tallslenderguy

A big part of my sexuality is being submissive (obviously like lots of bottoms). I have a profile on Recon, but have never hooked with anyone from there. Seems many who identify as "Dom" also identify as Sadist. I'm submissive but not into pain. Sex for me is about pleasure, not pain, though I get some get pleasure from pain or from causing it, that's not me. For me, being "sub" is mostly a psychological thing more than it is physical. My chemistry responds to mind fuck, or what i think of as 'intelligent' dominance (for lack of a better term) vs brute force. I have a second degree black belt and feel inclined to back kick into next Tuesday someone I perceive as a bully lol. I've never done it, but that's the response force evokes in me. It doesn't get me hot at all but makes me feel violent like a cornered animal. Obviously, this is not appealing to a lot of guys who identify as Dom lol. On the other hand, a Dominate top who is subtle and uses psychology to get what he wants gets me very slutty. The idea of hypnosis is a huge turn on to me, especially the idea of someone using it on the sly. I'm also turned on by the idea of being groomed because, to me, "grooming" requires intelligence and finese, and for me that makes sex so much hotter to involve the mind too. I don't think what I describe is really true grooming or hypnosis because each would require innocence on my part, or ignorance of what's going on. I guess that's part of what makes it hot, the notion that the top is getting away with something to fulfill his desire.

I have some lace panties, but didn't buy them and don't wear them because I'm personally into them. I got them for tops who are into it. For me, a big part of being a bottom is not just the physical parts, but the mental as well. If my top is into it, I'll wear them to make it hotter for him... it's part of the symbiosis.

yeah, as far as I know, I'm the biggest slut I know. But most people don't talk about such things at work and stuff. I'm sure most of my friends would be pretty shocked to know how much of a slut I am.

i like it if my top is exhibitionist... and voyeur too for that matter. I love the feeling and heat of lust and, to me, exhibition adds to that heat. Guys watching throw fuel on the fire.

Name to contact by: Tallslenderguy... When in heat, I am a total cum slut bitch, cannot get enough cum or piss in my hole Location: Albany OR 97321 Age: 60 Height: 6' 5" Weight: 190 Build: slender Text only: 502 381 8113 Available: every other week (I work healthcare and work 2 weeks in one, so I get every other week off and am flexible those weeks)

Im curious about the holy trainer too, I've read good things about it and how it can be used long term. I have a couple of devices, plastic and metal, both cause chaffing issues and pinching if worn long term. Ideally, would love to have a dom in my life who locks me in, have lots of fantasies about it. Also, as a bottom slut, curious about having my hole locked in as well. Though I know that can be lest viable/practical long term, love the thought of having my hole locked after breeding or being filled with piss to enforce absorption... among other uses I would think a dom could cum up with.

as a bottom slut, I love my hole used by a top who is really into it. Can't imagine fisting taking the place of cock because I'm a cum slut. I've never had a whole hand yet, but several have worked on it. What i love is a top who doesn't ask, but just goes for it when he is topping me. I've had several experiences where a top started fingering me at some point in the fucking process and just kept going, trying to get more and more in. It's happened that way at GH's a couple of times too. I wish I had been able to open more to accommodate them, butt love the fact that they wanted it and tried. When I'm cruising to get fucked, it's often part of my own lust to want a hand inside me.

I don't feel a sense of "doom" or "gloom" re STI's. To me, they are just a fact of life. I think services like safestsexorg are a cool idea for helping to reduce STI's, but realistically has plenty of room for error because how many really get checked for every STI after every sexual encounter? Still, it would make a huge dent if everyone got tested every 3 months as a matter of course. I also think it's great when local health services provide free STI testing at sex clubs/bath houses. Of course, this site has lots of evidence that there are many who want to have and spread STI's as part of their identity. As a critical care nurse who cares for people who are broken because of disease, I do not subscribe to those ideas because it's not just oneself that is affected by those decisions. I think anyone who wants Prep should have access to it. For instance, if all gays who engage in sex that could result in HIV infection were on Prep, it would eventually have similar results as a vaccine in reducing the amount of the disease, because eventually, all the poz carriers would die off from natural cause and not be part of the population to spread it. Prevention is always cheaper than treating the disease. I'm all for methods to reduce disease. But, I do not want to see our society regress to the place where LGBQT people are considered sick or wrong because of their sexuality. I've lived during that era and I don't want to go backwards, so I wouldn't want just anyone in charge of preventative systems.

