t think the less frequency of the need/desire makes it easier for one to get what one wants. As a bottom cum slut, it's easier to get what I want because my only 'limit' is do you have a cock that you can fuck with and cum? If I am face down, visual doesn't apply. Tops have to look at who they fuck, so it is much more of a factor. Meaning, how we look as bottoms matters more. I.e., we're going to have more appeal the more appealing we make our selves. For me, I've always managed my weight and for most of the last 10 years sex has been very anonymous, meaning the top doesn't even see my face, just my back side. I'm honest about my age, so fewer people hit on my ads, but I get a lot of repeats from those who know me, so I'd cultivate fb's as a way to get what you want?

haha, yeah, this reminded me of a time I was driving down a street and a guy pulled up next to me and looked over at me, that's all he did, kind of a magical communication. I followed him, he pulled into a Burger King, went into the restroom. I followed and he locked the door behind me, pulled my pants down and fucked me, came and left.

The net and smart phones have definitely changed the cruising dynamic. Getting sex was different during the 80's, no doubt about it. I was living in Hampton Roads VA at the time (Virginia Beach, Norfolk...), home to the worlds largest navel base. There were lots of easy cruise places, but I remember one beach in particular where you could go pretty much any time and find anywhere from 5 to 30 guys cruising. And restroom sex was so common, there were several places you could go and get almost instant sex. There wasn't the buffer of space and electronics. And yes, the net does serve those looking for fantasy much better than cruising places do. I run into that a lot, guys will chat me up to the point of actually asking for my address and then disappear from the face of the earth. On the other hand, I like the component of being able to exchange fantasy and info with someone ahead of time, for me it's like foreplay and gets me even hornier, but I do want to follow through and actually do it vs just jack off to fantasy... which I find very frustrating.

As a cum hungry slut, I like the idea, butt have never experienced a true darkroom. I live in OR and go to Hawks BH in Portland, but I don't think their darkroom is much of a darkroom, more like a dimly lit closet (maybe 6"x5') it's small and only has a smallish padded platform. To me, it doesn't qualify as a "room" or "dark." I guess it can't be pitch black, but not light enough to see the outline of a persons body or features. Would like to find a real one, but the only other BH in Portland is Steam, and they don't have one at all.

It depends. I'm a cum slut and you don't get any cum from a toy. Butt I'm also a slut, so if the top is really into it, then it can be really hot. I have a fb who Ive played with for 2 years and he only plays safe. He's really careful, even wears gloves (which has a kink factor). He is really into opened and cum sloppy hole though. He loves it if my hole is cum filled. He often uses a toy with me to open and gape my hole. Recently he's been using a speculum and I've finally been getting his cum in me (he jacks it in after fucking me with a condom on). Bottom line for me is the energy of the top using the toy. Some tops manage to convey their lust through the toy and it becomes an extension of them, and that's HOT. Others cannot connect to the toy and it feels mechanical and I don't get into it. I use them on myself sometimes, but it doesn't cum close to being as pleasurable.

Not as a rule. For me rimming a Tops ass doesn't connect with my psyche of being a sub bottom. Not that I won't or haven't rimmed a fine ass (if it's clean), but not someone who identifies as "Top.". For me a mans ass is the hottest part of his anatomy, top or bottom, so ass is a real turn on for me. Butt it's a turn on for me to see as it thrusting up and down and around while fucking, there's a power there that is totally hot to me. I'm not exclusively sub, but can go there very easily it seems and part of my sub persona is being a hole to breed, i.e., I associate ass holes with breeding, so it just doesn't fit to treat a tops hole as a pleasure center to me. I'd actually be afraid of encouraging towards more... i.e., bottoming, which I don't wanna do.

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Ive had a few experiences with couples. I played with one couple in particular on several occasions and it was good. They were a mixed race couple (black and white) and had a nice place with a pool, hot tub and tv thet covered an entire wall. The white guy had the larger cock and only liked to get sucked, the black guy loved to fuck and also had a nice cock. The black guy was also fond of kissing. I'm a really picky kisser, not into having my face inhaled or lots of spit or frenzied tongue probing. I haven't found many guys who I enjoyed kissing, but this guy was an awesome kisser, we had great chemistry. Typically we'd start out in the hot tub and end up on a sofa in their theater with the white guy sitting legs spread while I went down on him and his partner would watch some and end up behind me and slide in doggie style. It was always nice and rhythmic sex... kinda miss them since I moved.

Not sure. SF isn't bad, I drove down to SF in June to meet up with a friend for a few days, but didn't do any sex while there. I drove down the coast, beautiful drive in the convertible, but too cold for that in the winter. About a 9 hour drive taking the inland interstate, so doable. Flying is pretty cheap, but staying in SF is pretty pricey. I'm guessing the sex clubs there are second to none? Seattle is a thought. I'm walking distance from the train station where I live, could be fun to do that. Why do you think Seattle would be busier than Pdx?

thanks for the input on input guys. First day off from my marathon work week... healthcare. 13 hour shifts for a week, but then I get a week off, so am wanting to use my weeks off more effectively.

Is it spring? My body seems to feel that way, because I am craving being bred, even more than usual. Even at work I find myself on my phone on break wanting it badly, wanting cock is never far away from my consciousness. I work in healthcare, 13 hour shifts, 3 on, 1 off, 3 on, then a week off. I don't have any time for sex when I am working, butt get every other week off, so lots of flexibility. I wanting to do something on my week off starting Friday, go someplace where I can get bred a lot and pissed into and used for pleasure. I go to Portland (closest city) to a bath house for a day, but it's not a huge city and the bath house can be hit or miss. The "dark room" is the size of a closet and not very dark. I don't care who breeds me, I just want cum and cock in my hole, so would love suggestions on good destinations for sex? Not rich, so and thinking some place closer vs farther from OR, places where airfare is cheap. Three thoughts are Las Vegas, Palm Springs and San Fransisco? Would appreciate ideas and input. Thanks

I saw this in another thread and like it. I'd have to say "bitch" as well, with some of the others thrown in? My qualifier is that I'm a total slut and do not care about size. I have taken some tiny cocks and I end up having the same feelings of adoration as for the guys with large cocks. I love a tops desire to breed and that is what spreads my legs almost unconsciously. "Bitch" works for me because I feel like a bitch in heat.