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Here's some evidence based info for anyone interested (from the U.S. Dept of Veteran Affairs) "A smaller study looked at both male-female serodifferent couples and male-male serodifferent couples who did not use condoms (and did not plan to use them). All of the HIV-positive partners in the study were on ART and had undetectable HIV viral loads. After more than a year, none of the HIV-negative partners had become HIV positive. The results of these studies show that if an HIV+ person is on ART with a completely suppressed HIV viral load, the risk of infecting an HIV-negative sexual partner is likely to be extremely low. However, there are some major caveats to consider:" you can read the whole thing here http://www.hiv.va.gov/patient/faqs/transmission-of-undetectable-virus.asp

Yeah, this. I too am a healthcare worker. I do so many assessments that the questions are just data for me to use to help you. If I don't have the data, my help is going to be affected. Like madeupname, when it comes to some questions like alcohol I, and most of my peers I have discussed this with, at least double the answer. I work on a critical care unit in a hospital, so the people I see are there for emergent conditions. If I get a patient in for a heart attack, or whatever, I need to know if they are alcohol dependent because once they pass the 18-24 hour mark without a drink, they can start heading into withdrawal symptoms that I can treat and ease if I know about it. If we suspect, we just put the order set for ativan in their drug MAR so we have it if we need it lol. I had a patient recently who was in for low blood pressure. That happened because he had and infection. He also happened to be HIV poz. It turned out that the infection he had was from his pet snakes... you fill in the blanks lol. He told us after we did some extensive tests. The poor guy was miserable from diarrhea he'd had for a couple of months from the a GI infection, and finally got dehydrated and had electrolyte imbalance from all the fluid loss. If his PCP had known about the snakes, could've educated him about stuff he didn't know about diseases they can transmit.

Hi Sunovabesh, Not sure how much I can add to the great responses of Phoenixgeoff and subbytch. I would ditto PG's input about being upfront in your profile, both about what you want and that you're not looking for a sugar daddy. I think you are so far ahead of many guys, younger or older, because you are thinking and articulating what you think, feel and want. I am sort of amazed at the number of guys I encounter who want one to be a mind reader, or expect others should just know what they want. When I place an ad or write a profile, I work pretty hard to give the reader a clear picture of what they're getting. I really want the same from another. Guys who don't have a detailed ad or profile, then refuse to have some back and forth exchange before getting together are a crap shoot. I know that can be an attempt to avoid guys who are just getting off on talking and have no intention of hooking, but once you get past that you could be on your way to cultivating some fb's. One of the things I think is good about being different is 'different' people seem more apt to question the status quo, and learn a lot by doing that. Not expecting one person to be everything helps me a lot. It seems to be a heteronormative idea that somehow there's one special somebody out there. I get pieces of my needs/desires met by all sorts of different people, and I work to make that reciprocal. I'm comfortable with who I am and I don't want to put expectations on others to be something other than who they are. That's why it's important to be self aware and know how to communicate. I tell people what I think and feel and look for, and I ask others to do the same. I kind of avoid guys who don't know how to do that. For me, finding connections is not about finding someone who'll conform to what I want, but finding someone who likes what I'm looking for. I find it's easier to do that in pieces. For instance, if I am just super horny and want cum in my hole, I'll go to a place that has a GH or a dark room. For other desires like friendship or visual appeal, I have a network of friends. I look for pieces to create the picture/puzzle I'm trying to construct vs one guy being the whole picture. I think it's awesome you're examining this stuff. Yay you!

Ok, went and had a great time... ready to go back. The play areas at the resort were kinda similar to a bathhouse. I got most of my sex just by leaving my drapes open and door ajar, then lying naked and face down, plenty of takers. (_O_)

It's not something I typically do to myself, but I like the idea of it. I like the attitude of a top who wants to make my hole wet and accessible. A lot of tops seem to like wet and sloppy and this can be part of the process of making their mark, but I understand not all tops are into it.

hey phukhole, got here this afternoon (_!_)

This is where I will be staying... have a room for 5 nights

made reservations for Palm Springs, looks like it will be fun.