" I'm a fucking cum whore and I've even been bred by a couple of guys." I smiled at this, I've prolly been bred by close to 2k guys, so I find myself asking: "what constitutes a "cum whore"? And if I read you right, that is the issue, i.e.., you crave cum and being bred? For me, being "frustrated" because you only want to bareback/get bred when you're really horny, would be like being frustrated that you only want food when you're really hungry. A lot of the food we eat is killing us (trust me on this one, I'm in healthcare and 85% of my dying patients have disease that is totally preventable and caused by diet). So, there really is a parallel that can be drawn, albeit not a perfect one. E.g., you could only engage in bb sex with guys who are 'certified' HIV neg. You could do the monogamy thing. Neither is a panacea, but would greatly reduce your risk. But I'm guessing that "cum whore" and monogamy do not align in your disposition? If you are anything like me, when I get horny I am like a bitch in heat and will take any and all cummers. The in between arguing with and fighting your self is not a solution in my opinion. I would seriously look at how to embrace your inner slut (if it is indeed there). Prep is a very real solution if you fear being pozzed, I wouldn't stop till I found a way to get it.

There can be so many reasons, the only way you'll know is the old fashioned way: ask him. I was married and bottoming 25 out of the 31 years I was married. I was ashamed and guilty about being gay (was religious) and cheating/putting my wife at risk. I was petrified and embarrassed to test. You could buy a drug store test for him, he might just be embarrassed to buy one, or he may just be afraid to find out. He's married and living a secret life, this is part of it. But you won't know unless you talk, and even then, it might be a challenge to get at the reasons. I've met a lot of guys who aren't very self aware, don't know how to articulate how they feel, or both.

Hmm. already some well thought out answers here, not sure I have much to add. Idk, I think of myself as more of a slut than a whore, though I'm not sure there's much of a real distinction between the two terms. Either way you put it though, it's not a continuous state for me. It is switched on or off in me, but doesn't seem hard to switch me on. For me the distinticion of "whore" or "slut" is that getting fucked for me is like Lays potato chips, i.e., I "can't eat just one." If you've ever seen a bitch in heat, that about nails it (so to speak). One load just whets my appetite, and I don't think I've ever experienced 'enough' cum in my hole.

I grew up in a religious culture where gay wasn't an option. As a 12 year old, when I realized I liked guys, I went to the library and looked it up in medical books and they all called it an illness (homosexuality was considered a disorder before 1974), so I all my input was that I was somehow broken. I don't know how it would have gone for me if not for that? I can remember having crushes on both boys and girls as far back as 7 years old (I even remember their names and how they looked). I got married to a woman when I was barely 21 and stayed married for over 31 years, divorced 7 years now. I love/loved my former wife, but she never accepted the gay thing. I was attracted to her and had no problems having sex with her, but I got my pleasure from giving her pleasure (i.e., it wasn't about me getting off). Later in our marriage, that even became an issue. She got to a place where she wished I would just take her without any regard to whether or not she came, but I was conditioned to not cum until she had. I've had plenty of opportunities to be with other women, but have rarely been interested. My former wife is the only woman I've ever been with, or even kissed for that matter. But I have been with probably 2k men. I'd probably still be married if my former wife had been able to accept me, but that wasn't in the cards. It seems to me that I have a bottom temperament that is more suited to being with a guy. I'm wired for being fucked, both physically and emotionally. Even though I can function with a woman and, even like it, it's not something I want or seem to need like I seem to need a guy.

"When...?" Pretty early on. Even as a kid when I'd experiment with masturbation, I was very bottom oriented, so I learned to clean out as part of play. I've probably had a couple thousand guys up in me and have never had an 'accident' or mess. Over time I've used and learned different technique, bulb, water bottle if I'm out. Nowadays I use a shower enema. Fiber is important too. If I have any concerns about trapped water, I have a long dildo/snake I often use to make sure I'm completely evacuated and clean.

From a regular FB. This guy is the only person I bottom for who uses a condom. He is into opening my hole, so I've tolerated the condom. He is so paranoid, he ever wears gloves. But he is a horny top and has really wrestled with wanting to seed my hole. I finally got his load after playing with him for 2 years. He contacted me and said: "put a dildo in your cunt and have your speculum lying on the bed next to you, I'm coming over. I want to shoot my load in your opened hole" He used the dildo (pretty large) to open and gape my hole, using his fingers with it, and after he had me gaping, put the speculum in my hole. The speculum is metal and was kinda cold, but he was obviously excited by the way he was breathing and jacking off. When he came, he put the tip of his cock in my opened hole and he came a ton. The coldness of the speculum made his cum feel particularly hot and I felt every bit of it as he shot. Felt incredible and so glad I finally got his seed. So much better than having to invert the filled condom he usually leaves on my ass after fucking me.

Have had a long time fantasy of being placed in chastity. I have a couple of devices, but their obviously not made for long term, the "holy trainer" is new to me and looks intriguing. The idea of dom/sub is totally festinating to me. I had a FB who turned out to be dom, but he was subtle about it, which seems kind of rare? He introduced himself to me on from CL as liking to give massage and I bit. He gave amazing massage, and looking back I realized he was using it as part of a relaxing technique because he would continually whisper things in my ear while massaging. He also always had me wear a blindfold and wait naked and ass up on my bed for him, so I never saw him in a year and a half of almost weekly get togethers. He introduced me to chastity. He always began our get togethers with massage and his whispered messages that would get me both relaxed and pliable and horny as hell. He rarely fucked me, he seemed more into hole modification and would always bring a bunch of toys and lubes and work and play in my hole. This time though, he mounted me and bred me. After he came, he just lay on top of me, still deep inside. After a few, I felt his cock sort of twitching and started to get a warm full feeling inside. I realized he was pissing in me and it startled me, but he whispered things like hot good it felt and how much I was really enjoying it and I relaxed and took it... and I did enjoy it. When he was done, he pulled out without spilling a drop and then he was reaching under me with something (remember, I was blindfolded, but had developed trust, he was always introducing me to new stuff). As he worked, it dawned on me that he was putting some sort of chastity device on me, I felt a bulking cage like device in front and a strap around my waist. I then felt him pushing at my hole as he placed a butt plug in me, which he followed with a strap to hold it in place. I heard a click and then listened as he dressed and left in silence. After he was gone, I removed the blindfold and confirmed my suspicion that he'd locked me in a chastity belt with a butt plug. It was a new and strange experience for me, I was both excited and kind of uncomfortable. I was used to jacking off after he left to get some release, but was not able to because I had a cage locked around my cock and balls. The other thing was I was feeling king of full from the piss, but had a plug locked in place. He left me like that for several hours, but then texted me to let me know where the key was. He told me that I would have absorbed a lot of his piss by then and that it was his way of marking me as his and that I would be able to tell because my piss would now smell like his (it did!). Still though, when I let his piss out of my hole, there was a lot... but I had started to get used to (and like) the sort of uncomfortable but full feeling he'd left me with. It was a hugely hot experience for me because of the intelligent domination that he exercised over me. He kind of ruined me and left a hole in me (so to speak) where I keep wishing for someone similar in my life. Chastity, in my mind, is a part of that dynamic.

Got 2 loads at the local ABS glory hole. Frustrating for me though, because both were from sucking the guys off, nether wanted to breed. One had a hugh load and all I could think of while he was pumping it down my throat was "I wish that was in my ass." To me it's almost a waste.

Not sure it's your brain that's in the way, that's located a little higher up. I'm in a similar position, cept tops have tried more than 3x. I think I'm getting really close, but it's a process of opening up. The guys I've seen who are really into it, train with huge dildos. My guess is if you keep at it daily for awhile, it'll happen? But I don't honestly know. I'm hoping I'm right, cause I want it too. But I'm more into subtle getting in than the actual push on in approach. There's something really hot to me about a guy who tries to sneak his hand in me. I'm very turned on by being used in subtle ways.