I haven't adjusted to my age. I turned 60 in October and do not see myself as 'typical.' I'm not as horny as I used to be, so I think that helps. When I am horny, the feeling is just as intense (maybe more?) than it ever was. I don''t think the less frequency of the need/desire makes it easier for one to get what one wants. As a bottom cum slut, it's easier to get what I want because my only 'limit' is do you have a cock that you can fuck with and cum? If I am face down, visual doesn't apply. Tops have to look at who they fuck, so it is much more of a factor. Meaning, how we look as bottoms matters more. I.e., we're going to have more appeal the more appealing we make our selves. For me, I've always managed my weight and for most of the last 10 years sex has been very anonymous, meaning the top doesn't even see my face, just my back side. I'm honest about my age, so fewer people hit on my ads, but I get a lot of repeats from those who know me, so I'd cultivate fb's as a way to get what you want?

haha, yeah, this reminded me of a time I was driving down a street and a guy pulled up next to me and looked over at me, that's all he did, kind of a magical communication. I followed him, he pulled into a Burger King, went into the restroom. I followed and he locked the door behind me, pulled my pants down and fucked me, came and left.

The net and smart phones have definitely changed the cruising dynamic. Getting sex was different during the 80's, no doubt about it. I was living in Hampton Roads VA at the time (Virginia Beach, Norfolk...), home to the worlds largest navel base. There were lots of easy cruise places, but I remember one beach in particular where you could go pretty much any time and find anywhere from 5 to 30 guys cruising. And restroom sex was so common, there were several places you could go and get almost instant sex. There wasn't the buffer of space and electronics. And yes, the net does serve those looking for fantasy much better than cruising places do. I run into that a lot, guys will chat me up to the point of actually asking for my address and then disappear from the face of the earth. On the other hand, I like the component of being able to exchange fantasy and info with someone ahead of time, for me it's like foreplay and gets me even hornier, but I do want to follow through and actually do it vs just jack off to fantasy... which I find very frustrating.

As a cum hungry slut, I like the idea, butt have never experienced a true darkroom. I live in OR and go to Hawks BH in Portland, but I don't think their darkroom is much of a darkroom, more like a dimly lit closet (maybe 6"x5') it's small and only has a smallish padded platform. To me, it doesn't qualify as a "room" or "dark." I guess it can't be pitch black, but not light enough to see the outline of a persons body or features. Would like to find a real one, but the only other BH in Portland is Steam, and they don't have one at all.

It depends. I'm a cum slut and you don't get any cum from a toy. Butt I'm also a slut, so if the top is really into it, then it can be really hot. I have a fb who Ive played with for 2 years and he only plays safe. He's really careful, even wears gloves (which has a kink factor). He is really into opened and cum sloppy hole though. He loves it if my hole is cum filled. He often uses a toy with me to open and gape my hole. Recently he's been using a speculum and I've finally been getting his cum in me (he jacks it in after fucking me with a condom on). Bottom line for me is the energy of the top using the toy. Some tops manage to convey their lust through the toy and it becomes an extension of them, and that's HOT. Others cannot connect to the toy and it feels mechanical and I don't get into it. I use them on myself sometimes, but it doesn't cum close to being as pleasurable.

Not as a rule. For me rimming a Tops ass doesn't connect with my psyche of being a sub bottom. Not that I won't or haven't rimmed a fine ass (if it's clean), but not someone who identifies as "Top.". For me a mans ass is the hottest part of his anatomy, top or bottom, so ass is a real turn on for me. Butt it's a turn on for me to see as it thrusting up and down and around while fucking, there's a power there that is totally hot to me. I'm not exclusively sub, but can go there very easily it seems and part of my sub persona is being a hole to breed, i.e., I associate ass holes with breeding, so it just doesn't fit to treat a tops hole as a pleasure center to me. I'd actually be afraid of encouraging towards more... i.e., bottoming, which I don't wanna do.

lol

Ive had a few experiences with couples. I played with one couple in particular on several occasions and it was good. They were a mixed race couple (black and white) and had a nice place with a pool, hot tub and tv thet covered an entire wall. The white guy had the larger cock and only liked to get sucked, the black guy loved to fuck and also had a nice cock. The black guy was also fond of kissing. I'm a really picky kisser, not into having my face inhaled or lots of spit or frenzied tongue probing. I haven't found many guys who I enjoyed kissing, but this guy was an awesome kisser, we had great chemistry. Typically we'd start out in the hot tub and end up on a sofa in their theater with the white guy sitting legs spread while I went down on him and his partner would watch some and end up behind me and slide in doggie style. It was always nice and rhythmic sex... kinda miss them since I moved.