Ha, great question. Not eating for a day does not empty one out. Our small and large intestines are about 24-27 feet long, but only 5 feet of that is the large intestine or "colon" (which is the end of the digestive system before the rectum and anus). The issue for us bottoms is what's in our colon. From mouth to large intestine, digestion takes about 6-8 hours. The same food takes another 40 or so hours to make it through the large intestine/colon, before elimination. Here's some interesting facts about digestion: "In the 1980s, Mayo Clinic researchers measured digestion time in 21 healthy people. Total transit time, from eating to elimination in stool, averaged 53 hours (although that figure is a little overstated, because the markers used by the researchers passed more slowly through the stomach than actual food). The average transit time through just the large intestine (colon) was 40 hours, with significant difference between men and women: 33 hours for men, 47 hours for women." http://www.mayoclinic.org/digestive-system/expert-answers/faq-20058340 [laughing]. Sorry, I know you didn't ask for this, but I'm a healthcare professional and into all this stuff, maybe someone will find this useful. Going a day without food is likely not going to harm you. In my opinion, it's probably healthy for most of us. I "fast" often, but I do it a little differently. Never leave out water. One can get dehydrated faster than malnourished. I pretty much only drink water as a rule, fasting or not, alcohol, juice and soda are all full of sugar=calories. I add lime to make it less boring. Eat less for a few days. When I am fasting, I eat one meal in the morning for a few days, and that's high fiber, unprocessed whole food (think "Vegan"). Eating stimulates the whole digestive tract and gets it moving, so eating in the morning if you're going to cum union that night will give your system plenty of time to 'rest.' Most of use are only cleaning out the lower part of our colons when we douche, but since few guys have a 4 foot cock, we don't usually encounter issues. FF's are more thorough, but even with that, most are not going 5 feet deep. Summing up, fasting will slow the digestive process, but will not empty you completely in 24-36 hours. It will slow stuff down and with clean out will locate waste higher up in your system so as not to be an issue probably for a good number of hours.

Yeah, I have definitely thought this on many occasions. Like others, I have just gotten to the place where I don't even approach a versatile when I'm horny and on the prowl. If one approaches me, I can usually tell pretty quickly because for me it's not just the fuck and cum I want, it's the top drive to breed, which is reflected in demeanor. My frustration is with the guys who say they are "versatile" but end up always wanting to bottom. Some try to carry on as if they are both, practicing a deception, or just being deluded?, when all they want is to get fucked. The guys who clarify they are "versatile/bottom," I see as mostly bottoms who occasionally fuck. That seems clear to me and I know not to hit on them because the odds are against me. I get the impression that bottoms aren't the only ones who have noticed bottoms who call themselves "versatile." I've noticed that if a guy really is versatile, he'll put extra in his profile where he emphasizes he is "a true versatile"... "really loves to flip" etc., but says things to make sure others understand he is not a bottom who isn't saying something else.

Interesting topic. I do not have any tattoos, piercings or marks. I've never even had a beer or been stoned lol (but have fantasized about all). I love tattoos that are sexual. Like successfulChaser, I love a guy who owns who/how he is. The fantasy of being permanently labeled as a cum dump with a tattoo on my ass is hot to me. I also get totally turned on by tops who have penis piercings, especially PA's. To me, there's something extra dominate about a top who adds art or piercings to emphasize what he does and likes.

for me being horny and sleazy are pretty much synonymous. the hornier i get, the sleazier. edging makes me horny. one of my favorite places when horny/sleazy is a large darkened porn theater with stuffed sofas/chairs. with only the light from the screen, its a mostly dark room, but light enough to see shadows. that or booths at an ABS, with gh. really hot when it turns public either way. in a theater when someone just takes me and breeds me while others watch and hopefully take their turn. or at an abs when someone starts fucking me at a gh, but comes over into my booth. i face the wall and still never see them, but really hot when they leave the door open while they fuck or after they leave, exposing me and leaving me available

this pretty much sums it up for me. though I literally like to be "blind" (face down and ass up usually). to me, not seeing the person enhances the experience. this is sex, not romance.