Not sure. SF isn't bad, I drove down to SF in June to meet up with a friend for a few days, but didn't do any sex while there. I drove down the coast, beautiful drive in the convertible, but too cold for that in the winter. About a 9 hour drive taking the inland interstate, so doable. Flying is pretty cheap, but staying in SF is pretty pricey. I'm guessing the sex clubs there are second to none? Seattle is a thought. I'm walking distance from the train station where I live, could be fun to do that. Why do you think Seattle would be busier than Pdx?

thanks for the input on input guys. First day off from my marathon work week... healthcare. 13 hour shifts for a week, but then I get a week off, so am wanting to use my weeks off more effectively.

Is it spring? My body seems to feel that way, because I am craving being bred, even more than usual. Even at work I find myself on my phone on break wanting it badly, wanting cock is never far away from my consciousness. I work in healthcare, 13 hour shifts, 3 on, 1 off, 3 on, then a week off. I don't have any time for sex when I am working, butt get every other week off, so lots of flexibility. I wanting to do something on my week off starting Friday, go someplace where I can get bred a lot and pissed into and used for pleasure. I go to Portland (closest city) to a bath house for a day, but it's not a huge city and the bath house can be hit or miss. The "dark room" is the size of a closet and not very dark. I don't care who breeds me, I just want cum and cock in my hole, so would love suggestions on good destinations for sex? Not rich, so and thinking some place closer vs farther from OR, places where airfare is cheap. Three thoughts are Las Vegas, Palm Springs and San Fransisco? Would appreciate ideas and input. Thanks

I saw this in another thread and like it. I'd have to say "bitch" as well, with some of the others thrown in? My qualifier is that I'm a total slut and do not care about size. I have taken some tiny cocks and I end up having the same feelings of adoration as for the guys with large cocks. I love a tops desire to breed and that is what spreads my legs almost unconsciously. "Bitch" works for me because I feel like a bitch in heat.

This is kinda fascinating. I'm a very sub bottom of a sort. I'm sub but not masochistic. My guess is it may be conditioning. As a kid I had a lot of bullies in my life. Kids seem to be intuitive and cruel at the same time, I seemed to have it written on me. As an adult, I got a 2nd degree black belt and pity the guy that tries to mug or abuse me in a way that triggers that childhood angst lol, they wouldn't know what hit them. I have a high threshold for pain, again conditioning, but I don't get off on it at all. On the other hand, I crave being used for pleasure and don't mind being 'degraded' if I see a top is turned on by it. The lines we draw are varied, it's interesting stuff.

I love the Bd part but not the Sm, no thrill from pain here, but love to be subjugated.

Good point, it should be qualified we're talking sti's here that are treated with antibiotics.

When I was younger and married I used to hook up on the DL, usually in restrooms. One guy became a regular and would wait for me at a particular restroom. He'd spit on his cock and slide under the stall wall and I'd sit on it and he'd breed me. One time he followed me from the mall where we hooked and found the office building where i worked. He made an appointment to see me, ostensibly to sell me something. I had no idea who it was until he showed up. He saw how my office was set up. He left a note on my car to meet him in the downstairs restroom when he drove by (he knew I could see all the cars that drove by from my corner office since he'd been there, it had floor to ceiling windows). Once I was with my wife and he walked past us in the mall, so he knew I was married. I was scared to death he was going to expose me, and he knew it and pretty much had a hole to fuck anytime he wanted, and he'd subtly hint he'd expose me if I ever said no. Looking back on it as I am now, it's really hot to me because I'm a slut now, but then I was conflicted and scared and he used it to his advantage.

LMAO. I never thought of this. I love PA's and wouldn't mind if one automatically came installed on all tops.