fascinating question. I'm not sure my fantasies along this line would qualify as actual "rape" fantasies. As others have voiced on this topic before, is it really rape if we are constructing the scenario? To me, the element the separates rape from other forms of sex is it is not wanted or consensual. If we are fantasizing about it, we obviously want it... at least a part of us does, ambivalence may play in. Having said that, my fantasies involve some form of having my volition taken away, like being overpowered, kidnapped, restrained or drugged. In my fantasies, none involve pain, or at least not much (spanking always intrigues me, but not sure how much I'd like it in reality). For me the turn on is more about the tops need/want to fuck and breed and the extreme drive to make it happen vs his desire to hurt. In reality, a rapist is usually suffering from some sort of inadequacy and is using rape to compensate, so I wonder if bottoms who have this fantasy are not demonstrating the greater power? For me, I don't want to be hurt, but an extreme demonstration of the opposite: desire. Re drugs or alcohol, I've never been drunk or stoned, so not sure how much I'd like it. I want to be aware of what's going on. I've read about taking alcohol anally, and the idea of being stealthed that way (or any way) is hot to me, but again, only if I was still conscious... just altered, more compliant or horny? One of my hottest fantasies involves being taken while I'm asleep or "unconscious." But the turn on for me is not about being unconscious, but that the person breeding me thinks I am. I've played this one out a few times and was hot for both parties. I do it at night, Im in bed just like I'd be if I was asleep at night, and a guy creeps in my door and slides into bed behind me. The set up is I am "unconscious" because he has slipped something to me earlier. The whole approach though is how careful he can be not to wake me, his goal is to breed me without my knowing, so that is a whole different play on the rape thing. One of my other major fantasies is to be restrained spread eagle by a voyeur top who wants to see a bottom bred as many times as possible, again, against his will. I'm more into manipulation/grooming side of getting used than I am brute force. I've been stealth piss fucked through a glory hole at an ABS a couple of times (probably by the same top, but I don't know), and once in a restroom. That is so fucking hot to me. The ABS experiences, the guy was so stealthy about it that I didn't realize until I went home and felt the urge/need to let it out (I'm pretty good at keeping what I get) and his piss cam gushing out (he was long enough to get it deep). The guy in the restroom was an under the stall fuck. After he was done, he passed me a note that read: "thanks, I've needed to go all day." As for what they're calling me, words like "slut, pussy, cunt, whore, bitch" are hot to me, but it's more about the tone behind them. The guys who use them like they've made some kind of discovery about me that they are exposing are what I find hot vs just trying to be derogatory. I had a former FB who used a lot of grooming techniques and he'd whisper words like that almost hypnotically or encouragingly, e.g. "you're a good little slut." To me it's a lot hotter to be turned into something than to be forced.

ditto pozpig. If I'm getting gang banged (always more of a fantasy desire than reality for me) it's because I care to be, not because I don't care :-). All I need is to be spun on hormones and the thought/idea of getting bred, I personally don't need any artificial ingredients lol.

Like others, I'd question whether this guy (or any other) was "straight" to begin with. I too would put my money on suppressed or repressed. There are still strong cultures (usually religious it seems, or religiously influenced) that do not believe there is such a thing as 'being gay.' They equate being gay to a lifestyle choice and compare it to things like drinking alcohol. I.e., they consider sexual orientation to be a choice, not something that is simply a part of who you are. If you grow up in that kind of culture, it can be hard to reconcile who you are with what you were raised believing. I would guess that this sort of thing will become less common the longer more predominant culture is accepting and open about LGBTQ people, but that could take awhile. It's hard to imagine a time when there will be no fundamentalists... and they will produce repressed/suppressed gay kids. Look at all the people who are coming out of the woodwork to vote for Trump? There's quite a few of them who believe queers should be killed, or being gay should be illegal. Some of those people think a return to times when gays were considered deviant or sick is part of what it means to "make America great again."